Amount of sex?

[RM_Wife]

Hi,

How much sex should me and the hubby be doing to be able to maximise our chances of conceiving this cycle? I am on day 13 at the moment we have done it everyday for the last 4 days and just wondering how much more we have to do it? I am just about to order some ovulation test kits to start tracking, but I am a little unsure as to whether I have left it too late. Is it right that your AF shows 14 days after ovulation? If so, I had a 34 day cycle last cycle does that mean that I ovulated on day 20? Am I likely to have a cycle the same length again this time? I am really confused! Thanks in advance for your help!

 

[cooch]

Its quite difficult to say honey as you don't seem to track your cycles. I would maybe now reduce it to every other day. But then I'm not sure of your cycle x

 

[mrs c f]

In an ideal world you should ovulate 14 days before your next period though some people have short lutuel phases which can mean you may ovulate 10 or 12 days before your period. I would starting testing with ovualtion sticks on day 16 into your cycle and continue until you get a smiley face or if you can afford it get a CBFM they are fab and really helpful if your unsure of your cycle. x

 

[Wallie]

i think you need to start tracking your cycle with opks or a monitor, that way you'll get to know your cycle a bit better. I usually go with cervical mucus, do you get this? The minute it stops now I know I've ovulated and that's what I go by now and it's pretty accurate.

 

[RM_Wife]

Hey,

Thanks for your replies. I have ordered some OPK's off eBay, and they were dispatched today so they should be here soon. I am on day 14 now, so I think that they won't be here until day 16 so I am going to have to hope that I can catch it on time this cycle. I do get loads of CM around the time I ovulate and I also get loads at the end of a cycle too. Well, I can say that I did last cycle, I am only on cycle two of Clomid at the moment. I can't honestly remember if I did stop producing CM when I had ovulated. I still have quite a lot of CM at the moment (sorry if TMI). Last month I also got an achey left ovary where I was told that I had follicles that weren't quite ready on my day 12 scan, but this month I haven't felt anything yet! I am hoping this month I am ovulating/going to ovulate?

Thanks again for all your help

 

[mommyof5]

When me and my husband are TTC we have sex from the second my period has stopped to the next period or BFP. We have sex every 24 hours. This way we know we didnt miss the egg.

 

[cooch]

When me and my husband are TTC we have sex from the second my period has stopped to the next period or BFP. We have sex every 24 hours. This way we know we didnt miss the egg.

Blimey!! I make take that approach, lol. You've had a lot of luck with BFPs but also a lot of disappointment.x

 

[RM_Wife]

Hehe I agree with cooch, that's one way to do it! I am looking to practically do they same this month. Sorry for your losses too, Mommyof5 x I had the OPK's turn up this morning, so I am going to start it tonight (CD15) as I don't know what length cycle this is going to be. I just have to figure out how to use them now! I have 5 pregnancy tests in the pack too, so that'll save me some cash!

 

[mria123456]

Try Try until you succeed.

 

[bdawn8403]

You shouldn't have so much sex, too frequent of ejaculation decreases the sperm count. The best is every 2-3 days, sperm can live up to 3-4 days and even a week if in excellent conditions. Everyday probably is hurting you more than aiding you.

 

[RM_Wife]

You shouldn't have so much sex, too frequent of ejaculation decreases the sperm count. The best is every 2-3 days, sperm can live up to 3-4 days and even a week if in excellent conditions. Everyday probably is hurting you more than aiding you.

This is what I have read too, I know sperm can live in you for around 3-4 days, but I am just so worried about missing it. Hubby is in the forces, so from cycle to the next we never know where he will be. I've been quite lucky, I haven't actually hurt yet, I thought I may have done by now. I think tonight we may rest then, take a break from it all. I tested the first OPK last night as that came back as a negative reading for ovulation. I don't know when I ovulate though, so for all I know it could have been 2 days ago or it could be in 2 days!

 

[bdawn8403]

This is what I have read too, I know sperm can live in you for around 3-4 days, but I am just so worried about missing it. Hubby is in the forces, so from cycle to the next we never know where he will be. I've been quite lucky, I haven't actually hurt yet, I thought I may have done by now. I think tonight we may rest then, take a break from it all. I tested the first OPK last night as that came back as a negative reading for ovulation. I don't know when I ovulate though, so for all I know it could have been 2 days ago or it could be in 2 days!

Basically its a learning process

You learn more about your body as you go and begin to pick up when you think you may ov'n. Good luck!

 

[RM_Wife]

Thanks. Hoping that this month we haven't missed it as I think I am ovulating either now or over the next couple of days. OPK's have been negative for ovulation so far, maybe we will get a positive result before next month