Advice?

[Becyboo__x]

I didnt know if this was the right place to ask for advice and stuff but ..


Wel basically me and my boyfriend were on and off for like 4 months not long at all i know but we both fel in love with each other and would do anything for each other but we had arguements alot and fell out. And lately iv been not feeling well throwing up with pregnancy and not feeling good and i dont like being around people when im ill and i asked him for some space and he said he said he understood but now hes saying he feels unwanted .. and he went and got drunk friday night and saturday and he wrote on this girls facebook wall ''thanks for everything been good tonight hope we do it again sometime'' it might not mean owt but it seems it does and the girl that he said thanks to and her mate both asked me if i was with tim or not it was abit weird i think there tryin to take him off me and its worked..

Im now single as hes ended it with me today obviously i was in bits but he just dont seem to care now when he was so excited about coming to the next scan and us being a family and sorting babys room out and going on holiday next year with the baby its all just dissapeared.. i feel so low and drained im scared hes going to just go off with one of these girls who i know from when i was at school and its just too soon as he said he loved me and he ment it i could tell , i know things could change y givin each other some space but will it be worth it i feel lost with out him and just empty

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[Ickle K G]

Im so sorry your feeling like this . Did anything happen wit him and this girl? Did he tell you why he had ended it? he might just be feeling a little scared and sometimes when people feel abit unwanted they act out. You should try and talk to him and ask why things have changed. Hope everything gets better soon x

 

[Becyboo__x]

He said he feelt unwanted basically n he wasnt happy .. n that one minute i want him next i dont but he means that as in when i want to see him and that :S

and i dont know about this girl i know her but he says there just friends but it dont look that way + i wont know if anything is going off or has and i asked him why its all changed and he just said prob be better off not together and that but i dont know if hes just angry or something but i can see it all goin worse for me not better

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[Ickle K G]

Did you ask him why he was saying thanks to her and wha he meant by lets do it again? Sorry if you feel im asking you too many questions. He may just be angry, just tell him you didn't mean to make him feel like he was unwanted, tell him your just hormonal and ill and you were afraid that you may of ended up arguing and you thought having space away from each other would prevent this not make it worse. Ask him if he will at least consider giving your relationship another try.

 

[xJG30]

If you wanna be with him, then tell him.. life's too short and if you don't, you may lose him.

he feels unwanted it might just be a case that he's angry and needs to hear that you do want him.. There might be nothing with this girl but in the worst case, she might of shown him some affection.

hope you sort it

 

[Becyboo__x]

Wel 1 of my so called good mates iv known since primary started seeing him when i first found out i was pregnant and soon as she found out i was she ended it .. n he went to her because she made him feel happy and stuff.. but its all talk they just doing it to make him totally fall out of love with me and not have anything to do with me
and thing is iv told him i want him i told him i wasnt ending it because i love him and want to work it out but he stil said sorry and everything isnt good enough so im stuck im going to give him some time and see what happens maybe he just needs space or something "/ but im affraid im going to lose him properley
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[Ickle K G]

When did u split up? Is the girl who he was seeing when you first found out yo were pregnant the same girl? Ask him to at least consider getting back together with you.

 

[Becyboo__x]

Only like this afternoon .. but it basically was dragin on from friday to now..
and its not the same girl no but its 1 of her mates n i know the girl .. even though he told me there only friends earlier it just doesnt seem that way i dont think hell get back with me straight away like after hes just ended it but leavin it will proberley make him not want me n stuff
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[Ickle K G]

So you split up before then? Has he mentioned how long he has been feeling unhappy? Hopefully he will realise what he has lost and time will make him realise this. Just make sure every now and then that he knows you still love him.

 

[Becyboo__x]

Weve split up several times but we always get back cause we know we both want to and everything .. its just basically cause im not a full on gf i dont want to be with my bf all the time i like to have my own space and he likes to be with me all the time its my fault about tht but i cant help it if i just need space if we lived together it would be so much different cause i would love that .. hopefully hell come to terms with things and want to sort it but ill have to wait and see and update this
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[Ickle K G]

i see what you mean everyone needs space sometimes, having no space apart would probably cause loads of arguements. I really hope things get sorted x