Am i doing right?

[veganmum2be]

My baby was planned, me and his father were due to be married but he changed his mind and walked out when i was 6 weeks pregnant, a month before out wedding.

sinse then the only contact i have had at all from him or his entire family is once about 2 weeks after leaving him and his mum got in touch because he wanted his stuff back.
and nothing at all until last week him mum text me and asked how the baby was. (i presume shes seen me out and about cos not sure how shed know i had him)
at the time of leaving my pregnancy was threatened miscarriage as i was bleeding, he nor his family didn't care to find out if i had lost him.

i am registering him on friday and i have decided to put father unknown.
i haven't responded to his mothers text.
i dont think they will benefit his life at all, so i see no reason for his mum to see him. he hasn't even asked.

i'm scared to death my son will grow up to resent me though.
if he wants to know about his dad, i will tell him his name and everything i know about him and family to help track him down if he wants to meet him someday. but for the time being hes the last person i want my son around.
am i doing the right thing?

 

[billy2mm]

imo opinion yes you are. his father doesnt want to know and none of his family have bothered thus far so why should they get the pleasure of enjoying your son?

if/when your son asks about his father just be truthful in an age appropriate way. my kids have never asked and my eldest was 2 and a half when i left theri dad. my youngest doesnt know any different.

congrats on you son - he is beautiful!

 

[veganmum2be]

thankyou

 

[jen1604]

I agree you're doing the right thing babe

 

[ProzacQueen]

i think you are absolutely doing the right thing, but i am kinda biased as my ex also left me when 6 weeks pregnant despite the fact she was planned too

unless he turns up at the registry office he wont be able to be put on the birth certificate anyway, and it no longer says 'father unknown' its just left blank. should have a ''father cant be arsed'' option

they cant just leave you to go through a pregnancy alone then change their minds when they feel like it. (my ex is doing this now) and why would your son resent you?? FOB left you, if anything he will love and appreciate you more for bringing him up yourself. all you can do is tell him the truth when he is old enough and go from there

he is totally gorgeous btw

 

[veganmum2be]

thankyou sorry to hear you've experienced the same.
he is now registered and i left it blank.

xxx

 

[teal]

Glad your LO is all registered xx

 

[18singlemom2b]

honestly, i think you are doing the right thing. that's what i plan to do as well.