debsbaby
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I have three children with my ex-husband. They are 12 and 16 (girls) and 14 (boy). Here is my situation. I am expecting a baby, and I am not in a relationship with the father. He was my old Highschool/college sweetheart and we'd remained friends all through the years. This spring he came through my town and a one night stand situation resulted in me getting pregnant. He is married. I know...it is very complicated.
I've only revealed to my parents and adult family members who the father is (since I was waiting for him to tell his wife first. He didn't want it getting back to her through the grapevine).
I haven't told my children yet. They've met him once or twice, but since he doesn't live nearby, I am not sure how much he will want to be or be able to be involved with the baby. I need to tell my children who the father is. They'll eventually find out, but I'd like for them to know before baby is born.
Any suggestions in telling them? They know he is married since they know who he is, and that obviously creates an awful lot of moral questions once they learn he is the father. Their father left me for another woman, so we've had our own discussions in the past about not getting involved with married men. While I know I should not have had sex with him, it wasn't an affair or an attempt to sabotage his marriage. I guess I need some advice on telling them in a way that lets them know I wasn't out sleeping with a stranger, but I wasn't trying to be a home-wrecker either.
Anyone have any advice for me?
I've only revealed to my parents and adult family members who the father is (since I was waiting for him to tell his wife first. He didn't want it getting back to her through the grapevine).
I haven't told my children yet. They've met him once or twice, but since he doesn't live nearby, I am not sure how much he will want to be or be able to be involved with the baby. I need to tell my children who the father is. They'll eventually find out, but I'd like for them to know before baby is born.
Any suggestions in telling them? They know he is married since they know who he is, and that obviously creates an awful lot of moral questions once they learn he is the father. Their father left me for another woman, so we've had our own discussions in the past about not getting involved with married men. While I know I should not have had sex with him, it wasn't an affair or an attempt to sabotage his marriage. I guess I need some advice on telling them in a way that lets them know I wasn't out sleeping with a stranger, but I wasn't trying to be a home-wrecker either.
Anyone have any advice for me?