advise about birthday party?!!

[rose.wombwell]

hi guys,
just wondered if i could get some opinions... its my LO 2nd bday in soon and i'll be throwing a little party. his dad hasnt seen him or bothered to get in contact for 5 weeks at the moment, if he does bother he goes to his mums where he see's him for 1 day a month. hes very rude and my friends, family and myself all hate him,
he never turned up to LO birthday last year, so is it unreasonable for me not to invite him!?
im thinking its just going to make a day which is ment to be happy full of negative tension... i would never stop him from seeing him, but i just dont want to be the one who contacts him and chases him to bother on LO bday...
and if he does bother getting in touch (which is unlikley as ive heard from a friend his phone is broke and he doesnt even have my number!?) he can surely come at a different time in the day, onve the party is over.



xxx

 

[JA1988]

Just leave him to it. I personally would just let him know that as it is lo's bday he is obviously welcome to visit but give him a set time or something (can be before or after the party if you don't want him there for the party) and then the ball is in his court. Will any of his family be visiting lo on his bday?

 

[mkm1083]

I don't blame you for not wanting him there and personally I don't see a problem with you not inviting him. You could offer for him to take LO for a special day the day before or the day after. You don't have to deal with him and it extends the celebrations for your LO.

 

[Laura2919]

I wouldnt personally invite him.

 

[rose.wombwell]

yeh i dont think i will invite him! then it will just lead to more dissapointments as he'll likley to late or just not turn up anyways,
i spose if he wants to see him he'll have to pull hisfinger out and call me...

and no i havnt invited any of his family as of yet, think i may just keep the party to my close family and freinds and if his family want to see him they can visit at a different time..
it hard making decsions like this sometimes, i always have to really think about it becasue i dont want to be unreasonable,
thankyou for the replys x x x