Anxiety disorder and pregnancy

[kierley]

How can those doctors have been so rude to you considering all that you have been through... I can understand why you feel anxious but to say that would affect you as a mum is horrid. If anything I think it can make you a lot more careful and you watch your child more. I must admit with my last son I was so paronoid something would happen to him every snuffle cough was a pproblem but I think I got to know him very quickly and the bond we have is wonderful. Stupid doctors dont listen to them.

I had a breakdown in oct 2009 I think a long time coming tbh i'd been on anti derpressants on and off for years but they didnt do much to help. I havent gone through loosing parents which must be hard especially so young. I lost my step sister when she was five months pregnant that was hard. But mainly I hadn't accepted the health problems I'd had since I was young and It seemed one thing after another eventually it got to much..

the meds I went on for the best but looking back I just wanted to block everything out the quietpine made me sleep about an hour after taking them I was like a zombie and the more they increased them the loger it took me to get up in the day. My mum had to take over care for my kids and it was the lowest time in my life. The withdrawel was the worst and that is not an experience I want to repeat. I think I need to learn coping stratagies but there are not courses or anything her to help it seems meds or nothing.

Dont ever feel your a bad mum though no one is perfect but your the perfect mum for your family. xxx

 

[Tink1o5]

Ya i was kinda in shock with the remark my doc made. I couldnt believe the heartlessness. If you dont mind me asking how did you sis pass? and im so sorry for your loss

 

[kierley]

Well overall it was put down to sudden adult death syndrome. she suffered with epilepsy and at first the doctors thought it was that but they noticed one of her heart value was slightly inflamed but not enough to cause a problem. Really we have never got a proper answer adult death syndrome to me means were just not sure.

Thing is she had been fine she was five months pregnant with her second baby had been getting ready for an evening out. her partner found her collapsed she'd run her bath but hadn't made it in little man was in his cot. It was all very emotional and very hard it really hit me being she was younger than me. Three days after she died I found out I was pregnant with my second son. It took a long time to come to terms with it and accept what had happened. xx