any single mummies to be... living with FOB?

[McLovin]

Bit of a strange situation here, but hoping to find someone in similar position as possible...... (although we all know that, "nobody could possibly be worse off than me!!!" lol)

So anyone living with their' FOB's, but not as a couple?

 

[suzanne108]

Not in this situation....thank god. That must be horrible for you!

I saw another thread where you said you were still together because he doesn't want to be judged by people that know you are pregnant. Well, my FOB did a similar thing...when we split up he said "can we pretend we're still together for a while, because otherwise people will think I'm a dick" ...... erm news for you....you are a dick!!! hehe!! He was more bothered about what people would think than the fact that we were actually splitting up.

He even said "I'm not ending the relationship on facebook because then everyone will know" ..... when it all boils down to it all he cared about was effing facebook!!!!!!!!!!! I was so angry....and although I don't give a shit about facebook I promptly ended the relationship on mine, then logged in as him and did the same. Hehe! He never replied to anyones comments about why we had broke up....the idiot.

Sorry went off on one a bit there

I'm sure you understand what they do to us!!!! xxx

 

[lou_w34]

Im not in the same situation, but lots of
It cant be the nicest or easiest thing to do!

 

[McLovin]

Not in this situation....thank god. That must be horrible for you!

I saw another thread where you said you were still together because he doesn't want to be judged by people that know you are pregnant. Well, my FOB did a similar thing...when we split up he said "can we pretend we're still together for a while, because otherwise people will think I'm a dick" ...... erm news for you....you are a dick!!! hehe!! He was more bothered about what people would think than the fact that we were actually splitting up.

He even said "I'm not ending the relationship on facebook because then everyone will know" ..... when it all boils down to it all he cared about was effing facebook!!!!!!!!!!! I was so angry....and although I don't give a shit about facebook I promptly ended the relationship on mine, then logged in as him and did the same. Hehe! He never replied to anyones comments about why we had broke up....the idiot.

Sorry went off on one a bit there

I'm sure you understand what they do to us!!!! xxx

I know it's totally like... "well don't do something if you're ashamed of it mate!"
He's the same with facebook too... mainly because we have a lot of mutual WORK colleagues on there (I used to work where he works). He said that me putting on face book (after 3 month scan) that I was going to be a mummy was "slating him!"..... so what... were you going to keep it a secret from your work?! Even though all your friends think it's all sweetness n' light!?
Mine even attempted to hide from his parents that we had split up for a while.... and lied to me, pretending he wanted to get back together so that I would attend his friend's wedding with him. PR*CK!
(it does feel good to have a rant! especially with someone who understands!)

 

[suzanne108]

Oohhh rant away, I don't mind...I do it allllll the time!! Makes me feel better sometimes, and its good to know that other people are in similar situations. Horrible for you, but nice to know I'm not the only one!

I think a lot of FOBs friends/family/work colleagues don't know that I'm pregnant. Only if they are mutual friends on FB or have heard through gossip..he hasn't actually told anyone apart from his parents.

I think a lot of people will be verrrrrry surprised to find out he's had a baby when LO arrives. And he will feel 10 times more ashamed then won't he? Hehehe!

So how come you haven't kicked the idiot out? Is there no one you can stay with? Or tell him you need to live separate, that its too stressful for you to live together? Are you married?

PM me anytime xxx

 

[lou_w34]

I wouldnt worry about the FOB not telling his family or friends, mine hasent even told his parents yet, and soon the babies gunna be here. He's not going to ever tell them either as its the type of person he is. Just think of it in a good way, after all he'll be the one in the shit when they eventually do find out heehee

 

[McLovin]

aww thanks love!
Well we did have a 1 bed place together, and he left and stayed at his brothers for 2 months... basically told me I was on my own with the whole thing... wouldn't even say he wanted me to have an abortion or anything (until 18 weeks and I could tell he didn't really want me to) If you search for threads that I've started you'll get the whole pic from one of them.
Then he came up with the idea of just living together but with seperate lives.... I didn't want to do it but the council weren't 'able' to help me and I could only afford to live in shared accomodation (which honestly who is going to be ok when I bring a screaming new born home?!). Anyway our tenancy agreement is joint and i cant afford the rent on my own any way. No unfortunately no where else to go : (

I sometimes hope he will meet someone new and ride off into the sunset with her!

 

[purpledahlia]

oh gosh that must be hard living with him! are u gonna move out?

 

[bloodbinds]

I was in this situation. We broke up and i had no where else to go, so i stayed living with him. It was easy for the most of it, i knew things had changed between us, and i had accepted we weren't right for each other.

But then one night i completely broke down in tears, i told him i needed him to hold me and tell me everything is going to be ok. But he refused, saying he won't lie to me.

That was hard. I wanted just for one night, to pretend things were as normal, and we were together and happy and in love. I understand why he didn't want to - he doesn't love me anymore - and pretending he did is only going to hurt me more in the long run.

Once i finished my job i moved back to birmingham to live with my parents. It's a lot easier now - though i know i still love him (damn him) i can't blame him for falling out of love with me and i've found it easier to move on, being here without him.

I don't know your situation, it depends on your feelings i think - but it's probably healthier for both of you if one of you moved out x

 

[BrightonsMa]

I was in the same situation. Problem was I thought we were together and he did not at all.. Then when I finally said listen here buddy quit being an a hole we broke up cuz i found out how it really was. It was alright cuz we still got along but i found it also really difficult because if he would go out or hung out with other people i would get jealous.. it just wasnt healthy. and i found it harder to heal then rather than living with my grandma now. then i talk to him about why he even asked me to live with him he said... well i thought it was the right thing to do since you were pregnant with my baby and i didnt wanna seem like "that guy" wtf your an idiot... if you can do it props to you i just found ut really difficult and very complicated

 

[McLovin]

If I had any other choice I would not be doing it. I hate it so much but I just have to accept it and that's even more annoying..... it's like he knows he can be as nasty as he wants because he knows I am stuck there.
All I need is a rich and generous gay man to offer me a wing of his mansion... then I'll be on my way! lol....... (but seriously if you do know of one...?!)

 

[edinsam]

im looking for one too lol!

 

[AppleBlossom]

I lived with my ex for a month until he finally left. It was weird but I was scared of people finding out because it made me feel like I'd failed. I kept thinking maybe he would change his mind. Do you intend to move out? If you do it'll be the best thing you'll ever do

 

[McLovin]

If I could then I would, but I really have no where to move to...... any offers...?