A few questions?

[Mummy2Angel.]

Sorry for butting in here....but in the light of the fact i may be facing this jounrey alone i'd love some advice

Did you become a single parent when pregnant or after LO was here?

My OH wont grow up and take responsibily, calls me names, tells me its HIS baby not mine! We dont need money we just need love! im sorry love wont pay the bills! he wont get a job because no one is offering him one, he doesnt quite understand he needs to put some effort in! its been like this for a while and i have really tried to work through it but its becoming to stressful and upseting for me now i honestly think id rather be alone, not take his baby away but not be with him iykwim? When i try and talk to him about it he walks away, hangs up the phone, ignores me acts like a child and im at breaking point of going back into a spiral of depression again, i think id be better a single parent with my lovely family for support, who also agree with me......what do you girls think ? x

 

[lou_w34]

If you really are that upset, and think you are becomming depressed, then yes, you may be better off alone

Though really, noone can make this decision for you, though im sure you no that

You never know, time apart could be what he needs to kick him in the backside and make him realise what he has lost and get his arse into gear! He may be feeling overwhelmed at the prospect of becomming a dad...

I became single when i was pregnant, and yes it is hard, but when your LO is here you forget about all the bad things, and just concentrate on what is good


xx

 

[bailey4eva]

I think you know what is for the best, for you. Time for you to think about YOURSELF for once, its allowed, sounds like you put up with enough in my opinion. Obviously I know its easier said than done. My OH left me last week, and wile it has been tough, im actually feeling some relief. So, it would get easier, and like lou said, it might give him the kick he needs. Hope it all works out for you in the end, just gota go thru the poo times to get to the better ones. xxx

 

[luckdragon]

we split up the moment i got a positive test. We had been together 3 years and were saving up for a mortgage, both working etc. Then i found out i was pregnant last may and he went mad telling me to 'go and sort it out' 'get rid of it' so i told him to do 1!!!
i've never been happier, got my little girl, got my own house, struggleing for money which is to be expected as i can't work like i used to but still

 

[julietz]

There is the saying - you cant be together for the sake of the child, you both have to be happy and if your not, then the children will suffer, you do whats best hun, i was a much happier person on my own with my twins and support from family than i would of been with their dad, but not everyone is the same, i moved on and now i am with the most wonderful man who addores my twins and is more of a father to them than their real father would ever be, and we are expecting our daughter soon, so dont feel depressed, its not the end its actualy the begining gl good always follows, be positive.

 

[Novbaby08]

I became a single mom when I was 5 weeks pregnant.
Not sure what to tell you bought your oh but he needs to grow up

 

[jaala]

I became single while I was pregnant with our baby #2. At about 3 months I guess.
I like my space now a lot better and am happier although it was hard at first.

 

[teal]

Huge hugs

I became single at 4 weeks pregnant. My ex broke up with me because I refused to have a termination. I've not seen him since before I found out I was pregnant (I told him over the phone) x

 

[Neferet]

If you're not happy being with him, you're better off without him IMO.

I've been a single mummy since the very beginning (I wasn't in a relationship when I got pregnant).