Anyone else with kids before partner

[CristynShell]

Ok my background, I was married for almost 10 years and had 3 children with ex husband. I finally let myself admit I was gay, and started a new life with my kids.

Fast forward to now. My partner has no children of her own and we are starting home insemination this week, she will carry.

I don't want this to sound mean or terrible and feel guilty even thinking it. But will I feel the same for our 4th baby? After I had the first 3. Her carrying and an unknown donor supplying will I feel as close?

Any others who have gone through this?

I am very excited and I know I will love our baby. Just nervous. Never been on the outside looking in so to speak.

 

[journey2mommy]

CristynShell, My partner and I are in a similar situation. My partner was married for 14 yrs and has 2 children. I have no children of my own but did try to conceive through IUI using donor sperm in the past. We are trying to have a child now with IUI and donor sperm only this time my partner will carry. Yes, I can completely relate to you when you say you feel like you're on the outside looking in. It's hard not to feel like that but i'm sure once I hold our child that will all change. The issue we are having is with our 8 yr old understanding that we are both equally the parents. It will all work out though i'm sure. Btw we are in our first attempt with IUI and go for blood work tomorrow...hoping for a BFP!!

 

[MariposaTam]

No experience here, but will share that working in childcare, I have witnessed the immense love that parents can have for their children regardless of whether those kids came from their womb, or not. Just last month I had the mom of an adopted 6 month old baby come in because the baby had a cold, and she had to leave town for a business trip. She was in tears watching her little girl sleep and thinking of having to leave her. It was such a moving moment that I too cried. I know that even though I only care for babies for a certain time each day, I get attached to them and love them each in my own way despite them not being my children. I will not be the first in our relationship to be pregnant and have our first, but feeling love for that future child has never been one of my doubts.

Journey2mommy- good luck! Hope you get a BFP soon!