A Levels

[MBGibbs]

I am having a really tough time at the moment.
I had to leave my college after taking my AS exams due to moving house so I'm at a new college for my second year, where I literally know no one and people can't seem to stop staring at my bump.
It's making me feel very insecure, I'm spending break times in my car because I don't want to have to sit on my own..
Anyone else having a tough time at college?
Need some other mummies to be to talk to.
Xxx

 

[teenpregnant]

Hi I'm Katt,

I'm sorry you are going through that at the moment it cannot be easy going through a huge change like that being pregnant. I didn't go to college whilst pregnant however I went back to college last september when my son was 6 months old (19 months old this month) and people had all 'heard' about me having my son and would stare and talk behind my back, so I can understand how hard it is. I was ready to give up but found a group of girls that understood me and could accept that I was 'different' from them so I'm glad I stuck to it! Hope it gets better for you and message me if you want to talk

xx

 

[MummyMana]

You should be proud of your bump, your doing something a lot more meaningful with your life at the moment than they are you can tell them that

 

[MBGibbs]

I just keep telling myself that I'm there to educate myself for the sake of my baby and that keeps me going.
Thanks, I feel better xxx

 

[mayb_baby]

I was doing my A2s when I was pregnant with my LO, I will repeating my second year of uni pregnant with this one and I will be proud of my bump and so should you.

You are creating a beautiful little person, let them look as they have no idea how amazing this time is.

Try breaking the ice and talking to a few people who seem nice in your next class, I will be starting on the 23rd with all new people but as I'm only in 9 hours a week I just want a few people I can chat to.

 

[tinkerbelle93]

I was pregnant during the last bit of my final year but luckily my bump was small enough that I could keep it hidden and nobody knew! However, I did full-time work at mcd's once I'd left college and once I started to show I felt soo self-conscious. I look way younger than my age and I could just feel everyone staring at my bump, I hated it.

Like others have said though, you should be proud of it and the fact that you are going and getting an education and bettering yourself whilst pregnant. I hated going to work so much but I'm glad I did it because in the end it earned us money and got me maternity pay for 9 months... and now it's such a distance memory going in and feeling self-conscious, honestly you won't have a bump for much longer at all it will FLY by! Just remember why you're at college xx

 

[kiralouise93]

i just found out that im pregnant and will be due around 21st of may towards the end of the last term. i start im new course on the 16th and i have been worried about this how people are going to react my course is 2 years and i will get a hnd which is basiclly the first 2 years of a BaHons (university course) my fiance believes i can go back to do the second year as it is the last year and then i can go straight into employment. but im afraid of missing stepping stones in my childs life but if i do the last year i could have a better paid job give my child more opportunities maybe. can i go back and to the last year ??

 

[kiralouise93]

sorry didnt really know where to go to ask my question sorry if its the wrong thread

 

[skyesmom]

MBGibs, there's a horrible prejudice towards SAHM (stay-at-home-mothers), young mothers/parents, moms over 40, and even older women "interrupting" their careers to have their children. As if making new human beings and growing new persons was less important, magic, marvelous, demanding, responsible then chasing a career. as if it was something EASY. you know, someone's "just" a SAHM or so...

...the fact is, doing your A levels, passing your exams, partying your ass off, being the most popular girl in the school... is all a mere bullshit compared to having a baby.

you're 100 times braver then any other kid in that school, just for a mere fact of putting your foot in there while having a baby, and you should be aware of that. and infinitely more responsible then any of them, too. if i were you, i'd wear a printed t-shirt over my bump saying: "are you strong enough to accept this kind of responsibility?" or "can you give this kind of love?" and let them read it when they stare. (ok, might be a bit of an extreme move, but you get the point: just don't go hiding in your car!)

there's always gonna be people with prejudices, no matter what u do in your life. but there's always gonna be people who are going to understand you, love you and support you.

if you break the silence and treat them as your equals, they will treat you back the same.

and trust me, 99.99% of those kids in the corridors are insecure, self-conscious and are struggling with their own inner doubts, weaknesses and insecurity. they are all way more vulnerable then what they seem. the only difference is that your vulnerability is more evident and exposed then theirs.

some may mask it with aggression, over-confident attitude, brilliant marks in order impress everybody (and by that convince themselves they're worth of something)... some may bully others, or stare at your bump and gossip behind your back and point fingers... the truth is, people who truly love themselves and accept themselves are very few. and those are the last to point a finger to someone who's different for some reason.

so chin up... and go sit and eat where all students do. even if you sit alone, you are still giving a chance to someone to approach you.

 

[tinkerbelle93]

i just found out that im pregnant and will be due around 21st of may towards the end of the last term. i start im new course on the 16th and i have been worried about this how people are going to react my course is 2 years and i will get a hnd which is basiclly the first 2 years of a BaHons (university course) my fiance believes i can go back to do the second year as it is the last year and then i can go straight into employment. but im afraid of missing stepping stones in my childs life but if i do the last year i could have a better paid job give my child more opportunities maybe. can i go back and to the last year ??

So you're starting a 2-year uni course now and will be due just as the 1st year is ending? Were you wondering whether you could go back for the final year with having a baby to look after.. or whether you'd be able to take time out etc.?

You'd have no problems completing the 1st year whilst pregnant so that's not an issue. Since you are due May and term starts September (I think? Correct me if I'm wrong!?) you'd have a baby around 3/4 months old when your second year begins? You could go back straight away for a second year. Most nurserys will take babies from 2 months old and a lot of universities have nurserys or childcare on site, or a family member could babysit. However, you might not feel ready and it could put breastfeeding plans to a halt.

Have you spoken to your university about your situation? You may have the option to take a year out of the course then return the following September and pick up where you left off. I know people who have taken a year out of a course due to having a baby. Or they might be able to see if you could still complete it over 2 years but perhaps study a lot from home and get work sent there so you can look after baby at the same time? Speak to your university it's their job to help As for going back to work it differs from person to person. A lot of women happily go back full or part-time when their baby is 9 months but some women like to wait a bit longer. You'll know when you're ready and it's not up to your OH. xx