Advice on putting baby to bed please...

[snailien]

Hi,

I apologise in advance if this gets a bit long....

I breastfeed and we have a bedside cot but LO co slept b4 we got the cot and she still comes in when she feeds and usually stays in. More often than not th OH goes in the spare room as he finds LO too noisy so quite often it's just me and her in bed with the bedside cot as extra space if we need it.

LO was going down fine in the evening giving me and OH a few hrs to ourselves but since she had her 2nd jabs (coincidence i'm sure) she won't go down, altho she seems tired and frustrated she just seems to want me and boob! OH is feeling a bit rejected, we're getting no time to ourselves and I don't know how to sort it.

She's also waking more at night... Is this a phase?? She's 16 weeks tomo.

 

[bathbabe]

4month regression.... Id say its a phase x

 

[Sam9kids]

yea its a phase and im sure it will pass soon. Even my 2yr old has phases of waking again.

Just keep doing everything as normal xxx

 

[snailien]

yea its a phase and im sure it will pass soon. Even my 2yr old has phases of waking again.

Just keep doing everything as normal xxx

Keep doing everything as normal? But that'd mean spending my whole evening up and down settling her... I've been bringing her downstairs after a few attempts as she'll always sleep whilst nursing.

 

[Sam9kids]

I mean as in the evening routine and putting her to bed.

If she doesnt settle and she needs to come down after a few attempts, then just bring her down. It will pass x

 

[snailien]

Any thoughts on the OH... it's normal to feel a bit rejected do you think? She just needs her mum! And he works so hard to support us but by the time he gets home she's tired and clingy.

 

[Sam9kids]

Any thoughts on the OH... it's normal to feel a bit rejected do you think? She just needs her mum! And he works so hard to support us but by the time he gets home she's tired and clingy.

Of course its normal. Me and my hubby had 5 kids between us when we met so it wasnt really an issue for us!! But for a first timer, its very normal.

Just try and make special time together, like a nice meal etc. And keep talking xx

 

[MrsGlitz]

We had this phase recently, lasted about 3 weeks in total and for the last couple of weeks everything's been a lot better. Like Sam said, stick with your normal bedtime routine though, LO will get it again eventually. We'd just started getting a lovely routine where DH and I would have a couple of hours together before going to bed but honestly it will pass. X