Any one feel like they are never going to ttc?

[lozzy21]

Yes i know its getting ever so slowly closer but it feels likeim never going to get there and when i do OH is going to change his mind.

I just want a baby so bad and i feel im not going to get the chance

 

[calm]

I do worry, yes. I will be soon 33, and on the one hand I know many a people that got pregnant at my age and a lot older, but on the other hand I can feel the tick tock of time going by.

You are only 21, should hubby change his mind, you will only be 23, you have time and time to have a zillion children (will hubby number 2 that keeps to his promises). I know that when you are broody and want a baby now it is not much of a comfort what I am saying but, I wish I was 21, not because I want to be that particular age again, just so that I would have so much TTC time ahead of me.

 

[Cinnamon]

I do feel like time is going slow, ,maybe specially today AF appeared... Anyhow, I'm hoping DH will be able to keep the idea up as he's already asking me things... Be positive hun. xxxx

 

[calm]

You know when times goes slowly? When you look all the time at your watch. Thats why I don't like tickers.

 

[Cinnamon]

True, my mum always says: "a watched kettle never boils"!!!
I try not to look at my ticker, I just like to have it there.

 

[calm]

I think the worse are the tickers saying when LO is going to be born and it says something like, only 200 days until he he/she is born, and I am like: only?????

 

[lozzy21]

Il be 24 when we ttc, thats if he dosent change his mind. What if we have problems and it takes us years.

There is nothing stopping us ttc now apart from him not being ready. No debt,Wont be able to buy for years so were not witing for that. We could afford a child now. No collage no uni. Its driving me nuts.

 

[Cinnamon]

It's tough having to wait for someone else, but as you're both going to be parent, you would also like him to wait for you if you weren't ready. I know it doesn't make you feel any better but you're doing a great job at having patience love. xxxxxx

 

[lozzy21]

It's tough having to wait for someone else, but as you're both going to be parent, you would also like him to wait for you if you weren't ready. I know it doesn't make you feel any better but you're doing a great job at having patience love. xxxxxx

Were both going to be parents but its me thats going to be carrying it for 9m and then taking a year off work to care for the baby. Its way harder being a mummy than a daddy.

 

[Cinnamon]

It's tough having to wait for someone else, but as you're both going to be parent, you would also like him to wait for you if you weren't ready. I know it doesn't make you feel any better but you're doing a great job at having patience love. xxxxxx

Were both going to be parents but its me thats going to be carrying it for 9m and then taking a year off work to care for the baby. Its way harder being a mummy than a daddy.

I don't think I'm with you on that one, I've seen mum's that can't be bothered and dad's that do all the work and vice versa. Also I think an invloved OH goes through the same joys and pains as he will be by you all the time. Nine months more is nothing to be a good parent. I know Dh will hop over to the gasoline station at 2 in the morning if I "fancy an ice-cream" or anything else when preggers. That's something I wouldn't do if I had to... What I mean by this is you both have to be equal to bring a child up. xxxx

 

[lozzy21]

See i doubt my oh would do that. Its a battle just to get him to do the housework yet alone do his share of getting up at 6am and changing nappys.

 

[Cinnamon]

He needs to mature first and you'll find he'll cope better with a LO when that has happened. I think you will be happier when that happens, just have to give him space hun. xxxxxxx

 

[buttonnose82]

when i first started coming on here i had a ticker that was set for june next year when we start TTC, but it seemed so far away, so i changed it to a smaller goal of december when i stop taking my pill, it seems to move so much faster i also have a list of 'goals' i want to achieve before we start TTC, that also helps pass the time, you need to try and focus not on the end product (the baby) but what you can be doing now to make your lifes easier/happy for when the time that baby finally does arrive.

 

[lozzy21]

when i first started coming on here i had a ticker that was set for june next year when we start TTC, but it seemed so far away, so i changed it to a smaller goal of december when i stop taking my pill, it seems to move so much faster i also have a list of 'goals' i want to achieve before we start TTC, that also helps pass the time, you need to try and focus not on the end product (the baby) but what you can be doing now to make your lifes easier/happy for when the time that baby finally does arrive.

The problem is hun, iv allready came off bcp as it was giving me nasty side affects and i there is nothing i need/want to do before ttc. Absolutly nothing.
Iv just removed my ticker.

 

[Serene123]

I'm in two minds about alot of things on this thread.

Me and Rich weren't ready for a baby, him more than me. He was so immature, and so... me, me, me, but things happen and he's a great daddy now. Since the minute she was born hes had to learn to put her first all the time but he has done so. She's his daughter and he'd do anything for her.

Ever heard the saying a mum becomes a mum when she's pregnant but a dad becomes a dad when he holds his baby for the first time?

That said, if he doesn't want a baby and you've spoken about it and he's adiment then I guess you just have to respect his decision (no matter how selfish you think it is) and wait

 

[Vesta]

I feel the same way. We've set a date for December this year, but I have this awful feeling he's going to change his mind. We're only waiting because he doesn't feel ready. We both have jobs, we're married, we own our own home, and our only debt is our mortgage and one cheap loan I took out while working for the bank.

 

[needausername]

I know the feeling. It feels like I have to wait forever and everyday it gets longer and shorter. I'm waiting for an appointment for a specialist for a health problem and I feel like I can't do anything with my life until I have my health sorted. Then its the little matter of OH making up his mind.

 

[orange-sox]

Me I feel the same... Through the beginnng of my pregnancy Andrew was adamant he didn't want Seb... then we got back on track and were planning our whole lives together. Then we lost Seb... and TTC is forever away. I'm not wanting to replace my little boy in any way, shape or form, but I still want another baby.

He refuses to discuss it, it's not like I say I want another baby and he says no... he won't even talk about Seb so I dunno what's going on anymore...

 

[amylk87]

I know how you feel on the wait. We literally have to wait because of my uni, so i can understand why you'd be frustrated if there is nothing holding you back at the moment.
Just think how quick this year has gone so far, its already june - so hopefully the wait won't seem as long as it is.

 

[princess_bump]

oh sweetie, i don't no what to say or can say to make it any better for you, i just no your going to be a fab mummy and i wanted to send you big big xxxx