Hi
A bit of background info to start off with, this will be my 6 th baby with the previous 5 all having been born in hospital with normal vaginal deliveries and no complications with the exception that one is a preemie (no 3). I've not had any excessive bleeding after any of my births or any other problems.
This will be my last baby and as soon as I got two lines I knew I wanted a home birth but thought that it would be laughed away as not only is this my 6 th but I am also 41 and had a starting bmi of 37 meaning I'm considered high risk. While my pregnancy hasn't exactly been a walk in the park with hyperemesis and spd I've had no complications that would cause problems in labour, my blood pressure is perfect and I've jumped through hoops to complete tests that have not been recommendedin any other of my pregnancies where I was about the same weight but obviously younger. I passed the gtt with flying colours and had a growth scan today which showed baby is a little larger than average but not enormous he's also head down and cephalic meaning he's in an almost perfect position for labour.
After reading on here I had decided that a home birth was still for me and had persuaded the midwife that I was making an informed decision and knew the risks and so have a home visit booked for next week but she did say I needed to inform the consultant of my decision and that he would most likely be unhappy from with my choices. To say he was unhappy is a real understatement. Firstly it was a registrar I saw instead of a consultant, then he spent a good 10 minutes trying to scare me and telling me that he felt both a home birth and physiological 3rd stage were unsafe and that I should be in hospital with a cannula in place to give birth and have a managed 3rd stage. When that didn't work he spent some time looking for someone else to come in and scare me and when he couldn't find anyone he decided I needed to go back to talk to the consultant. Bearing in mind that I live in a rural location and it takes 2 agonisng bus journeys for me to get to the hospital and another 2 to get back my partner lost it a bit at that point as I was already in agony from the spd and it'll be even worse in a couple of weeks time. So we ended up with the senior midwife being brought into the room to try a calm things. She seemed a little more understanding and persuaded the registrar that I really didn't need to come back as I had the head my local midwife team visiting me next week to go over the risks and benefits with me.
So am I really so crazy to want to have this baby at home with a minimum of intervention
(Oh and an example of this doctor's attitude is that I was prescribed codiene for the spd pain about 4 months ago being told I could take up to 8 a day but I only take 1 of an evening on a normal day or 2 if it's really bad so as to reduce the risks to baby (I'm still using the months supply I was given 4-5 months ago) and he tried to persuade me to was fine to take the 8 daily)
A bit of background info to start off with, this will be my 6 th baby with the previous 5 all having been born in hospital with normal vaginal deliveries and no complications with the exception that one is a preemie (no 3). I've not had any excessive bleeding after any of my births or any other problems.
This will be my last baby and as soon as I got two lines I knew I wanted a home birth but thought that it would be laughed away as not only is this my 6 th but I am also 41 and had a starting bmi of 37 meaning I'm considered high risk. While my pregnancy hasn't exactly been a walk in the park with hyperemesis and spd I've had no complications that would cause problems in labour, my blood pressure is perfect and I've jumped through hoops to complete tests that have not been recommendedin any other of my pregnancies where I was about the same weight but obviously younger. I passed the gtt with flying colours and had a growth scan today which showed baby is a little larger than average but not enormous he's also head down and cephalic meaning he's in an almost perfect position for labour.
After reading on here I had decided that a home birth was still for me and had persuaded the midwife that I was making an informed decision and knew the risks and so have a home visit booked for next week but she did say I needed to inform the consultant of my decision and that he would most likely be unhappy from with my choices. To say he was unhappy is a real understatement. Firstly it was a registrar I saw instead of a consultant, then he spent a good 10 minutes trying to scare me and telling me that he felt both a home birth and physiological 3rd stage were unsafe and that I should be in hospital with a cannula in place to give birth and have a managed 3rd stage. When that didn't work he spent some time looking for someone else to come in and scare me and when he couldn't find anyone he decided I needed to go back to talk to the consultant. Bearing in mind that I live in a rural location and it takes 2 agonisng bus journeys for me to get to the hospital and another 2 to get back my partner lost it a bit at that point as I was already in agony from the spd and it'll be even worse in a couple of weeks time. So we ended up with the senior midwife being brought into the room to try a calm things. She seemed a little more understanding and persuaded the registrar that I really didn't need to come back as I had the head my local midwife team visiting me next week to go over the risks and benefits with me.
So am I really so crazy to want to have this baby at home with a minimum of intervention
(Oh and an example of this doctor's attitude is that I was prescribed codiene for the spd pain about 4 months ago being told I could take up to 8 a day but I only take 1 of an evening on a normal day or 2 if it's really bad so as to reduce the risks to baby (I'm still using the months supply I was given 4-5 months ago) and he tried to persuade me to was fine to take the 8 daily)
good luck! x
