Another boy being nasty at school- what would you do?

[lau86]

To me this little boy seems quite boisterous and a bit of a handful. Whenever there's trouble going on his name is mentioned. But my son seems to like him so I try not to say anything except he knows how he should behave. Today during our bedtime story my son brought it up that this boy had tried to shove grass in his mouth and said 'eat that dirty pig'. When I asked if it upset him he said yes. When I asked if I should tell his teacher he said yes. The boys Mum seems really nice. Would you talk to her or go to the teacher? My son is no angel and there may be another side to it but I have never known him to be nasty in this way

 

[loeylo]

From a teachers perspective, you should go to the teacher. If there is a pattern of behaviour it is important that the teacher is aware so support can be provided if required.

 

[jd83]

I agree, let the teacher know. Letting the parent know doesn't necessarily make the school aware to look out for that type of behavior when the child is around other kids.

 

[lau86]

I told one of the teaching assistants today, if only so my son will know that when he asks me to do something, I do it. They told him he needs to tell someone at the time, so he knows that now. I just don't want it to seem sneaky with the other Mum but yeah I agree not much benefit will come from telling her

 

[Tasha]

Our school always says don't talk to other parents about it. They feel it brings issues to the playground.

 

[Vickie]

We have had SO many issues this year with my DD and bullying at school (one little girl in particular to her). My DD is much older though (almost 9) and prefers to handle the situation herself. I have told her if she gets touched (she was hit once! And I told her never again) I will be knocking down the school doors. If it is ongoing violence I would definitely keep in contact with the teacher over it.

 

[Babybear85]

See i can understand the need to tell.the teacher but i actually think it can bring more issues into the playground if u dont just talk to the mum aswell. It would depend on how approachable the parent is i guess and if it would be received well. Im.pretty open so if someone approached me and said my son.was doing something id be ok.with it. If the parents approachable od speak with them and just mention that u will.tell the teacher just so they know aswell

 

[izzlesnizzle]

We've had so many issues too and dd is only in reception! Each time I've told the teacher and it's been dealt with. It's one thing after another and I worry I'll be known as the complaining mum! I do think they're not petty things I've raised though. If dd isn't upset by things I usually let it go but if it's bothering her then I do. We've had a sleep issue lately and it was school related so I had to raise that as it was affecting all of us at home. So tricky to know what to do for the best sometimes but what that boy said to your son I would have no qualms in reporting that to the teacher!

 

[SarahBear]

To me this little boy seems quite boisterous and a bit of a handful. Whenever there's trouble going on his name is mentioned. But my son seems to like him so I try not to say anything except he knows how he should behave. Today during our bedtime story my son brought it up that this boy had tried to shove grass in his mouth and said 'eat that dirty pig'. When I asked if it upset him he said yes. When I asked if I should tell his teacher he said yes. The boys Mum seems really nice. Would you talk to her or go to the teacher? My son is no angel and there may be another side to it but I have never known him to be nasty in this way

I would ask the teacher about how they are interacting. I'd mention that it seems like there are some conflicts and ask if they have noticed any. If they say they have, I'd ask how they handle them. If they haven't, I'd ask about the incident that your son described.

Even if it seems like the kid can be "nasty," young kids can be impulsive without meaning any harm. It's possible that's what's happening for this boy. The teacher should be aware so that he can help this boy develop impulse control and guide him to better behavior. It's possible the school is aware and is working with the boy on it, so I wouldn't go in assuming there's a big issue that needs to be firmly dealt with.

 

[lau86]

To me this little boy seems quite boisterous and a bit of a handful. Whenever there's trouble going on his name is mentioned. But my son seems to like him so I try not to say anything except he knows how he should behave. Today during our bedtime story my son brought it up that this boy had tried to shove grass in his mouth and said 'eat that dirty pig'. When I asked if it upset him he said yes. When I asked if I should tell his teacher he said yes. The boys Mum seems really nice. Would you talk to her or go to the teacher? My son is no angel and there may be another side to it but I have never known him to be nasty in this way

I would ask the teacher about how they are interacting. I'd mention that it seems like there are some conflicts and ask if they have noticed any. If they say they have, I'd ask how they handle them. If they haven't, I'd ask about the incident that your son described.

Even if it seems like the kid can be "nasty," young kids can be impulsive without meaning any harm. It's possible that's what's happening for this boy. The teacher should be aware so that he can help this boy develop impulse control and guide him to better behavior. It's possible the school is aware and is working with the boy on it, so I wouldn't go in assuming there's a big issue that needs to be firmly dealt with.

His teacher has now left for maternity leave. We've been really happy with her so it is a bit different for him. I'm not assuming anything, I wouldn't normally get involved but I did think this isolated incident was nasty and my son was upset. He is a sensitive soul underneath but comes across as quite bombastic so I need to handle these things carefully

 

[RaspberryK]

I'd wonder where a young boy heard that phrase and be very concerned actually! I'd definitely report to the teacher! Xx