After You Got Preggo...?

[Tink1o5]

After you had your baby did you feel like you were suddenly old and all you had to look forward to was "dieing" i dont wanna sound morbid but i was just asking.. cuz sometimes when i think about my life after me and my OH have a baby i feel like thats all i have to look forward to..

Any advice or help ???

 

[Serene123]

You have your childrens whole lives to look forward to, and eventually, grandkids! There's alot more to life

 

[Tilly]

I think you should speak to your doctor if you're having these thoughts to start off with. I didn't think that at all, I thought of it more that my life was just really beginning and I had more of a purpose on this earth - to love and provide for my little baby. At the same time, it is an overwhelming feeling so I could understand some negative thoughts.

 

[Tink1o5]

Well its more like because i have Panic Disorder so even when theres like new disease out I some how stupidly think "well i must have and its probably gonna kill me" and stuff..

I'v had these feeling ever since my dad passed when i was 16 (about 2 years ago) I found him in his bed and stuff so i think that might have something to do with it

 

[TrixieLox]

So sorry to hear about your dad, and that might explain your feelings. Must've been terrible to find him.

Regarding the feeling that all you have to look forward to is kids, I think some women get fixated on dedicating their lives to children alone but in order to truly live life and enjoy it, you need to understand that this is YOUR life so do other stuff like travel; hobbies; see friends; make other people happy; volunteer etc. As you're quite young, you have SO much to look forward to cos by the time your kids leave home (when you're in your 40s) you can do all sorts: travel and stuff so you should feel quite excited. Life is what YOU make it. Don't just think 'well, this is it I guess; cooking dinner for the OH and baby-making for the rest of my life'. God no!!! There's so much more to life and if u want to ensure your children are happy, you need to lead by example and show them that you can enjoy life and live it to the full.

 

[Tink1o5]

Ty soooo much TrixieLox

 

[faith_may]

You have your childrens whole lives to look forward to, and eventually, grandkids! There's alot more to life

Totally agree

 

[anita665]

When I first got pregnant I became very depressed thinking about all the things I no longer would be able to do, or would be able to do so easily. I have to admit I did have the odd moment of feeling like my life was over. Also I got upset about how my body would change.

It took me a while to get used to the idea & many mornings of crying in the shower but the more I thought about the great things about having a baby, the more the other stuff didn't matter. It got to the point where I could sit and think of all the things I couldn't do anymore and just didn't care because I was having a baby and that was better.

Try to focus on the positive changes a baby will bring you and don't expect to instantly feel ok with it. People on here are great to talk to because everyone feels excited about babies and that really helps you to see the positives.

 

[diva4180]

I felt the same way as anita up there, being sad over some of the things I wouldn't be able to do anymore, and maybe a little like I had done it all, but I tried to think of it this way - looking forward to sharing my life's experiences with my son, such as traveling and showing him (and how many other children I will b lucky enough to have) the world and how much life has to offer, and watching them grow and discover themselves. It's truly been an education to watch my son develop his own personality, and it's still going as he's only 5 lol!