after talking with DH i'm sure I'm going to need this section

[MissFox]

Friday morning my husband had a sad look on his face and I asked him what was up. Long story short he told me that he thinks the spark is gone and that we fight all the time and that things have never been "getting better" and it has been rough patch after rough patch. I have hardly been able to talk to him since but this morning when he brought DD back (he took her over night as I'm no taking this well at all) we tried to talk a bit and his story isn't changing.
He keeps saying he needs time to get his head straight. He told me he never needed meds for his mental health until we got together. And while he isn't sure what he wants to do yet he doesn't feel like our relationship is going to get better.
We were supposed to build a house in a few months. Things were reall supposed to get better. Now I'm straddled with the shitty credit (used to be perfect) and nothing else of my old life left. I have my daughter and bills I can't pay. I was just written off work on short term disability so who knows how things will work out but I have to find a place to live. I have a cabin in the woods in the middle of nowhere i can stay at but i don't want to with my toddler and (in the next couple months) newborn.

Sorry for the novel.

 

[Shezza84uk]

Have you suggested counselling? Maybe that would be a great starting point before deciding to separate, and if you have tried that and all has failed you need to discuss spousal and child support until you are back on your feet xx

 

[MissFox]

we've done counsiling but have only tried individual as there isn't any place in the county we live that takes our insurance for couples counsiling.
I'm the primary income earner except for right now my self employment isn't going so good and I'm now on short term disability. HE doesn't make much money.
I'm gonig to go get a bunch of stuff and go stay in the cabin. It is close to my moms house and she is going to help me until things can be sorted further.

 

[LastBabyforMe]

I am very sorry to hear what you are going through. It seems your husband is going through some heavy emotional setback and is having a hard time dealing. I am glad you have a game plan for your daughter and that you still have some resources to take you through this time.

Wishing you lots of positive vibes as you go through this!