Another f@$%&*g FB Scan Pic/Announcement

[mg80]

Just checked my FB as I've been avoiding for a few days as a girl on my friends list posted a status update on the weekend that she is expecting a Christmas baby. It hurt, and so I avoided it for a few days. Just checked my messages on there now and what flashes up on news feed? A distant cousin who got married 3 MONTHS AGO!!! just posted a 12 week scan pic!! I am sick to my stomach. And here's me, 11 months after my wedding STILL trying. I could kick myself for not coming off the pill way way before I even thought about having a baby. Now I feel I have missed my chance

I went private to see a gynaecologist last week as the NHS wait in my area is 7 months just for the initial appointment . Anyway there's my cousin all excited about having a baby on the way, and all I've got on the way is an appointment for the rather lovely HSG dye test to check my tubes, oh joy. This is sooo not how I thought making a baby would be, it makes me so sad that it has come to this.

So I've decided I am not going to be tortured anymore by Facebook and all the fertile people that populate it, so I've just deleted my account.

I just feel sick to my stomach and feel like why is this SO bloody hard for me and so easy for everyone on my Facebook list!! When is it going to be my turn?!?! I was ready for a baby 11 months ago. I feel like this is never going to happen for me

Anyway sorry for the post, just needed to rant to people who might be in the same situation. Was planning on doing some coursework this evening but that has really thrown me now and I can't get it off my mind

Sigh.

xxxxx

 

[Lily7]

Hi! I actually could have written that post myself! Well most of it, change distant cousin to sad, twisted little bitch and that post is mine! Seriously, I know exactly how you feel xxx

 

[ourfate]

I know how you feel!! Best friend is pregnant, I have a million test to do before they offer treatment. And she can't relate and doesn't really know how sad I feel every time she talks about anything baby related. But try to picture it that some of the people might of had a hard time ttc aswell. Whenever I get my bfp and post on facebook, no one on there except a couple will know how much of a struggle this has been for me. I know it still sucks but that's the way I keep myself sane from facebook pregnancy announcements!

 

[aquaria6]

I know how you feel. I had another one today too. I swear all of the women I consider to be my closest friends (but 1) are pregnant after trying less than 2 months or had an "oops!"

Super frustrating and depressing. Hang in there though. Take comfort in knowing you are not alone. Hope you get your bfp soon. (all of you )

 

[PipSqueaker]

I'm with you 100% of the way on this one. It's so emotionally painful when you're TTC, but everyone else can do it just by thinking the word baby. It's especially frustrating when you see an oops baby post. It just doesn't seem fair.

 

[Maidenet]

I know how you feel xx

 

[Bunnylicious]

I hear you.

My wall has 2 newborns, and 1 pregnant announcements

I feel so infertile

 

[nik25]

I know exactly what you mean!!! My husband's ex is fixing to have a baby in the next few weeks and everytime I look on FB just to see if that dumb bI%6h has had her kid yet so that I can just forget about it already!! I'm just sick about it...b/c he thinks she got prego years ago w/ him but she cheated on him all the time and she ended up getting an abortion with out telling him All I want is for us to have a family... Why does that piece of trash get to and not us? ugh sorry for the rant also, I'm so glad I can get it out on here. oh- and another ex of his just had a baby also!!

 

[rectopathic]

Just checked my FB as I've been avoiding for a few days as a girl on my friends list posted a status update on the weekend that she is expecting a Christmas baby. It hurt, and so I avoided it for a few days. Just checked my messages on there now and what flashes up on news feed? A distant cousin who got married 3 MONTHS AGO!!! just posted a 12 week scan pic!! I am sick to my stomach. And here's me, 11 months after my wedding STILL trying. I could kick myself for not coming off the pill way way before I even thought about having a baby. Now I feel I have missed my chance

I went private to see a gynaecologist last week as the NHS wait in my area is 7 months just for the initial appointment . Anyway there's my cousin all excited about having a baby on the way, and all I've got on the way is an appointment for the rather lovely HSG dye test to check my tubes, oh joy. This is sooo not how I thought making a baby would be, it makes me so sad that it has come to this.

So I've decided I am not going to be tortured anymore by Facebook and all the fertile people that populate it, so I've just deleted my account.

I just feel sick to my stomach and feel like why is this SO bloody hard for me and so easy for everyone on my Facebook list!! When is it going to be my turn?!?! I was ready for a baby 11 months ago. I feel like this is never going to happen for me

Anyway sorry for the post, just needed to rant to people who might be in the same situation. Was planning on doing some coursework this evening but that has really thrown me now and I can't get it off my mind

Sigh.

xxxxx

I can so relate. I hate removing friends from my news feed but it feels like everyone falls pregnant after a few months of trying! And it hurts. It feels like 'why do I have to have this battle to overcome amongst all the rubbish going on?' when others who seem to have it all have it happen to them. My FB is mostly scan pictures or of their babies and I'm so happy for them. But I desperately want that to be me (and I would NOT make my scan picture my profile picture for the others secretly battling this)

Baby dust to you xxx

 

[dozy]

Hey girls
I also could have written this post myself. It gets you down doesn't it, most of my friends conceived within or two months of trying and people just can't understand how difficult it is when you have been trying for a lot longer. It really upsets me when people tell me they're pregnant, had a bad weekend of it this time with three announcements over two days. I have tried to talk to DH about it but he just thinks I'm being selfish and irrational. I've started not wanting to meet up with certain friends because, lovely though they are, it's too painful to hear all the baby/pregnancy chat.
Anyway girls good luck to you all and hope we get our bfp's soon X

 

[artsiekat]

Like the rest of you, my facebook friends seem to be the most fertile people on earth! Two newborns, four pregnancies. I had an ectopic in April and thought I had finished with my grieving process, but a week ago a friend who moved away a year ago posted pictures of herself about 7 months pregnant on facebook and I didn't even know she was pregnant.

She moved away a year ago, started dating, married and then is now 7 months pregnant all within a year? I admit it, I broke down crying. Again!

I do believe we will get our chance, ladies!

 

[MurphyTaylor]

I know exactly how you feel! A lot of my old school friends are expecting/have just given birth and I work in a HR department so I know about all of our employees that are pregnant/have just had babys and there's loads! It's not fair

 

[stephlid]

for us all! And too... Hang in there ladies. I can so relate... Seems like everyone you meet is pregnant or has a new baby. I tear up on a regular basis over this... Just know we are all together on this!

 

[littlemonster]

I am so with you ladies! After 3 losses I am in the dumps and most days I feel like DH and I will never get pregnant, but then I remind myself "Don't feel bad or sorry for yourself and DH for the simple fact trying so hard makes my baby that much more precious and special to us." I can only have one baby and then I get a fully hysterectomy because of PCOS, fibroids and so on...Most of my friends who are pregnant have been trying and I would love to be pregnant and have our baby...but it will happen when its supposed to, if it's supposed to...and I need to just relax and live life...we live a pregnancy friendly lifestyle so it's 2nd nature to us...and I love it!
Just remember ladies..you're doing all you can so your baby can have the best chance at life and all the love they deserve and you loved them before they even conceived...In that alone...we should all be proud of the journey to TTC that we had decided to take!

 

[tryingntrying]

I know exactly how you feel. Had to delete my account several times too. Then I discovered this pretty little x and the option to block certain users from my newsfeed.

 

[artsiekat]

I am so with you ladies! After 3 losses I am in the dumps and most days I feel like DH and I will never get pregnant, but then I remind myself "Don't feel bad or sorry for yourself and DH for the simple fact trying so hard makes my baby that much more precious and special to us." I can only have one baby and then I get a fully hysterectomy because of PCOS, fibroids and so on...Most of my friends who are pregnant have been trying and I would love to be pregnant and have our baby...but it will happen when its supposed to, if it's supposed to...and I need to just relax and live life...we live a pregnancy friendly lifestyle so it's 2nd nature to us...and I love it!
Just remember ladies..you're doing all you can so your baby can have the best chance at life and all the love they deserve and you loved them before they even conceived...In that alone...we should all be proud of the journey to TTC that we had decided to take!

I love your attitude! Thanks for sharing this story, you're very much an inspiration!.

 

[Twinbutterfly]

so so so with you all!!! My friend came off the injection not even wanting to get pregnant and got pregnant... & heres me going through 8 yrs of drs apts - which are thankfully (touch wood) now resolved..& still no joy ARGHHHHHH!!!! Everyone seems to be getting pregnant atm through accidents and everyone knows we are trying which believe me makes it soooo much worse as they look at you with those, oh it'll happen for you soon eyes OR they completely ignore what you are going through and ramble on for hours about what they have bought for their baby OR worst still ask u to help with baby preps WTF!!!??? I am atm going insane & feeling a little angry at the world, im not usually Mrs Hormonal - honest loL!

 

[ourfate]

so so so with you all!!! My friend came off the injection not even wanting to get pregnant and got pregnant... & heres me going through 8 yrs of drs apts - which are thankfully (touch wood) now resolved..& still no joy ARGHHHHHH!!!! Everyone seems to be getting pregnant atm through accidents and everyone knows we are trying which believe me makes it soooo much worse as they look at you with those, oh it'll happen for you soon eyes OR they completely ignore what you are going through and ramble on for hours about what they have bought for their baby OR worst still ask u to help with baby preps WTF!!!??? I am atm going insane & feeling a little angry at the world, im not usually Mrs Hormonal - honest loL!

that is soooooo true!!! i hate that. esp when they ignore you, or only talk with you about it for like 1 min then ramble on about themselves. if only they knew what we all go through!!!

 

[artsiekat]

so so so with you all!!! My friend came off the injection not even wanting to get pregnant and got pregnant... & heres me going through 8 yrs of drs apts - which are thankfully (touch wood) now resolved..& still no joy ARGHHHHHH!!!! Everyone seems to be getting pregnant atm through accidents and everyone knows we are trying which believe me makes it soooo much worse as they look at you with those, oh it'll happen for you soon eyes OR they completely ignore what you are going through and ramble on for hours about what they have bought for their baby OR worst still ask u to help with baby preps WTF!!!??? I am atm going insane & feeling a little angry at the world, im not usually Mrs Hormonal - honest loL!

That reminds me, I had an ectopic in April and my cousin was pregnant at the same time. She had gone to visit my family and have a baby shower. I live far away, so I wasn't there. I had just had another blood test that day to check if I would need more methotrexate and my sister called and basically said, "Oh hi, Jesse's over and we're having a baby shower and a lot of fun with baby stuff! Oh, I gotta go, bye!"

I hung up the phone and just burst out crying. I was surprised at how completely insensitive she was, but I guess I shouldn't have been, when people haven't gone through a loss, they just don't understand.

 

[totrn]

I understand exactly where all you ladies are coming from. To make matters worse I work as a labor and delivery nurse. At the time when I started this position we weren't married yet, not ready to have kids- it was just an amazing job. Now that we want kids and have been trying I feel like my job is as much torture as it is amazing. I find myself feeling guilty for hearing all their stories of accidents and not needing another child and thinking why did they get pregnant and not me.