8 week old never wants to be put down help!

[LovemyBubx]

Don't get me wrong I love snuggles with my gorgeous boy but now its just getting too much.

I've tried putting him down to sleep when he's awake, just sleepy or in a deep sleep he will do the startle reflex after a couple mins & start screaming.

I've tried wrapping him up (baby brain can't think what its called now) he hates it he likes putting his hands up to his face got a scan pic of him doing it.

Tried sitting next to him with my hand on his chest/stroking his hand/hand he likes it & gets sleepy but it doesn't last once I move.

Tried bouncer & even car seat just to get half a hour to get stuff done.

In the end I just have to let him cry if I need to wash bottles or have a shower or I just grab those few minutes when he's quite happy just looking around.

I know a carrier would be a solution as his favourite position is lying on my chest but DS is very small (only just 7lbs now) so would need one of those wraps but haven't got the money right now.

Right now I desperately need the loo but just settled DS after he just cried cause I needed to get bottles done

 

[Countrygirl13]

I can sympathise. Its like as soon as they know you're not there, boom! Lots of screaming until they are picked up again. Swaddling didn't work for my LO either. She napped on me until she was several months old. Showers were taken in the middle of the night when she had her two to three hours of deep sleep around 2am. Your surestart centre/ health visitor may be able to give you details of the local sling library that you can borrow a sling from. Some mums go through a few until they find one their LO likes so friends of friends may have spares. Tiny babies seem to like slings more than most from my friends' experience.
Amazon sell them for around 30 and maybe gumtree or freegle or facebook will have something to get you started? All i'll say on the going to the loo thing is...its amazing what you can do when your baby is in a sling! Good luck!

 

[Countrygirl13]

Me again, youtube shows you how to make a sling out of a sheet. Something a friend of mine did and scoffed every time someone went and paid for a proper one.

 

[LovemyBubx]

Thankyou will check the video out - don't know if I could trust myself enough with that though! Great idea about the sling library thank you xx

 

[ElizabethK_]

My DD did the same too and still does at 12 weeks but fortunately not at the same extent. Now she's more interested in toys and stuff so we have a mobile on her cot that she will hapilly stare at for 10-15 minutes. Once that is over though, she wants mommy and only mommy. She sleeps for longer periods at night though, so I get up before she wakes up in the morning to shower and then i take advantage of those 10-15 minutes to cook, clean and such. She still likes to sleep on me during the day but we've managed to get her to sleep in the co-sleeper at night so I can get some shut eye too.

So it gets better! Be patient!

 

[Cattia]

My DS was like this. It was such hard work! I used to co-sleep with him a lot, which I vowed I would never do but he just wouldn't settle all night otherwise. The only way I managed was with a sling. If there is any way you can get hold of one then it would be soooo worth it, even if you have to sell some bits and pieces on ebay to raise the cash. Honestly, I would have gone insane without mine when ds was that age. I had a moby with him which was great but I gave it away. This time I got a cheaper version which is this one:

https://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/BABY-SLI...t=LH_DefaultDomain_3&var=&hash=item35bcd08f60

It works just as well, I recommend it.

 

[LovemyBubx]

I have to co sleep aswell wasn't planning on it! I was worried about getting a cheaper version but I'm def ordering one now I know its just the same as Moby thankyou xx

 

[MindUtopia]

Get yourself to a sling meet or find a second hand wrap to buy. Honestly, I bought my moby wrap brand new and it was still only 38 quid and worth every bit in the sanity it saved me. My daughter was pretty much worn in the wrap or held all the time for the first 2 months, even at night (we'd take terms staying up and holding her because she wouldn't be laid down at all). It was only after about 8 weeks that we could even lie her down in our bed (we bedshared) to sleep at night rather than holding her. Until about 4 months she was pretty much held or in the wrap all the time during the day until she was happy to spend some time on a play mat. The wrap really was a lifesaver. She was also on the small side, born at 37 weeks and was probably not even 7lbs at 8 weeks and we wore her from birth.

As for getting things done, if there was anything I absolutely couldn't do holding her, I waited til my husband came home. Do you have a partner around? Basically, he would have her in the morning before work and then he would take her as soon as he got home and have her all evening if necessary. This freed me up to shower, wash dishes, cook dinner, etc. while she slept on him between feeds. It really does get easier though as they get older, so just find a way to make it work for the next month and then reevaluate. It might mean that housework goes out the window for a month or two more until your LO is happy to be a bit more independent, but honestly, it really won't matter in the bigger picture of things if you miss a shower or don't get to wash up one day if you can't squeeze it in and it will get easier. Just hang in there in the meantime.

 

[LovemyBubx]

Thankyou my wrap is coming tomorrow!

My OH has been at work a a lot recently early morning to late at night then too exhausted to help at night.

So I'm basically on my own right now. I'm washing up as & when I need something atm urgh!

 

[Izzie74]

With my lo I out her in the pram and walked ... And walked and walked. She would drop off with the motion and when I got home stayed asleep for anything from ten minutes to an hour. It obviously didn't help me do chores as I was out, but just that she was sleeping made me feel better, plus fresh air and exercise and my bottom half has gone down a dress size. Chores can wait!

 

[Hippiemomlife]

My LO is still like this at 5 months. Haven't had a moments rest with him! I see mums who have time to clean up, workout, prepare meals, etc. and I'm just sitting here holding LO because he won't have it any other way. I have an Ergo carrier and a sling and I use both daily, but it is still difficult to get things done especially when I need to pick things up, do the laundry, put away dishes or clean litter boxes. My bf isn't much help because he gets frustrated when LO cries and he doesn't settle unless I'm holding him so I literally never get a break. It's hard but I know a lot of moms go through it and it will get better. He's been sleeping through the night more or less so once he's asleep I know I can get up and have a few hours to myself. Just stay positive and definitely use the carriers!!!!

 

[LovemyBubx]

DS loves going out in the pram but I'm on first floor so unless he's in the carseat (i know he cant be in it for long) I have to take him out.

Been using the wrap today its literally the best thing ever I know its only the first day but feel like I've got a freedom pass! My home is tidy its amazing

 

[Izzie74]

DS loves going out in the pram but I'm on first floor so unless he's in the carseat (i know he cant be in it for long) I have to take him out.

Been using the wrap today its literally the best thing ever I know its only the first day but feel like I've got a freedom pass! My home is tidy its amazing

I too am on the first floor. We still go out in the pram for walks at least once a day. I hate her being in the car seat for long periods. Can't believe how many people use it as their primary pram.