Am i doing right thing?

[tinkabells]

Ok, I have posted on the baby thread but having second thoughs and wondered what other single mummies do

Hollie has gotten used to me cuddling her and her falling asleep on, i was trying to get her out of this, but she's only 5 weeks old and i do enjoy giving her the cuddles and letting her sleep with me and in my bed, but am i doing this wrong? Am i making a rod for my own back but giving in to her?!?!
My mum said she did the same to me and i was fine, i did have a few issues when i was older about sleeping in my own bed and my mum also commented and said if i do get a boyfriend its not fair or right that hollie sleeps in same bed with us, so what would you girls surgest? xxx

 

[purpledahlia]

I dont think theres any harm in it for now.. if you wanted to be able to have her in the cot sometimes you could start to wean her into it a couple nights a week, just see how it goes, but if someone is babysitting and your out it would be handy for her to be able to go down in her own bed without you without too much of a fuss.. Id just take it as it comes.. nothing wrong with letting her fall asleep with/on you tho.. sounds cosy!

 

[tinkabells]

Yeah she's fine with friends and family and will happily fall asleep on them, i do put her in her cot, when she is finaly asleep like during the day/evening but its like the 2am/6am feed that she comes into bed with me xxx

 

[2bmum]

I got into a bad habit of letting my lo fall asleep on me so that as soon a sI popped him in his crib he'd wake and not go back to sleep without cuddles. He then started to hate his crib as he went in his moses downstairs in the day time. I was getting no sleep at night so I bit the bullet and packed his moses away 3 weeks ago. Its the best thing I ever did. I had 5 hellish days as he had to have his naps up stairs in the day time and was in his crib at night but I reap the rewards now.
He now has either 3 short 1/2 hour naps or 2 longer ones durning the day upstairs so I can get on with the housework, make phonecalls etc and then goes up to his crib at night and sleeps most of the night, manages to get himself back to sleep during the night until about 6am now where he wakes up and takes a while to go back off. I just go downstairs, make a cuppa and by the time I'm back up there he's asleep 9 times out of 10. I let him come in my bed for cuddles when I'm more awake. I always worry I'll roll ontop of him when I'm half asleep.
You can get them out of habits, long as you're prepared for the few hard days you'll get while they get used to it.
I found with my first one it's all about learning and I did get him into some bad habits, but it's all learning and I'd not do it again x

 

[tinkabells]

Thanks, what did you do when he kept waking up? Did you pick up and cuddle then put back in cot? Or leave him be for abit?
I dunno how to do this, when she is in a deep sleep, she will sleep in her cot, its just getting her there, she has to fall asleep on me 1st xxx

 

[AppleBlossom]

I think for the time being it's ok. When she gets a little older though start putting her in a crib. Unless you want to co-sleep of course. If not, for both your benefits I would put her to sleep somewhere else

 

[tinkabells]

Yeah i do want her sleeping in her cot, its just the trouble of getting her falling alseep in there or other than sleeping on me xxx

 

[purpledahlia]

think its just one of those things you gotta keep doing, she will cry and it might take a week or 2 but if u dont pick her up she will see ur being serious and learn to just go to sleep.. if u pick her up everytime then she thinks that by crying she will get cuddles.. just gotta persue it if its what u wanna do... u'll have to do it later anyway so if u want her in her cot might aswell do it now, x

 

[xxannxx]

I done this with my LO as well. He would fall asleep on me and then i would put him down in crib, and then bring him in with me if he woke up during night, however, it did progress to us co-sleeping. I never had a problem with it, because its only 2 of us, and when he went to ex's he slept with him anyway, so wasn't a problem.
Some people did say i was making a rod for my own back, but LO is now 3 and in his own bed, which he was actually happy about. He was excited to get his very own room, and although i still lie with him until he falls asleep, he stays without argument.
I would say its completely up to the mum in question, as long as your happy with it, thats all that matters.

 

[laura3103]

i used to do this and she started sleeping with me as she didnt like her moses basket (waste of money). she will now sleep in her cot but the worst part of it is i'm the one with the problem i miss her when she is not in bed with me and find myself putting her in my bed when i finally go to bed.

i know she woud be ok in the cot and its right next to my bed but its a weird feeling i get lol!!

 

[sazzyb1985]

my little one is 7 months and i still have to rock her to get her to sleep lol i know i should be trying to teach her to fall asleep on her own by now but i really love getting her to sleep like this!!we're moving soon so im really going to try to get her to go to sleep without me cuddling her then but i still love doing it lol im sure your lo will be fine as she's still so young x x

 

[tinkabells]

Yeah im gonna leave it for awhile as she's learning so much dont wanna over do it with her really lol xxx