Am I making a mistake? (Posted in Teen Pregnancy too)

[bumphenders]

This might be the wrong place for this...But nevermind

Me and FOB fell out on Oct. He told me to f*ck off a die then cut all contact from me. (We were kind of a one night thing )

I was so upset that he could be so mean and just walk away from Elliot.
Anyways, yesterday I contacted his brother to see if I could try and get them to be involved in Elliots life. He didn't even know I was pregnant!


Then FOB started going on at me again, saying I had no right. So we argued a little. I got so frustrated I ended up in tears, and my 2 best friends told me that I shouldn't give in to him after what he said etc.

I told him this would be his last chance and stuff, and he agreed we needed to be civil for Elliots sake. Now he is going on like nothing has happened, asking me when I'm due and stuff.

I have never hated anyone so much in my life..Well Not hated because he has given me the most amazing thing in the world, but I dispise him. And I don't personally ever want to see him again, But I know I had to do this for my baby boys sake...

I don't know where to take it from here...He isn't going to be at Elliots Birth (My choice) and I Just don't know what to do now??

Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.

 

[cluelessnow]

Give yourself some time away from him to get calm and centred again. Don't worry about him for now because he's only upsetting you and just concentrate on yourself and baby.

 

[bumphenders]

Thanks for replying. I've told him that I don't want to talk to him unless it is about Elliot.

I think i'm going to have to find some way around the visiting thing, because I quite frankly don't ever want to see him again.

 

[xSophieBx]

Personally... I would forget about all that right now & don't worry urself.. Enjoy your pregnancy... Only contact him if its an update on the baby, i.e a scan etc. He may surprise you and grow up when the baby is born.. From someone thats not on speaking terms at all with my ex and going through solicitors right now, I advise, if u can, to try and be as amicable as possible with each other so make it easier on everyone as its not nice. If thats how u still feel when the babies here etc, there are other means to contact and he can have supervised with someone you trust, like your mum or a family member so that u don't have to be there. Like i said though.. don't worry about that yet x

 

[ImaMale]

Don't let him control the situation, also if i was you i'd just say to him "see you when he is born" and give him some time to think.