A wee moan about 1st tri and baby on brain

[Omi]

I know this is not a new concept and i know some of you have mentioned this before but im actually finding 2 things almost impossible to live with.
Firstly, I CANNOT THINK OF ANYTHING ELSE BUT BABY!!! my lovely OH pretty much knows by now that most things that will come out of my mouth right now will be baby related. I cannot seem to have more than 4 sec. on any other topic... argh!!!! its very frustrating because...

(secondly) im only in my 1st trimester so i have not told people yet, i feel like a recluse and yes, a fraud! And please forgive me, all of you who are suffering nausea etc. i know its debilitating and a terrrible thing to have to live through and i know i am blessed.. but i really have almost no signs im preggers. Taking into account the constant worry of miscarriage as well and, well you get a rant like this I also cannot stand stories of bleeding and miscarriage in week 12 as i want to know that right now (preferably yesterday everything is ok not the possibility of some disaster!!!! needless to say im a big fan of useless statistics like ' if you can see a heartbeat at 8 weeks you only have 1-2 % change of miscarriage'... i want more of those happy statistics and not doom and gloom! ( having said that if you do have any doubts etc this is a great place for advice... it must be my hormones- i seem to be all over the place... sorry

Thanks you all for letting me vent... i only have a week and a half to go until i get some tangible evidence.. fri 15th Feb i get my first scan ..i will be 9 weeks and a day.. cant wait til i meet our dumpling!

 

[The Catster]

Aw...your feelings are completely natural!!
I didn't have any sickness etc with my DD. And, I like you, couldn't really believe I was preggers until my scan.

What i do know is...if you are really really stressing so much that you want a scan, like tomorrow, you can ring your midwife or early pregnancy unit and they will give you a scan. They do this at our EPU for people who fear miscarriage (whether mental or physical).

But if you can hold out then try to coz then you wuill have a proper scan and not a rushed jobby.

x

 

[Always&4ever]

Good luck with the scan

 

[Lauren-x]

It's normal to worry about miscarriage. My pregnancy was unplanned but I am constantly worrying about miscarrying! I too fear the bleeding but 70% of pregnancies have bleeding that can mean nothing.

I had a little bit of bleeding yestday and this morning, it was hardly anything but when I went to the Early Pregnancy Unit in the Infirmary I expected the worst and everything was ok. I still can't believe I'm only 6 weeks pregnant when I thought I was 10 weeks on Friday! And I'm sure your DH will put up with all the baby talk, I bet he's just as excited as you . Good Luck with your scan!

 

[Omi]

Aw, thanks you guys!

i feel a lot better now.. its good to get things of your (slightly sore chest and knowing you're getting good advice from women who've been there really makes a difference. .. well, thats at leat one pregnancy symptom well and truly covered- feeling a bit hormonal, who me??? naaawww, lol!!

thanks again, you guys make me fell less alone in this strange drama that is my pregnancy

 

[Omi]

Good luck with the scan

Just noticed you're nearly there so i wanted to wish you an easy birth and a healthy baby. All the best!

 

[Vickie]

Completely normal to worry about miscarriage, I know that the first 3 months I constantly checked tissue (quite thoroughly) to make sure there was nothing on it And still find myself doing it sometimes even though I've made it to almost 16 weeks. I think it's just natural to worry once you become a mother. Good luck with your scan next week

 

[tj1980]

I totally get where your coming from. I really do. I found out two weeks ago and thats all i think about. My OH said to me that I'm actually enjoying getting bigger cos i keep asking him "is my tummy getting bigger from the side?"

I haven't told many people so when I'm at work I keep thinking "you dont know i'm pregnant!"

The statistics regarding pregnancies is also doing my head in.

Good luck for your scan. I've got to wait a month for my 1st appt with midwife...xx

 

[salmynka]

i think almost all of us have had these worries and even though i never planned to have a baby it's the only thing on my mind too!

i know what you mean about feeling like a fraud i've been in hiding and claiming post christmas detox etc.... anyway i bumped into one of my best friends and drinking buddy in tesco yesterday and she was looking really shifty to and neither of us could look at the other till we eventually realised we where both hiding the same thing and she's due 3 days after me! feels great now to be able to talk to someone about it all and to be in the same boat as each other

 

[salmynka]

I also cannot stand stories of bleeding and miscarriage in week 12 as i want to know that right now (preferably yesterday everything is ok not the possibility of some disaster!!!! needless to say im a big fan of useless statistics like ' if you can see a heartbeat at 8 weeks you only have 1-2 % change of miscarriage'... i want more of those happy statistics and not doom and gloom!

best idea ever by the way!!! Happy statistics