Affraid of physcial affects of pregnancy? (please do not judge)

[collettejs]

Hi Ladies. Before I start I just want to say I am not shallow or nor am I scared I won’t look good in a bikini as I don’t even wear one now.

However, am I the only person that is petrified of what pregnancy will do to me physically and stretch marks?

I already have body issues and a few years ago lost a few kilos just for my self to feel better. I always have to watch what I eat and do regular exercise otherwise I do put on weight easily. My OH knows about what issues I have as I can sometimes suffer depression due to my personal issues and he knows I am afraid of what will happen throughout my pregnancy. But I don’t think he gets just how afraid I REALLY am.

I know there are ladies that do all the right things (and some that don’t) but still accumulate a lot of weight during pregnancy. I have managed to not put on any weight thus far (9w3d) but that is not without effort.

I might just ad that I know what a privelege it is to be having a bubba as we have been trying for 2.5yrs and were heart broken to get a BFN every month, finally got our BFP thanks to IVF (m/c first cycle and now 9w3d with 2nd attempt).

Anyone else out there that feels the same?

H&H 9 mths to all.

 

[luckybreak]

my body went "all fun house" on me a while back, and I am glad I got pregnant now because I wanted to lose the weight and I was afraid I was going to get pregnant then gain it all back...You gotta eat healthy for the baby but that does not mean junk and if you are not on any risk for M/C proper pregnant exersice should help you..I heard for stretch marks drinking lots of water and using lotion on your tummy will help to avoid stretch marks, talk to your doc about nutrition they want you to eat healthy and not gain crazy weight just healthy baby weight. Good luck!

 

[emdrschk]

I worried my first time, too. I don't think it's bad to be concerned. Then I had the baby and I didn't care what I looked like for about 3 months! Ha! Also, since this is your first, your body bounces back really quickly. Stay healthy and drink a lot of water, you will always be beautiful! Congrats on your little one!

 

[steph.]

I'm a little concerned to be honest. I have gone from 55kg to 64kg so far and there are still 15 weeks to go. My sister popped back quite quikcly after her LO was born so I'm hoping it will be the same for me. And I'v been rubbing myself with cocoa butter and pure coconut oil at every opportunity to try to avoid stretch marks, eventhough I've read reports that they do nothing at all. Doesnt hurt to try!

I know a healthy baby would be worth it all ( went through a mc is March), but feeling good about my own body at the end of it would be a bonus

 

[Mel3432]

My sister told me a few days ago to say goodbye to my feet because I won't be seeing them for a while. Now I'm always looking down at my feet
But the way I see it, I can live without seeing my feet if I get to look at tiny little baby feet all I want!

 

[smileygurl85]

A few months ago I finally managed to lose all 60 lbs that were thanks to bc bloating me up like a whale. Those same 60lbs which I spent 5 years working on losing the 'healthful' way before ever going on bc in the first place... I'd say I'm pretty nervous about this whole "gaining 25-35 lbs' thing.

But, I know it's for my jellybean and not for me. And I know that after the pregnancy with diet and exercise that I will be able to get my body back more or less (at least I'm trying to be positive about the chances of that happening.)

So - my hips will never be quite the same size again - but it's a 'battle-scar' that I'll be proud to have (after pushing a watermelon out... lol!)

Worried - a little. Upset about it - not at all.

 

[pixeldust]

Yes, your body will change. Very few women get away with looking like they've never had a baby at all. With my son, I gained about 30kg, got stretchmarks ALL over my body (and I mean all over, breasts, inner thighs, butt as well as stomach) and didn't manage to shift the weight for 4 years after he was born. Some people get away with only having their hips widen and gain a few kilos which they lose easily. There isn't an easy way to predict if you'll be like that, or more like me.

It's realistic to expect changes, but the important thing I took away from my first pregnancy is DON'T expect the weight to all fall off afterwards, and use that as an excuse to be lazy during pregnancy and to eat terribly. It's not necessarily going to fall off, it didn't with me! This time around I am limiting my treats, walking every day (and at least 10km on the weekends in one go) and trying to take vitamins which help curb certain cravings.

Also, check out this blog for some real pictures of women before and after babies

https://theshapeofamother.com/blog/

 

[luckybreak]

Yes, your body will change. Very few women get away with looking like they've never had a baby at all. With my son, I gained about 30kg, got stretchmarks ALL over my body (and I mean all over, breasts, inner thighs, butt as well as stomach) and didn't manage to shift the weight for 4 years after he was born. Some people get away with only having their hips widen and gain a few kilos which they lose easily. There isn't an easy way to predict if you'll be like that, or more like me.

It's realistic to expect changes, but the important thing I took away from my first pregnancy is DON'T expect the weight to all fall off afterwards, and use that as an excuse to be lazy during pregnancy and to eat terribly. It's not necessarily going to fall off, it didn't with me! This time around I am limiting my treats, walking every day (and at least 10km on the weekends in one go) and trying to take vitamins which help curb certain cravings.

Also, check out this blog for some real pictures of women before and after babies

https://theshapeofamother.com/blog/

Pixeldust lol I think you just freaked out our Original Poster haha, thanks for the blog that was wonderful to read!!

 

[Torontogal]

I think that we all feel some degrees of anxiety about it if we are honest with ourselves. The only thing to do is eat square healthy meals - don't diet but don't use pregnancy as an excuse to eat lots of empty calories either and hopefully the weight will be just the recommended amount. If it's really bothering you perhaps your Dr. or the people at the fertility clinic that helped you can help refer to a dietician who can help with guidelines which might set your mind at ease a bit?
Congrats BTW, and happy & healthy pregnancy!

 

[pixeldust]

Yes, your body will change. Very few women get away with looking like they've never had a baby at all. With my son, I gained about 30kg, got stretchmarks ALL over my body (and I mean all over, breasts, inner thighs, butt as well as stomach) and didn't manage to shift the weight for 4 years after he was born. Some people get away with only having their hips widen and gain a few kilos which they lose easily. There isn't an easy way to predict if you'll be like that, or more like me.

It's realistic to expect changes, but the important thing I took away from my first pregnancy is DON'T expect the weight to all fall off afterwards, and use that as an excuse to be lazy during pregnancy and to eat terribly. It's not necessarily going to fall off, it didn't with me! This time around I am limiting my treats, walking every day (and at least 10km on the weekends in one go) and trying to take vitamins which help curb certain cravings.

Also, check out this blog for some real pictures of women before and after babies

https://theshapeofamother.com/blog/

Pixeldust lol I think you just freaked out our Original Poster haha, thanks for the blog that was wonderful to read!!

Heh, not my intention... but I'd hate to see anyone else go through what I went through, which was pure naivety about the effects of pregnancy. I could have done so much more to lessen them if I'd had the tools and information I have now

 

[Mon_n_john]

Your body will change and you will gain weight but the weight can come off. This is part of the sacrifice involved in becoming a mother. I wouldn't trade it for the world.

 

[LilianA]

I am very scared of the weight gain. with my first I gained 80 lbs!! before getting pregnant I used to eat a lot and yes gain a few lbs but then i would diet and get rid of them I had never gained a lot or was overweight...sooo I just had it in the back of my mind that It won't be that bad I can eat and then fix it later!! boy was I wrong..I worked so hard for a year and a half to get it off and my body will never look the same again even after getting to my original weight.
with my second, I wanted to watch out and not gain as much. towards the last couple months I was so hungry I just wouldn't get full!! so at the end I gained 50 lbs and worked hard for a year to get it all off and then some
this time I am praying and hoping not to gain more than the recommended 25-30 lbs..because you basically lose around 20lbs in the first two weeks after delivery so 5-10 extra lbs I think would be ok to lose instead of 30-50 LBS OF FAT!!
the thing is, if you just gain the recommended weight you can gain your figure back in time with out much damage..maybe a couple stretch marks on the belly but gaining 50-80 will make you hate yourself naked even after loosing it all.

 

[jenp86]

LOL I'm terrified!! I loove my pre-preggo body, even love my preggo body... not too sure if I'm gonna love my post-preggo body....

I'm really petite and thin, and (sorry don't mean to offend anyone) but have never had a problem with weight. So yea it's a little scary not knowing what to expect afterwards, just gonna have to take it day by day and worry about it when the time comes I guess.

Congratulations!!

 

[bebehope]

Oh dont worry!! When you have your baby in your arms you will never thing again about other things!! I wish you the best!

 

[MummyOfSeven]

Ladies!! At the end of the day, our bodies will never be the same! But they will be softer and and they will be an exhibition of where our beautiful babies come from.

*And if we still feel crap there's always magic knickers for the bulges and fake tan to hide the stretchmarks!*

 

[LittleBoSheep]

Wow, I've had stretch marks since "becoming a woman" so a little more won't hurt ;-D

and I can understand the fear of physical changes, I have a heart disorder and hope I don't die during labor or something crazy, or that my child has the same congenital defect that I do!

 

[Kita]

Im more afraid of how my boobs will look after ! I really like my boobs and bigger darker nipples worry me. But it is what it is. I am also afraid of weight gain but so far I have been ok. A few months before my BFP I had gall stones and had to have my gallbladder removed. In the process of all of that I basically was starving myself and lost almost 20lbs. Gained a little back in the weeks following my MC and then got pregnant again right away. When MS kicked in, my body was pretty much back in starvation mode because everything made me sick and I lost another 2-3 lbs. Thats where I am at now, 2-3 lbs less than pre pregnancy and I love my body. I hope to just be bump and boobs but I know myself and I know that I yo-yo back and forth between being ok and being on the chunkier side. Again, it is what it is and I wouldn't change a thing so long as my baby is happy and healthy

 

[lizzy05]

this is my third pregnancy and so far have bounced back in shape with my last two by simply eating healthy during pregnancy (absolutely no junk food) and breast feeding i hope to bounce back with this one too ...yet i did get stretch marks but atleast look good with clothes on :/ first baby weighed 6 pounds second was 8.12 and well see with this one

 

[modo]

I was obese when pregnant with Bobby and was basically treated like crap by medical professionals. I vowed to lose weight before I got pregnant again to avoid this happening again but with a newborn this proved really hard. I finally joined weight watchers in January and have lost 12kg when I found out I was pregnant again. I guess I'm grateful that I am not obese anymore and just classified as overweight.

There are big differences between my eating habits now and those of two years ago so I am hoping I should not get too bad. I am actually losing weight right now as my DH was in hospital till monday and I ate badly then. Now that I am eating healthily again I have lost all the weight I gained and a bit more.

 

[KatyW]

I think a lot of us feel like you do, and I wouldn't feel bad about it. It's hard to gain weight, when you've spent your adulthood trying to be fit/muscular/in shape. I'm trying to remind myself why I'm gaining weight, and thinking about next year, after the baby is born, when I can get back into my regular exercise routines (and also for the time when healthy food tastes good to me )