Any Single Moms By Choice?

[mom2ty]

Good evening ladies,

I'm a single (divorced really) mom to a beautiful son. Having a family has always been a priority to me. So when my marriage ended I naturally was devastated, but was optimistic about some day having another child(ren). Unfortunately for me, I was told by my doctors that I would not be able to keep my uterus for much longer (pre cancerous cells), and if I plan on having anymore babies, the time is now. The problem is I'm no where near finding a partner to start a family with. Time is NOT on my side. It's much harder now, because I also have to consider my son's well being, and only getting with a man who will be a positive and loving influence. One day I was feeling down about everything, and then it hit me, I can do this on my own. I know I can adopt (I haven't ruled that option out for the future); however, I really want the experience of being pregnant again. I KNOW this won't be an easy journey, but one I feel I'm ready to take on. Tomorrow I go in for my consultation appt. for IUI. So...I'd love to hear from any ladies that have chosen to do this on their own. I want to hear the good and the bad...even the ugly. I know this post is sorta all over the place, but I'm giving a short hand account on a couple chapters of my life. No need to relive the gory details...right? Hope to hear from you all soon!

 

[littlekitten8]

Hi hun sorry I don't really have any advice for you but just wanted to wish you all the best. And sorry to hear that you have to be in this situation in the first place.

 

[tiggerlix]

iv chosen to be single thru choice and im raising 5 kids with 1 on the way.Just seems every relationship i get close to just doesnt feel right.Havnt got any advice on finding the right opartner to be honest as i thought all mine were at first.but i love raising my kids on my own and were very happy
xxx

 

[rosie5637]

i have a son too and am going to ttc next via AI. i am currently doing my research so i can be as prepared as possible. there is a great thread in the long term ttc/assisted conception section about using donor sperm and the ladies are lovely and can give you lots of advice. i'm sure some of them wouldn't mind if you sent them personal messages if you have any questions.

there is also a website you can look at called choicemoms. the founder also has a book on the same subject, i got mine from amazon. it will answer lots of questions about what/how to tell the kids etc etc.

all the best and good luck!

 

[tld223]

I am a single mom to 3 great kids with another one the way. I divorced my husband while pregnant with my last. I made the mistake of getting pregnant again right now (my daughter is 3 months) but I wouldn't change it for the world. Its is hard a heck some days trying to get everything figured out, as my older two are special needs and home schooled. On the positive side, my relationship with my 10 and 12 year old boys is amazing. We have grown closer than ever and even though they are approaching their teens, they respect the fact that I am doing it alone. No matter what anyone tells you, you can do it. You'll have days where you kick yourself for it but it can be done. Good luck.

 

[supriseBump_x]

Im single by choice, i know i've not had bubs yet but Iv done the whole pregnancy on my own Just think u get to have baby all to yourself But then on the downside, your on your own for night feeds, sleepless nights, money issues...

Good and bad on both sides, but if i was you i'd definitely do it, if its now or never, i wouldn't want to miss out on that chance of being a mum again

Hope it all goes well xxx

 

[QuintinsMommy]

Me and FOB broke up even before I knew I was pregnant.
so I did it all single

its worth it, go for it hun, Hope you get your BFP

 

[maybemama]

Hi... so glad to have found this site! I am taking the very first steps in looking at all of my options in "going it alone" as recently turned 37 and beginning to accept that prince charming may not be round the corner...
(Rosie - thanks for the choicemoms website!)
mmm x