Anyone else expecting a November sparkler? *Updated with due dates!*

[Creative]

Laura, so sorry to hear your news.
Why not talk to your dad about your fears.

I had another horrific night. I'm suffering from a migraine and have been violently sick all night long. But ........... at least I am a peach now.

 

[Dazed125]

Sorry to hear of your loss laura

Happy Peach day Creative, sounds like you are really going through it ATM, hope things get getter soon

X

 

[Scarlett P]

Laura so sorry to hear your sad news

Creative hope you're feeling better soon! I've really found the sickness has eased since I've been a peach. Have had dreadful RL pain instead, but that's defo better than sickness!

Congrats on the scan littletoby! We had the same with LO not getting in the right position to be checked for Downs but it's great to be able to see them loads! I've got to go for a blood test to be checked now, is that what you've got to do too?

 

[littletobyj]

Laura so sorry to hear your sad news

Creative hope you're feeling better soon! I've really found the sickness has eased since I've been a peach. Have had dreadful RL pain instead, but that's defo better than sickness!

Congrats on the scan littletoby! We had the same with LO not getting in the right position to be checked for Downs but it's great to be able to see them loads! I've got to go for a blood test to be checked now, is that what you've got to do too?

Yes I have to have my bloods done at 16 +1 hate bloods, know its really soft but needles really freak me out!! I also have to have a glucose tolerance test at 26 weeks which I had with my first too, is this standard routine now?

 

[Scarlett P]

Laura so sorry to hear your sad news

Creative hope you're feeling better soon! I've really found the sickness has eased since I've been a peach. Have had dreadful RL pain instead, but that's defo better than sickness!

Congrats on the scan littletoby! We had the same with LO not getting in the right position to be checked for Downs but it's great to be able to see them loads! I've got to go for a blood test to be checked now, is that what you've got to do too?

Yes I have to have my bloods done at 16 +1 hate bloods, know its really soft but needles really freak me out!! I also have to have a glucose tolerance test at 26 weeks which I had with my first too, is this standard routine now?

Wow it's strange how much stuff varies from place to place - I was told they couldn't do my bloods til just after 14 wks so I'm booked in for that on Friday week! As for the glucose test I'm not sure, sorry.

I'm not keen on needles either - and I've got 2 tattoos! I have to look away it's not just the needle, I don't like seeing all the blood in those little bottles

 

[littletobyj]

Morning/evening girls.

Had a really I rubbish day went shopping just as I finished my dad phoned me to say that my uncle had died from major heart attack I haven't be able to stop crying since I have just woke up sobbing! The worst bit is its in a really selfish way!

When I'm pregnant I get really clingy to my dad when I was pregnant with Gertie and Grayson I lived with him and I had to make sure he was home on time each night cause I had bad feeling something was going to happen I would phone him all the time.

Well now I don't live with him and we have had this terrible news and I'm scared my dad is next or hie will do something silly ( he doesn't cope well with stuff like this ) he's my own only real parent I don't have much to do with my mum and I couldnt imagine how I would cope!!

I know it's just silly thoughts and I have them all the time now I'm older and people that I have grown up with are passing it makes it a million times worse now I'm pregnant!

Sorry for such a depressing post but I don't have anyone else to talk to!

Laura so sorry for your loss and I completely sympathise with how you are feeling as I went through the exact same thing with my dad a month ago. His brother passed suddenly and I couldn't stop crying. I wasn't incredibly close with my uncle but my dad was, he was hurting which really upset me. For a rare time I saw how vulnerable my dad was (we are really close) and it really scared me that something could happen to him too. It did feel very selfish, I couldn't bare to think what my cousins were going through losing their dad. I think a strong protective instinct comes out in you when pregnant, there is no control over it. I think we have both used it as reminder of precious life is and to make the most of every moment. I know that sounds so cliche!! I'm a big worrier at the best of times, I found that things returned to near normality eventually. Pregnancy emotions are a roller coaster

 

[littletobyj]

I can't even look if needles are involved, I think it stems from being in hospital as a child-I totally hate hospitals!! It is really silly and of course we have to do what we have to do!

 

[laura3103]

Morning/evening girls.

Had a really I rubbish day went shopping just as I finished my dad phoned me to say that my uncle had died from major heart attack I haven't be able to stop crying since I have just woke up sobbing! The worst bit is its in a really selfish way!

When I'm pregnant I get really clingy to my dad when I was pregnant with Gertie and Grayson I lived with him and I had to make sure he was home on time each night cause I had bad feeling something was going to happen I would phone him all the time.

Well now I don't live with him and we have had this terrible news and I'm scared my dad is next or hie will do something silly ( he doesn't cope well with stuff like this ) he's my own only real parent I don't have much to do with my mum and I couldnt imagine how I would cope!!

I know it's just silly thoughts and I have them all the time now I'm older and people that I have grown up with are passing it makes it a million times worse now I'm pregnant!

Sorry for such a depressing post but I don't have anyone else to talk to!

Laura so sorry for your loss and I completely sympathise with how you are feeling as I went through the exact same thing with my dad a month ago. His brother passed suddenly and I couldn't stop crying. I wasn't incredibly close with my uncle but my dad was, he was hurting which really upset me. For a rare time I saw how vulnerable my dad was (we are really close) and it really scared me that something could happen to him too. It did feel very selfish, I couldn't bare to think what my cousins were going through losing their dad. I think a strong protective instinct comes out in you when pregnant, there is no control over it. I think we have both used it as reminder of precious life is and to make the most of every moment. I know that sounds so cliche!! I'm a big worrier at the best of times, I found that things returned to near normality eventually. Pregnancy emotions are a roller coaster

Thank you that's exactly how I'm feeling I spoke to my dad this morning he seemed ok but he was at work!
I've been like it in both my other pregnancies but this time this as made it worse. My dad knows I'm here for him he normally phones in the middle of the night when he's drunk as that's the only time he lets his feeling show!

 

[rachael872211]

Laura i'm so sorry for your loss and the way you are feeling. Its good that you talked to your dad. My dad is the same in the respect that he will only show his feelings when he has had a drink! xx

That mural looked fantastic. We are in rented at the mo and hope to buy soon which is when I can get creative! I would do a simelar thing of a nature scene. I think it looks lovely.
We have the baby room ready, only because we havent taken the cot down from Lennie! We changed all the rooms around and Lennie was in the small room and now my DD is in the small room and Lennie has gone into big room with the cot and his masses of toys.

My uterus is just above my belly button but I think my womb is pretty stretched! I looked at all my first scan pictures for all my kiddies and the difference is remarkable! My DD has no space around her, DS has a fair bit and this one has loads! Could probably fit three in there! Which I think explains my uterus being where it is. x

 

[littletobyj]

Laura, my dad isn't great with feelings-he puts up this big tough exterior to people who don't know him and he forgets that I know that really he is a big softy inside, I think it makes it even harder to deal with though because when I know he is hurting its even harder to reach out to him-he is very stubborn too! He loves spending time with my son which normally cheers him up and takes his mind off other stuff-it's amazing how kids do that isn't it, like their innocence and happiness is infectious! Hope you're feeling a bit better today though, I imagine you will feel a bit odd and teary for a while, I couldn't seem to shake it off!

 

[miss_kseniya]

Morning ladies, hope everyone is ok?

Hugs to Laura

I had a letter this morning asking me to attend an appointment with the consultant when I will be almost 22 weeks. My midwife referred me because of a previous ectopic which seems weird as you would have thought the difficulty would have been in getting pregnant (as I only have one tube) and not actually being pregnant. Is anyone else having consultant-led care? Just seems strange that's all as I am considered low risk pregnancy and my nuchal screening came back fine with a 1/100000 chance of downs.

 

[Gemie]

Oh lau! I'm sorry about your uncle all you can do is let your dad know you're there for him whenever he needs you. People are stronger and more resilient that you think I am sure he'll be fine and you too for that matter

As for the diabetes test I'm having to have me too, last pregnancy they didn't do the full test you just had to go and have bloods drawn 2 hours after eating so I teamed it with my 20 week bloods but I was told they do the full thing now where you have one wait an hour drink a sugary drink then have another? Well it's done at a place I'm not comfortable with having bloods done ( can only have them done at my regular hopital as everywhere else poke and prod about and make me faint ) so I'm going to have to have a word with the mw as there is no possible way I'm doing that. I HATE having blood tests!!
Not everyone has them no usually if your bmi is higher than what they consider 'normal'

 

[babymonkey18]

I'm sry, Laura I hate thinking about losing my parents so i just try not to...and just make sure I talk to them a lot and always say I love you and be kind! I know that doesn't really help, but I know how you feel. Hopefully the feelings will get better!

I hope everyone talking about bloods has a good and fast experience. I was really scared when I got mine but it took like 30 seconds for everything. Only the needle going in stings for a second, and after that you don't even feel it. If you drink a lot of water over the 24 hrs before, it'll make the veins easier to find and blood come out quicker, so maybe try that and they won't be so proddy?

Love you girls, have a great day!

 

[Scarlett P]

Morning ladies, hope everyone is ok?

Hugs to Laura

I had a letter this morning asking me to attend an appointment with the consultant when I will be almost 22 weeks. My midwife referred me because of a previous ectopic which seems weird as you would have thought the difficulty would have been in getting pregnant (as I only have one tube) and not actually being pregnant. Is anyone else having consultant-led care? Just seems strange that's all as I am considered low risk pregnancy and my nuchal screening came back fine with a 1/100000 chance of downs.

That does seem really strange maybe you'll be signed back to the MW after the appointment? Looks like I'll be consultant led and my preg is classed as medium risk atm because of my asthma. Been told I'll have to have Diddy on the consultant led ward and am waiting to see the consultant who specialises in asthma in pregnancy. Have found it all very frustrating as I've lived my life without my asthma stopping me doing stuff, so I kinda forget about it most of the time!! Has your MW told you what to expect at your appointment?

 

[Dazed125]

Miss K, I also have consultant lead care for no reason other than I was having fertility treatment. My midwife said my consultant just likes to keep an eye on everyone he has treated and the only difference is I will have an appointment or two along the way with him on top of my midwife appointments. I can't see the point either to be honest but I suppose the extra attention is nice!! x

 

[Angeltk42]

Ok I have a question-- it's not about me but my BFF is preggo like 3 weeks ahead of me so she is about 19 weeks well she had a private gender scan yesterday and they said Boy.... Her husband and her really wanted a girl. So she said she isn't convinced its a boy! I thought when u had gender scans and they said girl there was a chance it could be boy bc the parts might not have been developed but if they say boy what could the chances it really is a girl? I mean if they see boy bits isn't it pretty much a done deal? Hahaha idk just curious on everyone's take! Oh it was a 3D scan.

 

[Dazed125]

I've been told by 2 sonographers that they like to be cautious if its a girl incase the "bits" are hiding but if its a boy it's a boy.... Suppose there is always a chance of it being wrong but I wouldn't think it's very likely, especially by 19 weeks..

 

[Angeltk42]

Yeah that is what I was thinking.

Ok so here is a funny weird thing... She posted on her October baby board on FB (she added me to the board I guess she thought my due date was late Octoboer) But since I'm 11/1 I stay on the Oct board on FB just to read about girls a few weeks ahead. Well she posted on there about them saying it's a boy but she isn't convinced. Well I just asked her privately how scan went and she flat out said "oh they couldn't tell" hrmmmm.. i'm thinking gender disappointment and just not accepting the truth.

 

[rachael872211]

miss_kseniya I am consultant led too but its because of my previous caeserean. The extra attention is nice! lol. Plus when I went into labour with my last and went to the hospital too early (as usual!) they didnt turn me away because I was consultant led. I don't know if its because of that or the caeserean but it was nice because I didnt want to go 50 miles home! Plus an hour later my waters broke and it went pretty quickly from there.

I too am having the diabetes test again. I had it with my 2nd due to previous large baby and I was fine. This time the midwife said the weight is now if you have had a previous 10lb baby so I don't need it, but when I went to my consultant appointment she said she wanted me to have it again. I thought I got out of it! I guess I'm glad that she is keeping an eye on the size of this baby cause I am scared of it being even bigger than my first two.

Angel It does sound like she can't accept that it is a boy. With my scan for my DS it was pretty obvious he was a boy. I didnt even need the sonographer to say it. I could see it clearly. x

 

[Dazed125]

Sounds like it Angel and i understand why people get disappointed but i have horrible visions of her baby boy going home to a pink nursery and pretty dresses!!

10lb!!!! Gosh, just made my eyes water thinking about it!!! x