Anyone else in my boat?

[knk2011]

I have friends who are also pregnant. By "friends" I mean people I know and speak to online via Facebook. They have friends who they see regularly, they go out on lovely sunny days like today and I can't help but feel a little jealous. I am stuck inside, because none of my "friends" want to bother with me now that I'm pregnant.

I feel a little sad as well that after I give birth, I will only get to do 'mummy' things. Suddenly old friends who already have children will come out of the wood works and will suddenly want to see me. Feels a little like nobody wants to know me for me anymore and that's sad

 

[Mrsmac02]

I feel like this hun

My best friend who I've know most of my life can't be arsed anymore because I can't go out on the piss with her.

I've started preggy yoga and aqua natal and have met a few women who are same stage as me and its been good talking to them.

Xx

 

[aimee-lou]

I'm kind of used to it now. When I was PG with my 1st I was bullied out of my job, didn't have a car or a bus to catch and lived in the dead centre of nowhere. I barely left the house for months at a time - it wasn't until Earl was born that I made myself get out and about.

It's funny though, now I live in a family area, have acquaintances through Earl's school, my old job, neighbours etc and through generally living here for 2.5 years but I still don't go out socially. I prefer just to take my kids out on my own. We go to town on the bus, to the park, do the housework and the garden...... apart from pre-school for Earl, we have no schedule really and it's awesome! I see friends heading out in groups with their children and it really doesn't appeal.

I have my old friends from the old days and some are still interested but I just see it as the ebb and the flow of life. You gain friends and you lose them as you travel through life. If you're struggling are there any mummy groups you could join near you. I know the local children's centre runs a bfing cafe on one morning and it's for pregnant mum's too - just as an example. Or antenatal classes?

 

[mommatoabeaut]

Having a baby opened my eyes and showed me who my 'real' friends actually were. And out of all the friends i had. Only 1 was there at the end.

 

[Geegees]

Since I had my daughter over a year ago I've changed a lot of my friends, my old friends parent very differently to me, and we had little in common. It turns out we used to just have alcohol in common!!
I think once baby is here and you've found your feet you'll meet new friends, people who you have things in common with and people you can chat to about your new amazing life changing path. yes it is sad for friends that you loose touch with but exciting for all the new people you'll meet. xx

 

[Sweetkat]

I don't see friends as much because they go out drinking/ partying and I can't really do that. Although I will go for drinks next week (and not drinks obviously) just for the social aspect and to show my face .

 

[sue_88]

I'm the same don't really have many friends.

The ladies who I have met at my antenatal classes are lovely and we've all swapped numbers & I'll be going to 'Bump to Baby' group at my local centre every week on Tuesdays.

Not going to bother with the older friends who are surfacing because they are interested in the baby, I'm happy to make new friends!

 

[e11etee]

I go to a NCT bumps and babies group which is a relaxed coffee morning (a chance to ave a cuppa and a natter!). You do not have to be a NCT member to go along and with ours you can go as and when you fancy! Check out the NCT website to se if there is any in your local area? (I am presuming you are uk based!)

 

[knk2011]

What's NCT?
I'm hoping to get a call about my antenatal classes soon, they start on the 18th apparently and I should get a call to confirm I still wanna go to them and for details etc.

I'd love to do some aquanatal classes or pregnancy yoga, but they're so expensive where I live and I can't really afford the extra expense on top of everything else

It's so hot recently though that I'm hoping maybe OH and I can maybe go swimming on his day off

 

[Smudge101]

Thankfully my friends are amazing so I don't have this but it's other people at work and some family members where I get this.

It's like the only topic of conversation that anyone has is my bump or the baby or how long I have left. Which I know is exciting but sometimes I'd like someone to start a conversation with me that didn't start - 'how long do you have left'

 

[knk2011]

Thankfully my friends are amazing so I don't have this but it's other people at work and some family members where I get this.

It's like the only topic of conversation that anyone has is my bump or the baby or how long I have left. Which I know is exciting but sometimes I'd like someone to start a conversation with me that didn't start - 'how long do you have left'

I know exactly what you mean!
It would be nice to think people are actually interested in me for me, not just for my pregnancy sometimes - although I do love when people ask me about it!

Sometimes it feels like I'm just an incubator and not a person with other things going on.

 

[MrsTurner2012]

I just think this is something that happens.

You generally have friends and socialise with people that you have things in common with.

I no longer see alot of my 'partying' friends regularly.

We will always be friends but I spend time with people who I have more in common with now. Babies, husbands etc.

My social circle is different.

I miss my old life and friends alot but it will more than likely change again before long. Who knows.i just try and adapt as best I can

 

[cantwaitforu]

I've reconnected with some old friends who have kids (we now have soooo much in common), and have been in less contact with those who don't (they don't understand routines, exhaustion, etc).

It's natural to not 'connect' with people who no longer understand your experience, and likewise, you no longer share that experience. Perhaps your friends without children honestly don't care to hear about your pregnancy because they don't understand the first thing about it. Your friends who have kids are more than happy to share the ups and downs as an affirmation that they are not the only ones in the world who put their kids in a play pen and turn the tv on so they can sit for a minute.