After 7Wk Miscarriage, still getting problems

[Pan]

Hi,
This is my first time on a site like this.. My girlfriend had a miscarriage 3 weeks ago: twins at 7 weeks. We were both devastated but it hit her much harder and she still feels awful sometimes even now.
At the time, because it was unplanned and she didn't want people to find out, she refused to see the doctor, even when she was fainting (at one point, 7 times in 10 minutes) Now she's feeling bad again: she's got a fever, cramps, dizziness and is finding it really difficult to move.
What should I do? I'm worried that she might have an infection because she never had a D&C but I know she'll refuse to go to the doctor whatever I say..

 

[Rumpskin]

Firstly, I am so so very sorry for your loss.

Please get your girlfriend to go to A&E/doctors if you are in UK asap. She must get checked out as she may have an infection.

My thoughts are with you both.

 

[NickyT75]

She needs to see a doctor ASAP! there is no two ways about it!

Im not trying to scare you but if she has an infection it could be life threatening, get her to A&E straight away hun, it is better to be safe than sorry x

 

[NickyT75]

Im sorry if my last post appeared harsh hun I know how awful you must feel right now but I cannot stress how important it is that your girlfriend gets checked over.

So sorry you are both having to go through this x

 

[SianMA]

So sorry for your loss. Your girlfriend really needs to get some medical attention quickly, an infection could put her life and future fertility at risk

I know that I felt like talking to anyone about my miscarriage was the last thing I wanted to do. I was in work when it started and just wanted to escape and not speak to anyone, I almost felt like if I could avoid telling anyone it just might go away, that I wouldn't be miscarrying and everything would be fine.

Speaking to the doctors and nurses helped, even if I didn't really want to hear what they had to say or didnt like what they told me.

Just reassure your girlfriend that there was nothing she or anyone else could have done to prevent the miscarriage but that getting some help now may be the difference between a successful recovery and more heartbreak in future.

I hope you can both recover quickly.

 

[Pan]

Thanks to everyone. Dw about being harsh, it's what I've been thinking and it's in a way good to hear that someone agrees with me.

I'm going to do my best to persuade her tonight, but I'm not hopeful.. She's very stubborn about getting help.. Thanks Sian, it might persuade her to know that it could affect our chances later..

I'll keep you posted and thanks again

 

[NickyT75]

Good luck hun, it's for the best even if she doesn't see it right now x

 

[SianMA]

Good luck and to you both

 

[Pan]

OK update:
Good news is that she's feeling and looking much better now she's had a shower and some food. She still won't go to the doctor's, but I've managed to get her to promise that if she feels faint again then she will let me take her.

I'm going to keep mentioning it and hopefully I'll be able to change her mind!

 

[charliesmom]

Does she realize that if she's having an infection it would decrease the chances of her having a healthy birth in the future???

 

[cleckner04]

I am sorry but I am a little disturbed by this thread. A fever and fainting? Bad, bad signs. I was told if I even had the hint of high temperature to come into the hospital immediately as it could be an infection. If she is so devestated by the miscarriage than perhaps she should take the initiative to get herself some medical care so she can heal properly without damage? I agree with Charliesmom that this could hurt her chances of a healthy baby in the future. I wish you two good luck.

 

[Angeldust]

So sorry on your loss , I have experianced miscarraige i lost twins in feb this year
and your partner needs to go to her gp or emergancy room at hospital
it could well be that your partner never passed all the remains and there could be some placenta tissue left behind which can cause water infections , blood in urine,
high temp, nauser, and if left untreated can cause many other problems if left untreated can be life threatn
and could leave her to suffer from infertility

If your partner wont go to her gp then you bring the gp to her

Good luck xx