Alot's going on! i wanna scream.

[jaytee146]

Fob and i have finally received the DNA results and now he's talking a good game. he asked to see her and i took lo over and we stayed for about thirty minutes. now he's asking who's her sitter, where i live, and he's demanding i get her last name changed to his. i'm trying my best to be keep the lines of communication open but it's difficult. he's using the fact that i won't tell him where i live as a reason not to bring the wipes i asked for or money to help with the sitter. he told me when i took lo to see him that he Get's paid wednesday and would like to meet up to help me out. of course you know that hasn't happened. now he's asking not to be put on support when we go to court in a few months but on this path. why wouldn't i! ask you might know from my previous post my living situation isn't ideal, overbearing mom, her boyfriend and her arguing so i've actually found a place i can afford and i've placed the deposit and first month's rent on the property. i haven't shared the news with my mom as i want to have my place together just in case her reaction isn't good. at the moment i have no furniture, it.'s just the house the baby and myself. i'm scared! Alot is going on and i'm questioning my decisions as a mother. what if i can't provide and Can.'t make ends meet. my lo doesn't even have a crib.

 

[dustbunny]

You don't need to tell him where you live and don't feel bullied in to doing so. If he is withholding money etc then I would have a serious talk with him. Explain that what he is doing is having no effect on you what so ever, he is harming the well being of his child... it is a thing most FOB's do not understand. If he continues to do so maybe get some legal advice or consider if he is worth all the bother and hassle, he sounds like a right piece of work.
There is this misconception that babies need all these shiny and expensive and new items... they don't. They want love and from that automatically comes everything else. You say you don't have a crib, do you have a bed or something you sleep on? Co-sleeping... though not ideal... is effective and there is a lot of info out there aiding in effective co-sleeping. As for the other things, as long as your LO is fed, 'nappied' and dry then they are happy.
Everything may seem so dark now but stay strong, stay positive, thing's do have a way or working themselves out and you're not alone... there are loads of ladies here to listen and give support.

 

[jemmie1994]

do you have free cycle in US? could easily furnish your house for next to nothing
you dont need that crap from FOB dont let him force you into anything!
best of luck x

 

[jaytee146]

He called last night and said he wanted to meet up today if he called to give me some money. He asked for her social security number and my response was since you don't keep her full-time there is no reason why you need her ss number, I said I have it for doctor's appointments, daycare applications, and just because I'm her mom. I told him it was none of his business what it was and he got upset.

He asked what the sitter's name was and how much do I pay. (never offered to help)
he also commented on the fact that " I use to be out there living wild a "freak" " and he wanted to make sure I respected myself since I have his child. He'd hate for her to be taken from be because I am living an unlady like lifestyle.
my response! It's none of your business what I"m doing and second I've always respected myself and the decisions I made while all weren't the best I have no reason to walk around with my head down and I refuse to let you belittle me because of how you precieve me.

He later asked would I be receptive towards going to church with him! SERIOUSLY!

I think the reason why I'm trying to hard to get along is because I would like for him to know and be there for his daughter however I don't trust him, he's done a excellent job of burning all the bridges with my family as well as me. Now I think he has some type of motive for everything he does. and honestly I'm not letting my daughter go with him alone anytime soon so he'd better let that dream GO!