Anyone else get sad when they hear about m/c, especially after having one?

[mamaduke]

I think that after going through a m/c, it makes me more sympathetic and sad for those who've gone through it.

Case in point: I work with a bunch of guys - as I'm a computer programmer, and it's mostly a guy-oriented field. One of the guys came up to me today and we were talking about how my pregnancy was coming along. He asked how far I was and when I mentioned that I'd be 25w on Wednesday, he mentioned that I was lucky to have a viable baby.

Then I asked him if he had any, and I got to hear about why he had missed a week of work a couple months ago. His significant other (not sure if wife/gf/etc.) went into labor at 22w and ended up delivering a stillborn little boy. She was due at the end of this month.

After talking with him today, I saw him in a different light. And it made me sad to think of what they've gone through, getting so far and then losing him. I've had a loss, but not to the point of knowing much about the baby. Theirs had kicks and a personality.

All I want to do is hug my bump tonight, thankful that I have this 2nd chance. But I never realized just how much a m/c hurt - emotionally, physically, and otherwise - until having one of my own. It makes me sad for my co-worker and his significant other.

 

[croydongirl]

So true. miscarriages change us. i hope that my losses have made me a more compassionate person. congratulations on your pregnancy, wishing you continued heath until you meet your little one in person x

 

[honey08]

it is awful and such a taboo subject aswell, loads suffer in silence

 

[shirlls]

So true. I must admit, before my 2 mcs while I was sympathetic when hearing of anyone going through a miscarriage, I never really understood the way I do now, what the women went through. Now I just want to throw my arms around them and give them a big hug.

Pregnancy loss is such a taboo subject which is so wrong as it happens to so many women. People don't know what to say and often just avoid saying anything to avoid saying the 'wrong thing'.

x