alicecooper
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I'm at my wits end with my DD. She's 7 years old and literally has not gone longer than a fortnight without wetting herself since she stopped wearing nappies at 2.5 years old.
It's insane, I've tried everything. I've even taken her to the doctor twice to check for urine infections or something and there is never any medical reason for it.
This is what I've tried :
1) generally telling her off for doing it
2) taking away toys/privileges
3) it sounds awful but I've even tried the whole routine of telling her that kids at school are going to bully her and call her smelly
4) ignored it and hoped it would stop on its own
5) bribery - offered treats if she would stop
6) sending her to the toilet every half an hour without fail (but I can never seem to keep this up for more than a couple of days, and when she's at school I can't monitor her anyway so it never works)
7) extreme praising when she hasn't wet herself (but then the next day she goes back to doing it!)
NOTHING FRIGGING WORKS.
At the moment we're on the "you don't get an advent calender chocolate if you wet yourself". So far she's had no advent calendar chocolates....as you can see this is not working either.
The frustrating thing is that she's not slow in any way. In fact she's very intelligent - she has even skipped up a year at school (she's supposed to be Year 2 but she's in a Year 3 class) because she is so good at reading, writing, and maths. She was speaking in full sentences from the age of 13 months and when she was 2 people always mistook her for being at least 4 because of her level of conversation.
And she doesn't (well, very rarely, maybe twice a year at the most and that's only if she gets cold from kicking her blankets off in the night) wet the bed, so it isn't as though she has bladder problems all the time, it's just during the day.
Now I'm pretty sure it's just sheer laziness. She gets engrossed in whatever she's doing and doesn't want to break off from it in order to go and use the toilet. Sometimes she'll be jiggling around and I tell her to go to the toilet, but because she's busy doing something, she'll swear blind she doesn't need to go. Until she reaches bursting point and then she runs like hell but doesn't make it to the loo on time.
I just don't know what to do, it's driving me insane. Every single day she comes home from school with her trousers reeking of urine. It's awful.
How can I crack this? It's doing my head in. My two sons aged 5 and 3 have no problems like this at all, yet Lydia is the eldest and in this particular issue she's acting like an infant!
*nuts wall*
any advice?
It's insane, I've tried everything. I've even taken her to the doctor twice to check for urine infections or something and there is never any medical reason for it.
This is what I've tried :
1) generally telling her off for doing it
2) taking away toys/privileges
3) it sounds awful but I've even tried the whole routine of telling her that kids at school are going to bully her and call her smelly
4) ignored it and hoped it would stop on its own
5) bribery - offered treats if she would stop
6) sending her to the toilet every half an hour without fail (but I can never seem to keep this up for more than a couple of days, and when she's at school I can't monitor her anyway so it never works)
7) extreme praising when she hasn't wet herself (but then the next day she goes back to doing it!)
NOTHING FRIGGING WORKS.
At the moment we're on the "you don't get an advent calender chocolate if you wet yourself". So far she's had no advent calendar chocolates....as you can see this is not working either.
The frustrating thing is that she's not slow in any way. In fact she's very intelligent - she has even skipped up a year at school (she's supposed to be Year 2 but she's in a Year 3 class) because she is so good at reading, writing, and maths. She was speaking in full sentences from the age of 13 months and when she was 2 people always mistook her for being at least 4 because of her level of conversation.
And she doesn't (well, very rarely, maybe twice a year at the most and that's only if she gets cold from kicking her blankets off in the night) wet the bed, so it isn't as though she has bladder problems all the time, it's just during the day.
Now I'm pretty sure it's just sheer laziness. She gets engrossed in whatever she's doing and doesn't want to break off from it in order to go and use the toilet. Sometimes she'll be jiggling around and I tell her to go to the toilet, but because she's busy doing something, she'll swear blind she doesn't need to go. Until she reaches bursting point and then she runs like hell but doesn't make it to the loo on time.
I just don't know what to do, it's driving me insane. Every single day she comes home from school with her trousers reeking of urine. It's awful.
How can I crack this? It's doing my head in. My two sons aged 5 and 3 have no problems like this at all, yet Lydia is the eldest and in this particular issue she's acting like an infant!
*nuts wall*
any advice?
I could've written this post myself 2 years ago. Well, I did! To many people, friends, family, forums, and no one had advice for us. We saw dr's, professionals, therapysts, phsychologists, specialists, etc. Only once I landed on the SpinaBifidaconnection.com forum did I figure out what was wrong with my daughter. She had an occult tethered cord. You can read all about her story in my signature. For a short summary though.... 
I hope you can find some solutions and advice. Oh, that reminds me. Have you had a look at the incontinence products on the market? A few weeks ago we discovered the "Dry like me" pantyliners designed especially for children. It works beautifully for my daughter. Maybe you can try something like that for yours?
