5 weeks pregnant!!!

[kns]

so excited that we got pregnant on the first cycle of insemination (same as last time) only 5 weeks and so nervous and want to stop it, i am being strong for partner trying not to show concern over every little twinge or trapped wind like this morning and a spot of blood.
last time we didnt realise she was pregnant until 8 weeks as she had implantation bleeding which was mistaken for a period, a week later she miscarried and was never seen by a doctor before or after was told it would be better to do it naturally rather than d&c but if could go back would of gone for d&c as seeing bits of the embyro on a sanitry pad and having to throw it in the bin was heart wrenching!
this time its different, we have moved and the doctor and midwife seem to be paying attention this time, at 5 weeks already seen midwife and doctor has already refered for a scan so should be in a few weeks.
how can i stop being so scared???
many thanks
Stacey

 

[heart tree]

Stacey, I wish I could tell you the fear goes away, but it doesn't. I lost my first baby at 10+5 weeks after seeing a heartbeat. It was devastating. I lost my second one at 6 weeks though things weren't going well from the very beginning. I had a D&C for both and am glad I did to be honest.

This time around, I'm just trying to take each day as it comes. I'm trying to remind myself that at this point things are out of my control for the most part. I'm obviously taking good care of myself, but I can't control what the fate of this baby might be. So I'm just trying to enjoy every moment of this pregnancy. Once you've experienced a loss, you lose the innocence of pregnancy. I'm trying to reclaim that as much as possible. I'm not going to freak out over every twinge I feel. I'm not going to freak out about my lack of symptoms (although today I may be starting to feel the first signs of nausea). I'm just going to try to relax as much as possible.

That all being said, there are going to be times when you are a nervous wreck. It's probably best for your partner if you don't show her how nervous you actually are. She needs positivity right now. She needs to believe that this baby is a keeper. Come to us with your fears. We'll support you. It will be too hard for her to carry your fear and her own. You sound like a wonderful partner and she is very lucky to have you. Congrats to you both from the bottom of my heart!

 

[kns]

thanks so much
yeah i haven't shown how nervous i am, trying encourage her to be positive which she is i can't wait for the 12 week mark1 just so i can breath!
this site has really gelped me put my mind at rest but also see how many people go through exactly the same thing and have the same fears.
thank you so much, just getting a little emotional.

 

[Jem88]

After having a mc at 9 weeks and also having to see the tiny baby & tiny placenta on a piece of toilet roll, it was horrible and then getting preg again but it then being a chemical, this time i was nervous and scared until i got past the chemical stage at 6 weeks and now i'm 8 weeks but i've had sickness since 6 and half weeks this time, i didnt the 1st so i'm positive its going to be okay, all i can say is try and take each day and week at a time and hopfully it will be okay