A Bit of Advice Needed Please

[LulaBug]

I'm in a bit of a pickle because since my car got burnt out, I've had to either rely on public transport to get about or ask a friend to give me a lift and I pay the petrol to him for doing so.

Yesterday we were talking about something coming back from Iceland and we got onto the subject of petrol and then he said that he felt he should be getting something on top of the petrol money I put in the car to cover my journey. I said to him that he basically wanted to make a profit from me for doing me a favour and I again reminded him that I paid the petrol, he wasn't doing it for free or having to fork out for petrol from his own pocket and he said yes!

So is he right? Should I be giving him something on top of the money for the petrol for doing it or is he pushing his luck with me?
He will drive 30-45 mins there and back to pick me up and drop me off home but he offers usually, I will sometimes ask, but he has offered.

For me personally, I'd be content just having the petrol money, I wouldn't be wanting or asking for anything more than that so I'm a bit surprised that he would be asking this of me, but I don't know if I'm the one in the wrong.

What do you think ladies??

 

[smileyfaces]

If he's offering anyway then no way should he expect to make a profit! I would not expect a single one of my friends to pay me for driving them round. He is not being left out of pocket in anyway and he is not being put out because he is offering to make the journey for you in the first place.

 

[dgirllamius]

occasionally my OHs family friend will ask me to drive him somewhere - all I ask is for diesel money and nothing else. sometimes he will take the car himself and all I ask is that he puts in 10€ or so of diesel which he is happy to do. I'd never say well "you need to give me 10€ towards insurance and 10€ towards wear and tear". he helps me keep the car in the road in addition by having insurance in his name so I'd never ask for more than diesel money.

 

[LulaBug]

I think what also adds to my annoyance at this is that I also paid for dinner on Monday and even bought some stuff to have for dinner last night with money I didn't really have and then because he was in a bad mood about his painting getting bodged up, he decided to take me home early so I just feel that it takes the piss if I'm honest. I took the stuff I bought though as I was not leaving it there when I'd just paid for it.

 

[suzib76]

Legally it is a huge no as he is technically touting for 'hire or reward' without a licence if he is making/to be making any money from the journey

If I had a friend who expected anything more than fuel money, which personally I would always offer but never take from anyone, then I wouldn't ask them for a lift again, not much of a friend if you ask me

 

[omfgski]

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[Eternal]

Well technically it costs him for that just fuel, tires, insurance, general wear and tear etc, all cost, I know a few people who really watch how many miles they put on a car for insurance reasons or because it's hire purchase and they are only allowed to do so many miles a year. So I guess it depends how long it has gone on for, if it were a week then fair enough but if it goes on for months than I can more see his point.

However it depends on the nature of your relationship, of there is lots of give and take then fine, just depends. Specifically depends on how much more he expects, does he work? Etc.

I have care shared and always give a decent amount to cover other expenses as well as fuel.

A favour to me isnt someone doing something out of pocket for you, it's someone helping you, he isn't charging as much as a taxi or you would just take a taxi, and it's costing you less than running your own car.