A long one, hugs and advice needed.

[firstprincess]

I discovered I was pregnant with my LO last February, on valentines day. I was in a very happy 4 year relationship and we were planning to get married.
After my 13 week scan my partner began to behave odd and after a row and lots of tears admitted he had slept with my sister - before she knew we were an item.

We split up, I was crushed, needed time to think and sort myself out. We remained as amicable as we could through my pregnancy... but inside I hated him, and wasnt sure that I could be civil when my daughter arrived so decided to exclude him when I gave birth and he has never seen her ... I know not very nice.

He has never tried to contact her or me.

I now think I may have made a big mistake, part of me wants him to see her daddy but another part of me is petrified. I still love him. And although I dont want to be in a relationship with him, I know I would be upset if he had moved on. I also need him financially.

Help! Advice and hugs needed. xx

 

[Laura2919]

Are you still pregnant with your daughter or is she here or are you pregnant with another child! Im super confused hehe!

Ahh see this is me! I would love to have nothing more to do with Chloe and Jaycee's dad but for them I have to! They deserve a dad in their life and he is a brilliant daddy to them! He makes an awful partner but the best daddy I could have for my girls!

Now financially he has to support his child whether or not he sees her or not.. Its law! So contact CSA!! the twins dad is brilliant. No hassle no problems he just hands over the money every month and we go about our business!

But I would allow him contact, for your daughter! She deserves it!

There is lots of us single mummies here who will give you lots advice and hugs huns

Hope you get it sorted!

 

[firstprincess]

My lo is just over seven months, I'm not expecting just forgot how to remove the ticker! x

 

[Laura2919]

Lol that explains it haha!

 

[WhiteGeisha]

Hey

Even if he doesn't want to be involved, you are still entitled to his help financially - get on to the CSA now!!! I've just been on there looking at my options (FOB told me if I want money I have to take him to court) and lets just say he hasn't got a place to hide! He earns well above £200 a week, doesn't have any outgoings, is in the Army and even if he decides to deny paternity to hold up the process if he is found to be the dad (which there is no doubt) he will also have to pay £200 for the test - you can't lose hun!

As for the rest - if you still have feelings for him then maybe even if he does want to see LO you should arrange for your mum or someone like a friend to be there whilst he spends time with your baby. After all if you are now thinking like this because of your feelings if he shows you no interest at all/as moved on/is not very nice to you and you get hurt even more by him you may turn around again and let him have no contact. I'm not saying you would do that but it could be a possibility.

I hate my ex and he has done nothing for baby - even my friends have bought more for this baby. I have given him so many chances but I am through with chasing him to be a dad and I know I can look my baby in the eyes when he/she is here and say "I tried" x