Any other summer D&C's trying for fall BFP?

[Laska5]

I had a late july/early August miscarriage with a D&C on August 15th. It's been a very trying time & emotionally exhausting & friends keep bugging me on when we'll start trying again! I do feel ready & desperately want a baby of my own!


Would love to have some other fall ttc buddies!! I'm on CD 5 & will be testing on October 23rd!! Anyone else?

 

[sunshine2014]

Me!!! I had a miscarriage this summer as well. D&c on July 19. We tried last cycle but my body was still not right, long period and short cycle. I'm hoping this month we are good to go. I'll be testing October 18/19!!

 

[HopingCarter]

Hi Laska don't know if my late summer/early fall MC qualifies, but as you know already I had my MC on 9/5, D&C on 9/8 and I'm actually waiting for my first AF so that I can try again too!! I would love to join you!

Now brace yourself, but: How long did you wait for your first AF? When do you actually plan to try? Are you using the tracking system too (charts, temps, HPTs, OPKs, etc)? Sorry for all the questions. Thanks in advance

 

[dan-o]

Hi Laska yep me! Got our genetic report back on Friday, and the baby we lost was a little girl with a fatal chromosome defect, so no reason to wait to TTC. Just got to keep going and hope for a healthy one. On cd7 of my first normal cycle today xxx ( last month was all over the place)

 

[Laska5]

Thanks for joining girlies!! Dan-o it's good to hear from you! Hope you are doing well!

I'm feeling a bit frustrated- I'm pretty sure I started AF but now the bleeding hasn't stopped, I'm usually only on Af for 4 days & I'm on cd7 now. So who knows what's going on with my body!!

& that counts to me hopingcarter!

 

[MommytoLBG]

Hi girls! So many familiar ladies here

We are taking a break this coming fertile window and next...So that will be a November try with a bfp in December. But anything is possible when O hits! So we will see how it all plays out. I am eager but scared...

Oh d&c for me June 30.

As far as AF...used to bleed about 3-4 days, now AF is here for at least 7 with spotting until dc 10 or 11.

Good luck!!

 

[Laska5]

Thank you mommytolbg, I'm here at CD12 when I should be BD'ing for baby but I'm still bleeding. I don't know what to think, very very frustrated!!

 

[sunshine2014]

My first af was in September, it was unusually long (10 days) and came early (23 days from when it first started). So I knew September was not going to happen. This is the second cycle, and it was more regular. Af lasted normal 4 days, and I even felt mittelschmerz. I'm now 5dop (around) and planning to test next week. It is such a frustrating process, especially the first cycle after the loss. It takes awhile for your body to heal and be ready for the next pregnancy. So I'm hoping this month, or next will be the one. Fingers crossed for all of us.

Any symptoms in the tww that you're having?

 

[HopingCarter]

Thanks Mommytolbg, I know you're taking a break right now, but I hope you get your BFP by surprise! FX for you

Laska, I know how you're feeling!! I'm still waiting for my first AF! I've been crampy, bad mood swings, sore boobs, so I know she's on her way, I just haven't seen any blood yet, so I can even try yet, just practice. FX that you're bleeding stops and mines start! What cycle are you on? I know you're on CD12 but did this happen in your other cycles too?

FX that you get your BFP next week Sunshine!! I hope you have a sticky in there..

 

[MommytoLBG]

Hi girls! not sure if this will help or just hinder a bit...but my D&C was June 30. AF arrived 21 days later. Lasted almost 2 weeks (heavy bleeding for a few days, followed by spotting). Which mine pre mmc were always 4 days long. Each month since, AF arrived between cd 25-27. But they last 4-5 days, then I spot on and off for at least 11. They are completely different since D&C. My dr said this is normal and not to be concerned yet. I do however still O around cd 14. Based on opks and cm. AF is due Saturday, so let's see when she actually arrives. So you can still O even with bleeding...why does being a girl have to be so difficult???

And I know many of you will read this same thing a few times but now hubbie thinks we should ntnp this month. So we are just going with it. We will see what happens come O time.

Fx for all of us!!!

 

[HopingCarter]

Oh no Mommy! I'm sorry to hear he changed his mind. Maybe it was just to relieve some of the stress off the both of you from not seeing that bfn every month. I know it's frustrating to hear that, because I would be furious if my Dh suggested it, but TTC is a hard road for both parties, especially when we want it so badly. I still hope you get a bfp though soon! Sometimes those are the best surprises when you're not officially trying. FX for you

 

[MommytoLBG]

Thanks Hoping!!

 

[Laska5]

Thanks Mommytolbg, I know you're taking a break right now, but I hope you get your BFP by surprise! FX for you

Laska, I know how you're feeling!! I'm still waiting for my first AF! I've been crampy, bad mood swings, sore boobs, so I know she's on her way, I just haven't seen any blood yet, so I can even try yet, just practice. FX that you're bleeding stops and mines start! What cycle are you on? I know you're on CD12 but did this happen in your other cycles too?

FX that you get your BFP next week Sunshine!! I hope you have a sticky in there..

I haven't really stopped bleeding since the d&c on August 15th so I'm not really sure if I'm even in my first cycle since the mc! arg! Still quiet a bit of bleeding today. I guess we can still try to do some BDing if hubby doesn't get too grossed out - I'm sure he wouldn't mind- it has been awhile! lol!
Since today is now CD13, we need to get on the ball in case I really do ovulate this week.

 

[Laska5]

Just found this link & it's very helpful. I've been in denial that my doctor left tissue in me. I know he had a second doctor assist, it was done at a hospital where my husband works & everyone knows my husband so I guess I completely trusted that they would do a thorough job - guess not! Going to finally make an appointment with the doctor again.
https://www.pregnancyloss.info/waitingforaf.htm

 

[Laska5]

OK ladies I am LIVID!!! I just logged into my online hospital account where you can make an appointment. This is all new to me but I have unread messages from September 5th telling me that I needed another HCG level & that I needed to take an antibiotic medication!!! WHAT IN THE WORLD!?!?!? I never heard from my doctor after I found out my lab result so I thought it was normal. I knew that I could send a doctor a message through this account but I did not know my doctor would actually be sending me messages & then not following up when things weren't done! wow- this is why I want to work with a NP midwife & not a doctor! Doctors have too many patients & try to cram in too many things into one day!

 

[Kika7]

Laska, thanks for the link, it is GREAT!

Did you have a ultrasound 10-14 days after the DC? if ultrasound showed no retained tissue then you're fine and bleeding is all over the place due to hormones trying to balance and go back to normal.

My u/s 14 days after medical treatment showed no retained tissue and they still made me take a pregnancy test...

I was given antibiotics at the hospital and had to take them for 20 days but i only took them 15 days and i think im ok.

Do you know if you've ovulated this cycle or are you still waiting for O? I really hope you don't have retained tissue and if i were you i'd probably try this cycle unless u/s and doctor are certain you shouldn.t. They give antibiotics after miscarriage cause of the higher risk of infections due to dilated cervix (that's on the link you shared).

We cant try yet cause my partner and i live in different countries, but we'll be back together (hopefully forever) in November. And ...he suggested waiting till December *argh* *haha* but we shall see... I'm desperate...

Good luck to everyone trying and hopefully you girls move to the pregnancy forum in a couple weeks time and the rest of us follow you in a couple months if not sooner.

hugs

 

[sunshine2014]

Laska,

I'm so sorry that happened! That is truly frustrating. They should have followed up with you. I needed to have blood work to watch the hcg level, they made me come in once a week for 5 weeks, because it wasn't dropping enough. But I only knew to do that because my Doctor told me after she found out about my miscarriage from the OB. I wasn't on any medication or anything after. It did take a long while for my body to heal, even my last cycle was not normal. Hubby is a doctor and said that my body wasn't ready for normal ovulation. It's now the first cycle after and it went as normal, perhaps a little early..but it was as long as it normally is. The frustrating part is that we expect our bodies to heal as soon as possible, but we forget that it does take time. It's something that unfortunately we can't control

It will happen though, for all of us.

 

[HopingCarter]

OMG Laska! I would be livid too!! I'm so sorry you had to find out that way. Have you called them since to at least ask why they wouldn't contact you and inform you, especially being that it's been over a month since the message! Did your hubby have any idea why they would just leave something like that up in the air? That's just so insensitive of them in my eyes. Wow!
Thanks for the link too! Very informative. Now I know I could be waiting a couple more weeks for AF, not the best of news but I'm glad I have an idea now of how much longer.

Hi Kika7! I'm sorry about your loss. I know it can be frustrating to live in a different country than your partner, but I hope you guys get to be together permanently in November. FX

How's everyone today?

 

[Kika7]

The link is amazing, i was wondering why ovulation test said i was ovulating 14 days after miscarriage and i experiences a lot of the mucus and ovulation symptoms, i was wondering if it's normal...but link says it is and that ovulation kit would give false positive, wow! Now I know

Laska, i'm sorry you're going through that :/ I still hope that you could just take the antibiotics without it sabotaging your cycle... I'm really not sure what else they could do about retained tissue? Sending prayers, hugs and love your way...

Thank you, HopingCarter, i hope AF pays you visit soon and i hope my partner and i solve our distance issue..., trouble is neither of us wants to move country I kind of have days when I say to myself "what the heck I'll move", then we get it all set and the day before i move i cant do it... But hopefully in November i wont back down...

Hugs

 

[Laska5]

glad others have found the link helpful! Thank you for the advice everyone!

I am so still so VERY VERY frustrated! I never had an ultrasound done since the d&c- doctor never said I needed one.

I also got this message from the doctor's nurse today:

"Dr. Steed is aware that you have just read your messages. He apologizes for the misunderstanding. He always uses My Mercy when it is active to communicate results.

Please let me know if you are having an urinary symptoms at this point, so we can resend the antibiotics if needed.

Dr. Steed will be glad to follow up with you regarding your bleeding and quant levels, or you can follow up at the Birthing Center if you choose.

Please let me know if I can assist with an appointment for you."


I just feel like this is all very sloppy & kind of feel like they are trying to push me back to the birthing center. I was originally going through a natural birthing center until the miscarriage and the oral pills wouldn't work for me then I was referred to this doctor from the birthing center. I've decided to just go back to them- this doctor obviously isn't on top of things! So I have an appointment tomorrow at 2 will I will probably vent & cry to the NP- I just love her- she was incredibly supportive & caring to me during the miscarriage!