deekey1016
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Hey everyone, I apologize ahead of time for the lengthy post. Anyways, me and my husband have just started TTC 2 months ago but we haven't told anyone in the family yet. We have had our first boy name picked out for YEARS. It was my grandfather's name and I've always loved it and it's the only name me and my husband have ever agreed on. Over a year ago, me, my sister, and SIL were discussing names and I honestly was trying to claim it when I mentioned it and felt a sigh of relief when she seemed uninterested in it.
On Easter, my brother and his wife announced they are expecting their 3rd child this September. I asked if they had any names in mind and my brother said "our name" if it's a boy. I honestly felt like I was kicked in the gut. After he said that my instant reaction was, "Noooo that's what we've wanted to use for so long" and him and his wife just kind of laughed it off and said what a coincidence and maybe our family will just have 2 babies with that name. My brother also joked that if I am pregnant with a boy before his wife gives birth than I can claim the name. That felt like another kick in the chest because we are trying, he just doesn't know it.
Now, I know I have no right to claim the name, especially with it being our grandfathers name. I'm not angry either because all of their kids have family names and I don't think they honestly "stole" it. I may sound ridiculous but when I imagine my family in the future, I ALWAYS see a boy with that name. I cannot imagine not using that name.
While I understand they are not aware of the baby's sex yet, nor am I pregnant, hypothetically if all these things fall into place and they have a boy with "my name" and one day (hopefully soon) I'm pregnant with a boy, do I just go ahead and stick with the name? A big part of me says HELL YES because the thought of any other boy name just devastates me. But I would HATE for my child to be compared to their child. My brother has always been "the golden child" in the entire family so I feel like it would happen.
Ughhhhhh. Yes I know I should chill out at least until they know the sex of their baby. But what would you do??
On Easter, my brother and his wife announced they are expecting their 3rd child this September. I asked if they had any names in mind and my brother said "our name" if it's a boy. I honestly felt like I was kicked in the gut. After he said that my instant reaction was, "Noooo that's what we've wanted to use for so long" and him and his wife just kind of laughed it off and said what a coincidence and maybe our family will just have 2 babies with that name. My brother also joked that if I am pregnant with a boy before his wife gives birth than I can claim the name. That felt like another kick in the chest because we are trying, he just doesn't know it.
Now, I know I have no right to claim the name, especially with it being our grandfathers name. I'm not angry either because all of their kids have family names and I don't think they honestly "stole" it. I may sound ridiculous but when I imagine my family in the future, I ALWAYS see a boy with that name. I cannot imagine not using that name.
While I understand they are not aware of the baby's sex yet, nor am I pregnant, hypothetically if all these things fall into place and they have a boy with "my name" and one day (hopefully soon) I'm pregnant with a boy, do I just go ahead and stick with the name? A big part of me says HELL YES because the thought of any other boy name just devastates me. But I would HATE for my child to be compared to their child. My brother has always been "the golden child" in the entire family so I feel like it would happen.
Ughhhhhh. Yes I know I should chill out at least until they know the sex of their baby. But what would you do??