anyone due af around 7th august? 6BFPS!!!!!!!!!!!

[lucy_smith]

I have got my fingers crossed for you!!!!!!!!

Have you told anyone about your tests/ appointments? What about your boss? How do you explain all these appointments with your boss?

 

[London Kiwi]

Ive been googling like mad today and I think its probably the acupuncture thats delayed it a little. I told my husband about it and he's discouraged me from buying a more expensive test just yet, he doesnt want me to get upset. But as I told him, i'd be expecting it to be a BFN anyway... i'll wait one more day.

In regards to my appointments / boss. I've been pretty lucky and for all my bloods etc i've been able to go early in the morning and before work. With my appointment last week she was on leave so that was easy! And going forward i told her a slight little white lie
I said that i had an abnormal smear so I would be needing a day off coming up for a minor operation. I felt bad lying!!

 

[lucy_smith]

i have no idea what im going to tell my bosses, ive always been open with them about my health/ appointments before. I even told them as soon as i found out i was pregnant! but i dont know what im going to tell them this time round....

i havnt even told my mum or dad and any friends about our struggle yet, but think im going to have to tell them when i get my appointment through..... have you told any family/friends yet?

 

[London Kiwi]

Do you think you could be honest with them again?

I would wait until your first appointment and then you might have to let them know. The reason I say that is because the appointments are set days. Eg. CD2-4 then CD10-14, 21-23 so they are quite specific days. Im lucky that my boss doesnt work in the same office as me most of the week so i've managed to avoid having to tell her thus far.

We have confided in one set of friends. I basically got drunk and let it all out, haha. She herself had alot of issues and his mum works in a gynae surgery so they are great to talk to. Apart from them & my acupuncturist (does that count?!), no one else knows. Im not sure I want anyone else to know as yet, purely to avoid all the questions and people wondering if im pregnant everytime i see them!

 

[lucy_smith]

Got my bfs results, turns out he has an abnormality and his sperm swim the wrong way/ all over the place . Bf isn't very good at explaining ... lol
He has to take vitamins for 3 months and then see what the results are then

 

[London Kiwi]

Swim the wrong way and all over the place?! Random!
Happy for you that the results have come back and you have an answer and a cure!
Just today I ordered DH some Proxeed online as the acupuncturist said it was good for sperm. Aggh all this TTC stuff really adds up ££
Are you going to continue with your fertility appointments? Get the ball rolling a bit or wait until his 3month vitamin intake is up?

 

[lucy_smith]

Swim the wrong way and all over the place?! Random!
Happy for you that the results have come back and you have an answer and a cure!
Just today I ordered DH some Proxeed online as the acupuncturist said it was good for sperm. Aggh all this TTC stuff really adds up ££
Are you going to continue with your fertility appointments? Get the ball rolling a bit or wait until his 3month vitamin intake is up?

Just googled the sperm issue and I think what he has is low/poor motility
He has to quit smoking , cut out booze and take vitamins and get a healthier lifestyle . He isn't impressed with quoting smoking ..... I try to explain that all he needs to do is give up, if I have a hormone issue or anything I need hormones and surgery!! He has got to deal with what I could possibly have to deal with!
I just bought vitamins and it's sooo expensive! And have to buy more sticks for my monitor..... it's costing a fortune!

I'm going to keep going, just because bfs sperm isn't quite 100% doesn't mean I'm fine , would rather keep going and hopefully get to find out any issues

 

[London Kiwi]

Definitely a change to his lifestyle, but you're right - we have to go through alot so a couple of changes for them cant hurt!
The Proxeed turned up yesterday and my husband had his first sachet last night and said it was absolutely disgusting but when I reminded him of everything I have gone through he soon shut up haha.

The proxeed also helps with motility - not sure if you've looked it up. My acupuncture bloke recommended it as DHs sperm was 'normal' but very borderline normal so this will help. Its pricey but hopefully worth it. We bought it on amazon.

I agree that you should def go to your appointments / get your tests done as you said, it might be more than one factor.
Im still waiting for my surgery date, the NHS works on 18 week referrals so I must almost be nearing that from the first appointment i had. I'd quite like to get through one more cycle first so would be nice if I get a call in Feb.

As AF was so late this month (my first ever 32 day cycle, the acupuncture is definitely doing something inside) i'll be testing on Valentines day unless AF gets me first. Im not a huge Valentines romantic but It would def be nice to get that BFP!

 

[lucy_smith]

af turned up today, which im not suprised about.
but this spotting 7 days before has now turned into spotting/ bleeding on an off for the week before af....... really starting to annoy me now

bf is being great with his vitamins dont need to remind him ! which is great haha
...... smoking and drinking on the other hand...... i dont know what to do, he just isnt interested in giving up, he a 'it will happen when it happens ' kind of guy and it turns out my dr pretty much told him the same thing! im so upset that he isnt fully committing and i dont even have anyone to talk to about it

 

[London Kiwi]

Sorry about AF Lucy

Great that he's taking all his vitamins, DH has been taking his proxeed also but says he absolutely hates the taste! Small sacrifice to make I think given what we go through.

I probably need to curb my drinking a little too. Im not a every day drinker, but I certainly like the odd drink in the weekends. If I knew that it would actually help me get pregnant i'd totally give it up but I wonder what effect it really has...

I need to pick up some ovulation sticks this week as I expect to Ovulate this weekend. Im actually starting to get a bit sick of this month on month.... I wonder how long until I lose my shit. haha.

 

[lucy_smith]

Just phoned the dr as I still haven't had a date for my referral. I'm raging!! Turns out my dr has decided that I have to wait 3 f**king months to see if bfs sperm gets better before referring me !
Had enough of this now!
And to top it all of my spotting 7 days before af seems to be turning into bleeding / spotting on and off for a week before af starts and I feel like I'm constantly bleeding

 

[London Kiwi]

No way?!
that is really SHIT.
Surely you are independent of each other, he's getting sorted but you still need to be looked at incase there is more than one issue?
Is there any way that you can get a second opinion at your doctor?
I would be totally pissed off if I was you?

That sucks about the bleeding. Have you thought about acupuncture? it helps all sorts of issues in regards to bleeding/pain.
The only thing is its a bit expensive. My first session was £48, now its £42/week. I will go until I finally get a BFP then maybe reduce it to once every 3 weeks as its good for blood flow and relaxation. Tomorrow is my 4th session, hopefully i'll see some results soon. I have to say since i've been going im sleeping alot better.

 

[lucy_smith]

I'm loosing hope
Turned my spare room which I was waiting to turn into another bedroom into my study/ sewing room. Bought new furniture for it, think I've given up and trying to get use to the idea of only having one child....
I'm going to see if this bleeding carries on this cycle again, if it does then I'm going to phone her and get an appointment and will probably go nuts if how I'm feeling just now is anything to go by!!!

 

[London Kiwi]

I totally get what you are saying, as i said earlier - Im wondering how long it is until I lose my shit.
I think we will only have the one when I finally do get pregnant, I dont think that I can go through all this TTC again!
Nice re; The sewing room. My mum was huge into her sewing, my little sister has started getting into it the past year or so. Nice therapeutic way to pass time

 

[lucy_smith]

got a phone appointment with my dr on wed, going to try and persuade her to get some tests done, im also going to say about the fact im bleeding for 2 weeks and see what she says

bf and i started taking pragnacare conception and wellman conception, and my ovulation seems to have been pushed later because of it! ? im on cd 16 today and normally have my peak on 15/16 but i am still on highs! so wonder if this is a good or a bad thing!

how are you getting on ?

 

[London Kiwi]

Hey Lucy!

I think you should definitely say something, that bleeding for two weeks is crazy. They really need to get your appointments in full swing, your health is totally independent from your husbands so you should be treated as two separate cases in my opinion.

Well i've not had much luck in the health department either, I followed up to ask when my laparoscopy appointment will be... They said end of March / but more likely start of April. I know in the grand scheme of things it doesnt seem that far away, BUT they are supposed to see you within 18 weeks of your referral date, and I will be exceeding that.

Work has been absolute hell also... just need a break!! So we booked a 10-day holiday to Thailand to do absolutely nothing. Will be there over my next fertile period so you never know! I dont think we were lucky enough this month, we didnt really BD much...
I havent told my boss about my holiday as only booked it today so hopefully she says its ok as we leave on the 24th. She is leaving the Organisation soon anyway so I think her motivation is starting to decrease.

I desperately need a break - cant wait for the sun!!

As for pre-natals, im just taking folic acid and my husband is still drinking his Proxeed sachets. Might start something else soon.

To be honest, ive been totally laid back about it this month and now I have the holiday to look forward to, its all in the back of my mind... i was hoping the operation would be sooner but such is life.

Hope all is well with you apart from this conceiving malarkey!! The days are getting longer... spring time soon!

 

[lucy_smith]

Hey Lucy!

I think you should definitely say something, that bleeding for two weeks is crazy. They really need to get your appointments in full swing, your health is totally independent from your husbands so you should be treated as two separate cases in my opinion.

Well i've not had much luck in the health department either, I followed up to ask when my laparoscopy appointment will be... They said end of March / but more likely start of April. I know in the grand scheme of things it doesnt seem that far away, BUT they are supposed to see you within 18 weeks of your referral date, and I will be exceeding that.

Work has been absolute hell also... just need a break!! So we booked a 10-day holiday to Thailand to do absolutely nothing. Will be there over my next fertile period so you never know! I dont think we were lucky enough this month, we didnt really BD much...
I havent told my boss about my holiday as only booked it today so hopefully she says its ok as we leave on the 24th. She is leaving the Organisation soon anyway so I think her motivation is starting to decrease.

I desperately need a break - cant wait for the sun!!

As for pre-natals, im just taking folic acid and my husband is still drinking his Proxeed sachets. Might start something else soon.

To be honest, ive been totally laid back about it this month and now I have the holiday to look forward to, its all in the back of my mind... i was hoping the operation would be sooner but such is life.

Hope all is well with you apart from this conceiving malarkey!! The days are getting longer... spring time soon!

That's a bummer about your surgery!! Hope it's not too long a wait! Omg Thailand !! What an amazing break!! Hope you don't have hassle trying to get time off!

Still no peak this morning ......what have these vitamins done to me ?? Maybe I have been lacking in something all along?? I wonder if they will affect my lp too?

 

[London Kiwi]

Any sign of your peak yet?
Strange what certain things can do to your cycle / body. I hope you get it soon.

So I basically just told my boss I was going. I havent had a proper holiday in a good while so its about time She wasnt overly impressed but currently im contracting long term here so she couldnt really say anything as it was already booked anyway!

I CANT WAIT for the sunshine. 17 sleeps and counting

 

[London Kiwi]

Im out this month, AF Arrived.... and early I might add. Im a 28-day cycle without fail but the last two cycles have been weird. Last month was 31 days and then this month she showed up early on CD24.

Not sure whats the story there, I can only think its the acupuncture. So i'll speak to Angelo on Weds and mention it to him. I dont want to be spending £50/week if its only going to bugger my cycles up! But on a good note, its certainly making me sleep alot better which is fab.

Im not that disappointed this month as I had a feeling our timing was a little off and of course we are going to Thailand on the 24th so I will be able to enjoy some cocktails in the sun.

How are you getting on?

 

[lucy_smith]

Got my peaks on cd 18/19 which is a bit late. But at least I got it! I bet you are soo excited for holiday!

Told my mum about our struggles...don't think she really knew what to say. She never struggled and had loads of kids, but that doesn't bother me, I feel like by telling my mum a weight has been lifted glad I told her now