Anyone else expecting a November sparkler? *Updated with due dates!*

[buddyIV]

that is just awful hun, i cant believe you had to birth on your own. I totally agree that we need to speak loudly i had a pretty awful time with my first due to midwives and also tore really badly i guess i was just so young (20) i didnt want to inconveniece them but they were awful and they knew they were being awful cos they came and apologised afterwards. My son was back to back and they just ignored it all, I was in constant agony no break just a consistant excruciating pain in my back, they just told me to be quiet and relax i thought i was over reacting to the pain, then they didnt even give me a chance to push just put a ventouse on baby and pulled him out, never explained why, i didnt realise that anything was different until i went on to have other babies and it was so completely different, on my next baby i didnt even suspect i was in labour until i was 8cm because i wasnt in that much pain i didnt realise what "normal" labour was like, i had my second son without any pain relief. We definitely need to find our voice in labour. x

My goodness...that sounds awful too It's shocking that some medical staff just don't take notice of what you're telling them: it's your body, so you're the expert on what you can and cant feel! I'm so glad that the subsequent births were much better experiences though. Thanks so much for sharing that, as it really does give me hope that this time everything will be absolutely fine x

 

[brinib]

Some thoughts on having a birth plan vs not. For us, having a written plan accomplished two things: it allowed us to talk about what we wanted in an ideal situation (which forced us to become very educated about what options there are) and two, we talked it over both with the midwife group and brought it to the hospital so everyone working on our care was on the same page and it was IN WRITING I did not want anyone to offer me drugs. I said if I wanted them I would ask for them (I did not). It said I did not want an episiotomy, I wanted delayed cord clamping, I did not want pitocin unless absolutely necessary and I did not want my baby leaving my or my husband's sight (the one and only time they took him out of the room for a blood test DH went with). It depends on your hospital but all of these requests were honored. And because we had talked about it with our MW ahead of time we knew what to expect. We also understood that in an emergency we would have done what was best for me and for DS, but it made me feel I had some control. (And I did change my mind in some respects-- I said I did not want my water manually broken, but after being in labor for 11 hours and stalled at 5 cm, I was getting tired and let the MW break my water which finally got things rolling. It was the right decision at the time).
Whew, that was long winded.

In other news, I threw up in my driveway before I drove to work this morning. First time puking this pregnancy. Super fun.

 

[cassafrass]

Kdk I hope you are ok ! ♥ ... everyone else hope you are well !

 

[Kdk24]

Still at the er but getting some answers. I have a fairly large cyst on my left ovary which seems to be twisting causing the extreme pain! Thank goodness I trusted my gut that something was really wrong!
I'm waiting to talk to the mw on duty, hopefully will be able to go home and rest soon!

Thanks for all the concern ladies!! Nice to have people like you in my life!'

 

[Dazed125]

Hope you're not there too much longer kdk x

 

[peanutmomma]

kdk hope you can get some relief and rest soon

 

[Kdk24]

So... I have to go see a specialist as there were some abnormalities on the ultrasound just now. It us tech can't tell what it is, but the specialist are trained and will scan inch by inch to make sure everything is okay

 

[Tower6]

Hi lovely ladies! I'm still here I have been doing peroxide rinses and the puffy spot is gone and not sore so I'm just waiting to get into my dentist apt. I har literally slept for 2 days and idk why but the tiredness is hitting me like week 6-8 all over again. Other thing that's weird is that I only feel hungry when I wake up but even still my meals are tiny. I just constantly feel full... Idk it's weird. Also the bloat must be leaving cuz I feel like my belly has shrunk today :/ still way noticeable but small for how I felt before. And last- I have only gone poo once in the last two weeks, may be exactly why I'm having all those other symptoms except the lack of bloat.. That one is confusing. Anyway just feeling off and kinda makes me nervous about baby but tooth is doing better- for now!

Kd- I really hope that they find out that everything is perfectly fine with LO! Do update us

Peanut- I LOVE YOU! I didn't get an email but I saw your posts and I'm sooo glad your home and happy and still connected as ever as my twin

Everyone else- thank you all SO MUCH for the well wishes! It means so much to be thought about and cared for!

(((((((hugs))))))) to everyone!

 

[Tower6]

Oh my- my pregnancy brain!

So my daughter just came up and said mom when do we know if it's a boy or girl and I said "well not for awhile, but in 9 days from tomorrow we get to see the baby again" so my DH said "what 9 days?!" I said ya next Thursday and it's Tuesday so 9 days lol he said "noooo it's Wednesday and your apt is next wed so it's a week from today!" so I was like- its Wednesday?!?! And the 24th is wed not thurs?! LOL WOW I was so off!

Anyway long story short- ONE WEEK countdown till my scan!!! And Im 12 weeks tonight!!!!!!! That's super exciting cuz my dr considers ou 2nd tri at the end of 12 weeks

We're almost there ladies!!!!!!

 

[peanutmomma]

Tower my twin I am so glad you finally posted I truly was worried my dear!!
I am glad the tooth is feeling better! Yippiee! you see the baby again next week. I go on Friday for the 12 week scan and genetic testing. They told us we can bring a CD-R and they will record the whole thing with audio so that will be a fun keepsake!! i am so relieved you are still with us. I have been telling DH I am getting worried. I told my OB about your tooth and that I told you to go to urgent care as long as no fever. She said I did well and to keep in touch with you to make sure youre ok.
I have to make a dentist appointment tomorrow because I have a cavity under a filling and my OB wants me to be able to tell her my dentist appt. date by next Friday. She said she will sign a waiver if she has to so I can get the novicane. I have to have lots of it because I can always feel what they are doing when I have had fillings and even when I have had wisdom teeth pulled or molars. She said that tooth pain can put way to much unneeded stress on the body and if it gets infected can cause baby problems.
Oh! I am just so elated that you are ok...

 

[Tower6]

Your so awesome!! I've been pretty stressed since an incident last night and I find myself not knowing how to deal with it without feeling like I'm going to have a panic attack. I have been trying meditation apps and trying to breathe but I still think I'm definitely internalizing my sadness and fears because I kind of have twinges or little shooting pains going from the cervix up to the belly button.
It definitely helps to hop on here an have so many people to talk to all day and so awesome how much we all care about eachother. It's like a best friend to turn to when I could never turn to "friends" in town without everyone in the town knowing my business.

Hope everyone's well tonight!!

 

[zowiey]

Tower, glad you're feeling better! I'd definitely recommend taking something for the constipation, I got some lactulose on Fri, and oh the joys!

Kdk, glad your being sorted good luck with your scan, hope all goes well!

Hope Everyone is ok? Gemie & Laura- not seen you around- hope your both ok?

Day 3 of bed rest, and I'm pretty sure I could get used to this! Although not sure ill get much snoozing done with this bloody wind! We were talking about the scan last night, and I asked hubby "if" everything goes ok can I buy something after- I saw hubby's jaw tense, and I think he thought I wanted to buy some baby things! Nope I just want to buy a maternity pillow! so if anyone has any recommendations for which is best, that would be great! Thanks!

 

[Creative]

My booking in date came through for the 2nd May. It's at a hospital rather than the local NHS offices which my last booking in appointment was at so I am not sure what that means, (if anything..... I'm probably just being paranoid) I want a home birth and don;t want to be under consultant care, but my age is against me. All fired up and ready for a fight armed with Sheila Kitzenger!

 

[Creative]

I love Thursdays. I'm having a raspberry!

 

[teacup22]

Sorry to all feeling rubbish!
Tower - hope they can sort the cyst out.

I love Sundays for the same reason Creative! I'm 12 weeks Sunday!!!

 

[LoraLoo]

Morning ladies, how is everyone?

I appear to have misplaces (lost!) my green pregnancy notes The midwifes going to go mad, isnt she?! I cant remember what I did with them, the letter for my scan is with them, I know its next Wed but cant remember the time! Just typical of me!

On a brighter note, my graze box should be arriving today and Im excited, lol I used to get them ages ago and they were lovely but id sit and eat them in 1 sitting!

 

[zowiey]

Oh no Lora! You have to forget about the notes then you'll find them! I can never find anything if I search for it, but as soon as I forget (I'm super scatty, so it's not hard for me to forget anything!) then I find them straight away! I'm also a bugger for putting things in a "safe" place, it's never the same place twice & usually pretty random!

Oooh graze boxes, mmm! I loved the lemon meringue mix they do! Oh and the galic & chilli olives.... I am literally drooling right now! Enjoy it!

Creative & teacup- my day is Tuesday, it makes me so happy

 

[LoraLoo]

Oh no Lora! You have to forget about the notes then you'll find them! I can never find anything if I search for it, but as soon as I forget (I'm super scatty, so it's not hard for me to forget anything!) then I find them straight away! I'm also a bugger for putting things in a "safe" place, it's never the same place twice & usually pretty random!

Oooh graze boxes, mmm! I loved the lemon meringue mix they do! Oh and the galic & chilli olives.... I am literally drooling right now! Enjoy it!

Creative & teacup- my day is Tuesday, it makes me so happy

Ive found the notes- in the garage?! lol

Scan is next Wed at 4pm- gutted i hate waiting around! Starting to feel really anxious about scan now could do with using the doppler but i got Aaron to hide it so i dont know where it is.

Love the lemon meringue one, but you can keep the olives, yuk, lol xx

 

[peanutmomma]

good morning all ladies. Hope everyone has a wonderful stress free day. I am awake and wish I were asleep it's not even 7 am here yet!! Poor DH I think he is having sympathy issues for me LOL. He started to get super thirsty yesterday at Diabetes Doc. office around noon and was drinking bottle after bottle of water. He refilled the bottle every 10 minutes or less til 4 am this morning and was up weeing almost as much. I joked and asked him if he was Diabetic or pregnant because it was literally every 10-15 minutes he was up again. He finally fell asleep at 4:30. Then, I was up at 5 with a low blood sugar and headache . Poor guy.

So, Last night around my last post on here I started to get these awful pains mainly on the right side but some on the left almost like cramps but to sharp and wide spread. I know the Doctor said that round ligament pains can start to really get painful now as the uterus is pushing harder to get above the bone. But, the center is the only part that you can barely feel it coming above. What made the pain worse was laying on my right side trying to get comfortable and get some sleep. Even tylenol didn't help ease the pain. Glad it just comes and goes and is not steady. OUCH!!!
The only part that I really had issues dealing with was when one pain hit as I was getting up to wee and I almost couldn't walk. I hope and pray that when the uterus is fully out from behind the bone I will have some relief for a while. LOL

Tower, I get anxiety sometimes in horrible waves and even though I can't fully express all of my fears and pains with DH it helps when he just holds me in bed and rocks me a little talking to me in a nice tone telling me everything is goinf to work itself out and that all I can do is just keep doing what I know to be right. And if I still can't get over certain things he reminds me that Baby was fine at the last appointment and that the next one is not too far off. Just relax, try not to let even the small stuff get to you. I know easier than said, but I have had to just focus on myself and brush others off at times because I know that if I let others get to me to much I will stress out internally and that isn't good for anyone.

Gemie and Laura- it's true the two of you haven't been to talkative as of lately. Hope all is well, we are here to talk no matter what is wrong or if you just want to say bug off I want some me time right now. That's cool too. We just don't want you to be going through something alone if we can ber there for you.

Everyone else, Hello and please tll us how you are. I know some of you have, but there are a few that have joined us recently and have only really said hello

 

[peanutmomma]

quick note... I HAVE LESS THAN 200 DAYS LEFT WOOT! WOOT! Sunday is our change over day. and I can't wait til sunday to finally be 12 weeks.