charlotteb24
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My 7 Year old step son has a problem with going to the toilet for a poo and its getting a bit annoying now. So I thought i would write on here and see if anyone else has gone through anything similar and see if what i'm thinking of doing is best to do.
Basically, hes very lazy with opening his bowels to put it in the nicest possible way! which results in nasty messes in his underwear which makes him smell like poo if you don't clean him every few hours in some cases! and somtimes its only once a day. Basically what he does, is he will sit on the toilet and he gets bored of sitting there so however far he has got he will just wipe maybe once or twice and then pull up his underwear, you can imagine the rest for yourself i'm sure
So far we have tried:
Apparently at home he has stopped doing it as much but in feb half term, i kid you not, it was everyday at least once! so heres what i plan to do this time around, see what you think:
Any comments? suggestions? im just about out of ideas! i find it odd for a 7 year old to be doing this when theres nothing medically wrong nor is he anxious etc we've had that chat too!
Basically, hes very lazy with opening his bowels to put it in the nicest possible way! which results in nasty messes in his underwear which makes him smell like poo if you don't clean him every few hours in some cases! and somtimes its only once a day. Basically what he does, is he will sit on the toilet and he gets bored of sitting there so however far he has got he will just wipe maybe once or twice and then pull up his underwear, you can imagine the rest for yourself i'm sure
So far we have tried:
- Giving him a book to read whilst going
Checking his underwear periodically which he seems to find embarassing but it still doesn't stop him doing it.
Giving him flushable moist toilet paper which does help a little bit but he still doesn't wipe until clean.
Showing him how to wipe properly.
He hates and is scared rigid of showers so giving him a shower after ever instance which we would hope would prevent him doing it again - it did for a day and only a day!
Threatening him with pull ups
Taking away privilidges.
Apparently at home he has stopped doing it as much but in feb half term, i kid you not, it was everyday at least once! so heres what i plan to do this time around, see what you think:
- Buy him a Nintendo DS game he is desperate for
Create a reward chart which highlights his toileting issues
Clean him up if needs be when he arrives and explain to him that from this point onwards he will need to stay squeaky clean with no mess in his pants, everyday he is clean he will get a star.
If on the day of going home he is clean all week, he has a new game to play on the train.
If he is dirty badly once, then no game and a shower evertime he messes before he does everything else. Plus possible loss of privilidges i.e whatever is planned for the day if he is dirty.
Any comments? suggestions? im just about out of ideas! i find it odd for a 7 year old to be doing this when theres nothing medically wrong nor is he anxious etc we've had that chat too!