Anyone else scared?

[maybebaby3]

Is anyone else scared of the increased risks that come with being an older mum? I'm so scared that there could be something wrong with the baby

 

[Jamandspoon]

I'm scared of everything! Every pop, stretch, sneeze, ache, pain you name it it scares me... I'm quite lucky though, over here in France they don't consider you to be an "older" Mum until you are 40, so I'm keeping hold of that one to help keep me sane!!! Xx

 

[Lady H]

Yes my first tri was a nightmare. Then I've had to have an amnio and now know everything is fine so now I worry about early birth etc. I'm 40 and honestly it's been an easy pregnancy so far. Good luck xx

 

[maybebaby3]

I'm having a nuchal scan in march but am worried that it won't put my mind at rest as its not an 100% answer I'm scared to have an amnio coz of risk of mc tho!

 

[Lady H]

Honestly it was fine. I took it really easy after and risk is 0.5% but totally get your concerns. But you won't need one I'm sure xxxx

 

[maybebaby3]

Lady H thanks was it a horrid experience?

 

[Lady H]

That actual amnio wasn't, it was like having an injection really and not painful. It was more the stress of waiting for results. I waited three days to find out no Downs, Edwards or Patau's then about 10 more days for full results. The relief to know all was clear was unlike nothing I've ever felt before. Feel,free to PM me any time if you want to know any more xx

 

[Seity]

Honestly no, I really only had the NT scan for the extra look at the baby. There's a long history in my family of the women having babies at 39+ and not a single one has ever had a problem, so I'm sure that makes a difference for my peace of mind.

 

[maybebaby3]

That actual amnio wasn't, it was like having an injection really and not painful. It was more the stress of waiting for results. I waited three days to find out no Downs, Edwards or Patau's then about 10 more days for full results. The relief to know all was clear was unlike nothing I've ever felt before. Feel,free to PM me any time if you want to know any more xx

Thank you !

 

[kcmichelle]

I think the first trimester is scary for all moms to be, regardless of age. There's always that fear of miscarriage. I don't worry about something being wrong with the baby. My son who I had at almost 42 was perfectly healthy. So far this babe is looking great. Yet the son I had in my 20's ended up having special needs. This time around I do worry more about my health though. I had 2 of the 3 signs of pre eclampsia last time and barely made it through at the end without bed rest or hospitalization. So I'm hoping my blood pressure stays put again. Lord knows by body loves to swell come June and July and I always have protein due to diabetes. One day at a time! Little salt and healthy choices.

 

[mommy2lilmen]

I'm scared of everything! Every pop, stretch, sneeze, ache, pain you name it it scares me... I'm quite lucky though, over here in France they don't consider you to be an "older" Mum until you are 40, so I'm keeping hold of that one to help keep me sane!!! Xx

Here in BC Canada, your not an older mom till 40+ to. I was told I am something else., I cant remember, based on my age, amount of babies and amount of complications I had in them.


I am not scare of much really just of ending up on bedrest again. I can guarantee I will be again. I wont have and will refuse an amnio tho.

 

[Karenfla36]

i am 36 and in my 4th week. i am worrying that this will not stick! i have been very lightly spotting for 5 days and it is getting better. i worry about miscarriage the most then i worry about baby having issues. have my first ultrasound and appt on 3/27. wish i can fast forward to maybe 5th month!!

 

[thewingman]

I hear you!

I'm 40, 7 weeks pregnant with my second. Terrified doesn't come close, but I'm keeping it in check so far. My first pregnancy was only last year - had a beautiful little girl 9 months ago, so hoping this one goes like that did.

I know the risks jump with the magical 4-0, but hey, what can I do? Just pray and hope that things work out for us. It's a miracle I even fell pregnant anyway! I think I'll feel a little better next week at my dating scan, that's the first hurdle, as I see it.

 

[Foxy37]

I'm 38 and scared of mc . We had been trying for 7 months for this little orange pip and npw its finnally happened I worry at every ache and pain . I'm so aware of my body at present at its my #4 xx

 

[La Bergere]

Its our #1 and we've been TTc for over 10 months and I was just about to be referred for fertlity treatment when I got my BFP last week!

I don't have any symptoms, no sore boobs, no sickness - nada.
All I have are AF cramps (no bleedng) and I keep feeling like I'm pulling a muscle when I stand up quick.

As I bled last week I'm being put forward for an early scan, but have no idea when that will be. In the meantime I am slowly driving myself mad, but also slightly comforted by the fact that I'm obviously not the only one!!

 

[binksmommy]

I chose to have the blood work done first.. Dr said no need to have amnio if not necessary because they can cause miscarriage.. State of CA does a blood panel and all came back fine... after a few scans and a 3D scan all the techs said he looked normal ..no downs symptoms show on the scan and I felt better.. Truth is this pregnancy was WAY better than my first 8 yrs ago.. If I was younger.. I think I might be willing to do it again.. but I'm done Ending on a great note

 

[Foxy37]

how are you all this week ? x

 

[mommy2lilmen]

Back to feeling nausea ! And anxious for my blood test results! I should get them back by April 2-5. Need to know if I have to prepare even sooner or what!

 

[Ceilani]

Just found out I'm pregnant today! I was ecstatic this morning, and then as the day has progressed, I've gotten increasingly paranoid about this bean sticking. I agonized over a third pg test, comparing it to the first 2 and wondering if it was lighter, lol. DH finally hid the remainder of my Wondfos from me.

I did have betas drawn today, and will have a second round drawn on Thursday. That will at least put my mind at ease for a bit. At least now I know I'm not the only one!

 

[Caligirl777]

Congratulations on your news... I am waiting for AF.. Nervous but hopeful.. I am 41 years old and realizing I am really on a time limit.. Sad today..

You will be great! Don't worry.. Think positive!

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