After m/c, ever feel like just running away from it all?

[jerseyshoregirl]

Just wondering if anyone else has felt the way I do right now.

I had a natural m/c almost two weeks ago. Unfortunately I am still bleeding (constant reminder of what happened) and am coming up with BFPs.

This week I am on vacation for a family vacation, and as much as I love my SO and family, all I want to do is run away from everyone and everything and be by myself.

Has anyone else just wanted to be "on an island" after their m/c?

I feel selfish for feeling this way, but do not know what to do to quell this urge without hurting anyone's feelings...especially SO's.

JM

 

[Alexas Mommy]

so sorry for your loss i can only imagine how you feel.

 

[Mynxie]

You're not alone huni, I felt like that, especially after my second MC - I found it hard even being with DH sometimes, just wanted to lock myself away (DH felt the same) sorry to learn of your loss huni xx

 

[**angel**]

ur not alone hun and ur defo not selfish...it took me 3 months to get over our loss and i still am cut up about it alot now (april 07) i couldnt talk to my OH and im surprised he put up with me......

Deal with it in the way u feel is best and if u want to talk about it there r plent of people on here who will be willing to listen xxxxx xxxxxxx

 

[tansey]

Sorry for your loss. You are not the only one who feels like this. It is an awful thing to go through and unfortunately it takes a long time to get over and in the mean time we go through a whole host of emotions.
I hope you're ok. xx

 

[tillymum]

I felt the same after my MC and even cancelled a trip to Ireland. I just wanted to lock myself in a room. It does get better honey, just take your time to deal with things when you are ready.

 

[Logiebear]

After my m/c I spent about 2 weeks not speaking to anyone outside my house, I couldn't bare it. I only jusy managed to speak to my hubby and kids and I felt sick everytime some one asked me how I was after that! I hated talking to people and I still haven't told everyone what happened so I know what you mean. Take time on your own if you need to hun

 

[Lazy Leo]

Hey hun, a lot of the time, especially when I was bleeding I just wanted to be on my own. It's perfectly normal hun. People just want to help but sometimes you just need time to yourself.

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

i felt the same after my first m/c i hid from everyone i didnt even wanna go to my own wedding because of it... but iv had 4 m/c now and over time it does get easier.. you learn to deal with it.
constant reminders dnt help i no that iv had tests going on for nearly 2 months...

 

[millymolly]

I too felt very similar to you, I shut myself away in my bedroom for a week and didn't want to go out of the house for another week. My DH was very supportive but hurting too, we had time together but I also needed to be on my own at times to cope with that empty feeling. I felt that I was in a 'bubble' and life was carrying on as normal for everyone else, I couldn't cope because it felt as if my whole world had turned upside down! As soon as I had my positive HPT, I couldn't help but imagine what the forthcoming eight months were going to be like, as well as life in the future with a baby. All those dreams and hopes and events you are looking forward to can come crashing down when you have that scan giving you the devastating news that your LO has died (Sorry you were on your own..it must have been awful)

Eventually, the sadness, pain and heartache does ease but you will never forget ... you just have to give yourself time to grieve (when you feel you are ready, it could help remembering your baby somehow, a tree, piece of jewellery, ornament etc)

Take care
x

 

[todteach]

After my miscarriage, I had a hard time talking to anyone. My family, friends and coworkers were constantly calling the house; my husband wouldn't let them through until I was ready. I had my husband call my boss to let her know that I wouldn't be in for a while. Seems a little selfish, but I just didn't want to go through the whole twenty questions with them all. I also felt like I had failed, and let everyone down; my nieces and nephews were so excited for a little cousin, and I had started to show at seven weeks b/c of my small frame. After a few days I found myself calling back those who are important to me. But yes, I really did want to be alone for a while.

I just need you to know that we all care about you here; if you need to talk feel free.

I'm sure that your family and friends are trying to be supportive, some of them might not know how. Let them give you tons of hugs, when you're ready for them.

It's really hard, you're going through such a difficult grieving period. We've all been through the same type of loss. I lost my angel at three months.

Let yourself grieve you loss in whatever way feels right to you. Take care.

 

[honeybunch2k7]

I like to fantasize abt running away from it all from time to time.

I'm tired of everyone and everything moving on but me. I just want to get away from it all.