Hi ladies im new to this site so here goes.. diagnosed with pcos a yr ago and ttc#1 for 2 years with no luck. Been on metformin since march & had 3 perfect 31 day cycle since but im pretty regular anyway. This month i am 6 days late n just had a bfn :/ what is going on?! Feel like i cant do this any more its really getting me down now, its taking over my life in a big way. Feel like such a letdown and failure to my wonderful partner who wants this bfp as much as i do. I feel the next step is clomid. However being almost 21 will i be refused clomid at this time? And can my gp prescribe it or will i need to be referred again? Only a few months back i saw a gyn who was a complete b*tch. Told me i had plenty of time to worry about ttc. She just sighed and shook her head when i said my partner is 29 and although im still young we are more than ready financially and mentally to start our family. Especially as i have pcos and dont know how long it could take! The only advice she give me was to see a dietician n lose weight before she would consider anything. (Im 5ft 8 and size 14- abit overweight but hardly morbidly obese). She wouldnt even let me talk an spoke to me like i was a stupid child who had no idea. I ended up walking out heartbroken and i dont want to go through that ever again. So do you ladies have any advice out there for me i just feel lost with this whole infertility thing and at my wits end!
advice in clomid/age?
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That was one doctor. And a bad one.
Some Doctors treat patients as if they weren't providing service, but the truth is your Doctor is hired to help you in the same way an electrician or a hair stylist does, albeit with more serious consequences. Regardless, if you do not feel like you were treated properly or your questions were not answered fully or you had concerns that were ignored SPEAK UP. Call the hospital, ask to speak the business office and complain, in some cases if a Doctor did not help or perform their duties properly, the business office can help make amends by removing charges and connecting you with a second opinion. That Doctor is actually legally not allowed to steamroll over what you as the patient is asking for in regards to your own personal health. Seriously. I'll say it again because I feel super strongly about this, SPEAK UP. Your health is your health and whether you are 19 or 35 if you go to your Doctor and say I want help getting pregnant they need to help you. The Doctor has ZERO say over what you do with your body. They are just really smart and trained hired help, but still just hired help in the end.
Some Doctors treat patients as if they weren't providing service, but the truth is your Doctor is hired to help you in the same way an electrician or a hair stylist does, albeit with more serious consequences. Regardless, if you do not feel like you were treated properly or your questions were not answered fully or you had concerns that were ignored SPEAK UP. Call the hospital, ask to speak the business office and complain, in some cases if a Doctor did not help or perform their duties properly, the business office can help make amends by removing charges and connecting you with a second opinion. That Doctor is actually legally not allowed to steamroll over what you as the patient is asking for in regards to your own personal health. Seriously. I'll say it again because I feel super strongly about this, SPEAK UP. Your health is your health and whether you are 19 or 35 if you go to your Doctor and say I want help getting pregnant they need to help you. The Doctor has ZERO say over what you do with your body. They are just really smart and trained hired help, but still just hired help in the end.
Thankyou for your replies! Jess you are so right i could of kicked myself when i left her office for not speaking up! I guess i was just a little overwhelmed. And she actually made me FEEL like a child so in the end I just felt stupid for even being there at my age. Im going to go back to my gp and asked to be referred to a different gyn xx
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We've all been there! It's our instinct to trust them kind of blindly.
Good luck!!!
Good luck!!!
Wow I can completely relate. After seeing my MD since I was a little girl she knows me very well as well as my family. When I told her my concerns about my problems conceiving and she wrote me off as if I was silly to be thinking of starting a family so young. Her exact words were "Your young honey there’s nothing to worry about just relax I mean are you even ready" WELL CLEARLY IF I'M IN YOUR OFFICE! but I had to explain to her very nicely and sternly I said "Excuse me if I sound offended I've known you for years since I was a little girl but your job is not to ask me if I’m ready it’s to give me the medical attention and referral I am seeking, I may be 24 years old but I unlike most have a career. I’ve finished college and I worked my ass off to be as accomplished as I am today. I did what I was supposed to do went to college earned a degree established my career and found amazing man who did the same. I am intelligent and I was raised correctly and I don't need you to insult me I just need a referral." I Felt bad after wards because I kind of chewed her out but I had been TCC for 2 years and I was going to be dammed if I walked out of that office with anything less than a referral to a specialist or some kind of test lined up for next month. Come to find out I had stage 3-4 endo and my left tube was completely wrapped with my ovary and bowl and stuck to my uterus. My advice make her understand she is not your mother and her job is not to belittle you. Your age is not a factor maturity is and if you feel you are ready who’s to tell you are not?...
Jazzibabi thanks, that is very interesting. Im guessing you're in the US. Just goes to show that doctors can be so judgmental over age no matter where in the world you live! This gyn was so rude, she even emailed my gp the following week and told him she had given me an u/s that came back perfect! Which was a complete lie. When i go back for another referral, I guess I need to stand my ground more like you did. Maybe that will make him take notice that im serious about this xx
