advice needed please =[ im so lost.

[lch28]

thank you =] i felt like the nurses were so against formula feeding and were making it very clear that i am not to over feed him.

 

[x Michelle x]

a baby will not overfeed, they eat until full, might spit up some, then eat again when they want more Ignore the nurses, you are doing brill!
I only BF both of mine for a week each then switched to formula... my daughter is tiny, only in the 20th centile and my son is in the 99th centile. Some babies are big, some are small... How you feed them makes no difference as long as you feed them

 

[lch28]

thank you! everyone at the hospital made me feel awful that he wasnt latching. to this day he still doesnt. i pump when i can and give him some breast milk (which he eats, then screams because he wants his formula!) lol . he actually will push my boobs away with his hands and scream! he loves his formula, and it works for us. i dont see how there is something wrong with that. the minute i gave him formula he was like a different baby . very happy !

 

[x Michelle x]

thank you! everyone at the hospital made me feel awful that he wasnt latching. to this day he still doesnt. i pump when i can and give him some breast milk (which he eats, then screams because he wants his formula!) lol . he actually will push my boobs away with his hands and scream! he loves his formula, and it works for us. i dont see how there is something wrong with that. the minute i gave him formula he was like a different baby . very happy !

Exactly, you have to do what works for you and your LO! If BF works, then great, if FF works then great
My son never latched properly either, i tried for a week, a week of pain, blisters, bleeding nipples and a toddler who never got any time with me. We switched to formula and he ate better, then got reflux, got meds, got better and after a few weeks was a much happier little boy

 

[lch28]

my nipples are finally starting to look normal again! lol

 

[Snow Owl]

We're currently combi feeding but he gets days like today where he refuses to take the boob and so he's had an expressed bottle for lunch.

I will keep pumping now and trying him on the breast but I think it won't be long before we swap.

The feeling of 'terrible mother' stinks doesn't it? We've had latching problems since day 1 and when we did finally get him to latch he continued losing weight and I just don't feel enough for him

 

[x Michelle x]

Trust me, the feeling goes.. I felt awful when i stopped BF, but looking back now i know it was for the best. Yes i occasionally look back and wonder if i could've tried harder, stuck it out longer but then i see how happy they are and I'm at peace with my decision

 

[lch28]

i still feel guilty about it =\ he absolutely wont latch on anymore. he just gets angry.

 

[mommy0629]

i still feel guilty about it =\ he absolutely wont latch on anymore. he just gets angry.

That's how my ds was too, he just wouldn't even attempt to latch, we tried squirting some formula on my nipples, different holds etc., he just screamed and screamed to the point of his whole head turning red. As a first time mom I just couldn't cope with putting him through that and all I wanted to do was feed him so I asked for a bottle of formula and he was perfectly content.

 

[lch28]

^ my son does the same! he turns purple almost and i just cant bear to see him so upset. then he gets his formula and hes happy as can be. I wish i could just shake the guilt feeling though . I mean, he wants the formula. The formula makes him a happy baby. So why am i beating myself up?!?

 

[x Michelle x]

^ my son does the same! he turns purple almost and i just cant bear to see him so upset. then he gets his formula and hes happy as can be. I wish i could just shake the guilt feeling though . I mean, he wants the formula. The formula makes him a happy baby. So why am i beating myself up?!?

Because we are mums and its what we do have you seen the thread at the top of the page for BF guilt hun? There are lots of women going through this exact same thing x

 

[lch28]

yes hun i posted there the other day . thanks