Age gaps, helpppppp!!

[Vivanco]

Hi all, as you may know my OH and i have decided to only tell very very close family at the moment, but i feel really anxious about when i do have to tell people, i feel as though i am going to have to justify why we are having our children so close together (we did plan it this way due to work, educations and most of all both wanting another baby very much!!) we didn't want to have 7 years + age gap and made the decision to have them very close together. (Sorry i know i am rambeling)

Has anyone got any thoughts on age gaps??

My daughter will be 20 months when i have our lovely next child, fingers crossed.

Feel so anxious

 

[Vickie]

This is my first and DH and I really haven't discussed how close together we'd like our children to be. Probably only a couple of years though.

I do have some rather large age gaps between me and my sisters and brother (my sisters are all 20+ years older than me and my brother is 5 years older than me).

 

[Mervs Mum]

It's got bugger all to do with anyone else!! My daughter will be 14 the month after I have this one - so what!!

If you dont like what they say then I'd reply 'You know yer bees wax? Why dontchya mind it!' (in the style of Cath and Kim my fav Aussie birds!)

 

[vickilouise]

ive had a discussion with my OH about this id love to have kids and for them to be close not only in age but solid together, theres 4 yrs separating my younger bro and me then 3 between me and my older bro i will say im closer to my brothers than they are to each other because they are so far appart.
me an OH have now decided (even though this pg is unplanned) that we want our next as soon as i finish uni so there will be a 4 yr age gap at most

 

[Vivanco]

Thanks, i know it's silly to worry!!! Just know wot people are like they always find something to complain about!!!!

 

[nikky0907]

it's actually not even that close together.I have friends and cousins that are only 12 months older/younger of thir sibling.
Your kids will be much closer to one another...If you and your husband want this and it works for you and it happened than be happy and don't worry yourself with it!

 

[Vivanco]

I know, by the time the new baby is a few months old she will nearly be 2!! It's just the sort of person i am, i worry too much about what other people think!!! I just have feeling like i have to justify my life to people!!!! But ur all right i will tell them to mind their own!!!!!!!!!!

 

[rashima]

Never think about the people, you never can make them happy.........
if you have child just after your marriage then they will say...... Sooooooo Soon
if you don't then..........when r u having a child

so just

and enjoy

 

[Omi]

Hiya,

this is not so much advice as just me throwing in a few words..

I recently read a study that suggested that sibling rivalry is at its highest when children are exactly 2 years apart but less so when they are less than that.. seem they are more aware about change in the family when they're older but less so when they're younger...heck, what do i know, lol..but it supports your argument..also my SIL told my MIL that she figured she's get it all over in one big swoop , lol... her's are with the same age gap as your's and they're very happy with their desition..

on the the more bizarre front, i once knew a guy who was 7 months younger than his sister!!! thats pretty hefty! he's mum got pregnant right away and then had him early..

Who cares what anyone says, anyway..you're building your family as you see fit..good on ya..and all the best!!

 

[leeanne]

My kids are 18 months apart. At first I wanted only one child and after she was born, I thought that another one would be good. They'd always have one another if something were to happen to my hubby and I.

They are pretty close and play nicely together.

The first few years are tough, but, eventually, you have more time to get things done, etc. I couldn't imagine having just one.

 

[baby.girl]

Hi all, as you may know my OH and i have decided to only tell very very close family at the moment, but i feel really anxious about when i do have to tell people, i feel as though i am going to have to justify why we are having our children so close together (we did plan it this way due to work, educations and most of all both wanting another baby very much!!) we didn't want to have 7 years + age gap and made the decision to have them very close together. (Sorry i know i am rambeling)

Has anyone got any thoughts on age gaps??

My daughter will be 20 months when i have our lovely next child, fingers crossed.

Feel so anxious

I think it's great . For all the different reasons, if i was more financially fit i would prefer having little age gap as well. I think its awesome

 

[Samo]

My brother and i are exactly 20 months apart and we're more friends than siblings, really. I followed in his footsteps a lot haha. However the sibling rivalry between us was INTENSE, i'm surprised one of us didn't end up dead lol we fought like wild animals until we reached our later teen years. We're the best of friends now though hehe. Honestly i don't think anyone would have a problem with the age gap of your children...i think 1-2 years apart is perfectly fine.

 

[Ann-Marie]

That is totally your decision. No one has a right to tell you how or when to have/raise a family. After all, you're the one changing nappies and getting no sleep...... you'd think they were gonna have to do it all the way some people carry on That's exactly what I told my SIL when her Mum and Dad told her she should termonate when she got pregnant for the third time.
Your children, your family, your decision.

 

[ColtonsMom]

I want my kids to be close together. This pregnancy was unplanned, but I dont want my LO to be more than 5 when our next one is born. So, we have until he is 4..

 

[charlie07]

I have a friend who had 2 children within 13 months of each other, worked out great, not totally planned but they were over the moon. Another couple I know had 2 children within the same time as you, not a problem and anyway, who gives a damn what anyone else thinks, you're life, you're children, do what you both want to do. Good luck to you and wish you all the best. xx

 

[Jayne]

I really don't think it matters.

I have cousins who were born exactly a year apart (one on New Years Day, the other on New Years Eve), there's a 12 year gap between me and my youngest brother and when my LO is born, he or she will have two sisters 22 and 24 years older than him/her.

You do what you want, it's your family!!

 

[buffycat]

ah, a friend of mine currently has a 9month old - he will be 14months old when baby 2 arrives!

 

[Kellz]

To heck with what other people think.
Do it your way and you will be happy. Trying to be/do what other people want only leads to resentment and unhappiness.
I love having mine all close and I think they get on really well (most of the time).

 

[gde78]

Go for it! My OH and his sister are 14 months apart and they're great friends. Apparently, they always have been and really entertained each other when they were little. As everyone's said, it really is no-one else's business!

 

[lorrilou]

Its entirely up to you how big an age gap you have between your children. there are plus and negative points to both, but at the end of the day its you that will be looking after them.