Lady_Bee
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I am so stressed out about his behaviour! He doesn't go to preschool, he stays home with me and his 2 year old little brother.
He's always been very wild, but lately he is becoming so out of control... his behaviour is awful. He is destructive all day, throwing everything he can get his hands on - I've just had to take all their toys away, except for the soft plush toys, and put them in the garage because the throwing is getting so out of hand, it has completely destroyed my hardwood floors and the walls, and just taking one toy at a time hasn't been helping to stop the behaviour the way it used to. From my observation it seems like an impulse control issue with him; he's not throwing out of anger and I don't think it's for attention either, or even really deliberate. Just out of nowhere he'll fling a toy across the room for no reason. Often he'll apologize straight away, but when I ask him why he did it if he knew he shouldn't, he says he doesn't know. Argh. I wish he would just think before throwing rather than after!
He doesn't listen well (understatement!), and won't look people in the eye when they are speaking to him (we have to actually turn his head with our hands. He makes eye contact fine when he's telling us something! But when we want to talk to him, he just looks everywhere but us, and he hums a song, or speaks over us, or he starts flopping around on the floor making weird noises or giggling - it's just so endlessly frustrating trying to get him to follow any instructions...). I thought martial arts classes might help him to gain some focus and self control, so he's been going to Tae Kwon Do for 5 months but he won't listen in class either. They have terrible trouble with him. He is really disruptive and cannot seem to focus for more than a couple of seconds at a time.
So he hasn't learned anything yet. There are 2 and 3 year olds in that class with him and every one of them manages to focus and follow instructions... but not him. He just fiddles with his belt, looks at the ceiling, tries to tickle the other kids, pretends to be a cat, and rolls around on the floor instead of listening to the instructors. He needs special help with every single thing in class. It's exhausting to watch. I thought he would behave better in an environment that wasn't home, where I'm not in charge, but nope.
He also has meltdowns about taking turns, not being "first" (like, he wants to be first for stuff like washing his hands! If I let his little brother go first he goes mad and tries to push his brother out of the way!), he is very emotional and doesn't handle frustration well, cries when he can't figure out how to do something first time etc.
I am worried sick about him starting school next year. I'm just really scared that he will be in trouble constantly. I don't know what to do with him. I thought he would have more self control by now - my 2 year old controls himself better than he does! But he just can't seem to do it. How do you teach a child impulse control? And does this sound normal or should I be concerned? When I talk to my mom friends about it they brush off my anxieties and tell me he's just a kid. But I just don't know! Is this normal 4/5 year old stuff? Am I worrying for no reason?
He's always been very wild, but lately he is becoming so out of control... his behaviour is awful. He is destructive all day, throwing everything he can get his hands on - I've just had to take all their toys away, except for the soft plush toys, and put them in the garage because the throwing is getting so out of hand, it has completely destroyed my hardwood floors and the walls, and just taking one toy at a time hasn't been helping to stop the behaviour the way it used to. From my observation it seems like an impulse control issue with him; he's not throwing out of anger and I don't think it's for attention either, or even really deliberate. Just out of nowhere he'll fling a toy across the room for no reason. Often he'll apologize straight away, but when I ask him why he did it if he knew he shouldn't, he says he doesn't know. Argh. I wish he would just think before throwing rather than after!
He doesn't listen well (understatement!), and won't look people in the eye when they are speaking to him (we have to actually turn his head with our hands. He makes eye contact fine when he's telling us something! But when we want to talk to him, he just looks everywhere but us, and he hums a song, or speaks over us, or he starts flopping around on the floor making weird noises or giggling - it's just so endlessly frustrating trying to get him to follow any instructions...). I thought martial arts classes might help him to gain some focus and self control, so he's been going to Tae Kwon Do for 5 months but he won't listen in class either. They have terrible trouble with him. He is really disruptive and cannot seem to focus for more than a couple of seconds at a time.
So he hasn't learned anything yet. There are 2 and 3 year olds in that class with him and every one of them manages to focus and follow instructions... but not him. He just fiddles with his belt, looks at the ceiling, tries to tickle the other kids, pretends to be a cat, and rolls around on the floor instead of listening to the instructors. He needs special help with every single thing in class. It's exhausting to watch. I thought he would behave better in an environment that wasn't home, where I'm not in charge, but nope.He also has meltdowns about taking turns, not being "first" (like, he wants to be first for stuff like washing his hands! If I let his little brother go first he goes mad and tries to push his brother out of the way!), he is very emotional and doesn't handle frustration well, cries when he can't figure out how to do something first time etc.
I am worried sick about him starting school next year. I'm just really scared that he will be in trouble constantly. I don't know what to do with him.
I thought he would have more self control by now - my 2 year old controls himself better than he does! But he just can't seem to do it. How do you teach a child impulse control? And does this sound normal or should I be concerned? When I talk to my mom friends about it they brush off my anxieties and tell me he's just a kid. But I just don't know! Is this normal 4/5 year old stuff? Am I worrying for no reason?
