We stopped BC a few months ago. Basically I went for a smear and my Mirena coil couldn't be located, had an ultrasound to locate it and said we'd have it taken out to avoid trying t get it out and then not finding it again. The OBGYN couldn't get it out, another OBGYN tried, couldn't find it either and I ended up having a general anaesthetic to have it taken out.
We knew we would start ttc in December (this was July) so I decided rather than getting another Mirena in we'd start on the pill. My doctor wouldn't prescribe it as since the birth of my daughter I have been getting bad migraines with aura.
To say out sex life has gone down hill is an underestimate! I'm devastated I love sex, I love making love to my husband! We only got married in May this year and I"m lucky if DH will have sex once or twice a month. He has a absolute fear of me becoming pregnant, ending up in hospital (as I've been extremely ill with my pregnancies) and us not being able to move (we are moving to America for 1 year for post graduate study he got on scholarship) and loosing his dream, his fears are totally justified but I can't help feeling unloved and undesirable to my husband.
I think the only thing you can do is to try and discuss and relieve his fears.
Would you consider a read of 'taking charge of your fertility' It is a great read for either trying to get pregnant or avoiding it. It would mean you can have sex, no condoms and not worry about getting pregnant and if you are in a fertile period you either avoid sex or use barrier protection. I was recommended it by a friend, she has 3 children, all planned but has never used hormonal or barrier protection. It is a very interesting and maybe reassuring for your DH.