Advice

[heva510]

Hi all not sure how to explain how I feel but was wondering if anyone else had felt like this,I've passed my milestone when I lost twins but it's doesn't seem to have sank in yet even though I've seen baby on u/s and heard heartbeat or maybe I'm just distancing myself from pregnancy just doesn't seem real ATM if anyone understands what I mean, I'm still worrying that something will go wrong and just seems pretty down ATM Heather x

 

[fluffyblue]

hiya firstly congrats on reaching that milestone.

I think every woman on the PAL would totally agree with the way your feeling, milestones are continious after you have had losses. I certainly felt i'd just reached one and then another came up, even now at 36 weeks i still feel like the next milestone is birth !!

It is hard to relax when you have suffered losses and no amount of advice is going to make that any easier all I can say is keep jotting down the way you feel on here and listen to similar stories and realise you are not alone, that really helped me xxxx

 

[heva510]

Thank u Hun x just today I feel really lost and lonely x x

 

[fluffyblue]

U will for a while as generally other people dont seem to understand the pain of early loss, my hubby was great to an extent but then I got fed up of him groaning when I was crying or feeling sad.

Just realise you are NOT alone xxx

 

[Lawa]

Hun I know exactly how you feel i have had 3 scans now but still don't feel pregnant beanie heartbeat is their and the professor I am under seems completely happy but I am so tentative about it all.

 

[Mummy2Angel.]

I think we all feel like that hun i passed the stage when we lost max....and still i didnt want to let myself conect with this pregnancy and didnt until i was probably about 20 weeks...thats when i had to let myself believe that i might actually get a baby at the end of this , as time passes it should be easier hun x

 

[secretbaby]

So very sorry for the loss of your twins (((hugs)))

I can't add much more the above - I do think though I thought up to my milestone and not passed it! I am now 13 weeks past the stage I had pprom in my last pregnancy and 7 weeks past the gestation where my son was born (and died). I have relaxed a little but until baby is here safely I won't relax properly. When I got past 27 weeks I felt a bit lost, everything had been concerntrated (in my mind) on getting to 24 weeks without PPROM then to 27 weeks without PPROM I daren't not think further on.

I cope by taking it just one day at a time.

 

[heva510]

thank you all for your replies i'm trying to take it one day at a time but somedays are worse than others xmas was mixed emotions as i was sad for my loss but then happy to see kids excited x

 

[#1onway]

Its hard work and i do think we distance ourselves as protection, i certainly have. Even now i have moments where i still dont quite believe that everything will be ok, i think (hope) this is normal ha x