Anyone finding out colour but parents said they don't want to know?

[Gingerspice]

Our DD is 4. She is adamant this bump is a girl. She has stated if it is a girl and she has a sister she will be the best sister ever and be kind and nice. She has stated if it is a boy she will be the worst sister and be mean.

As such we feel it best to find out the colour so we can prepare her because if it is a boy we have some work cut out to get her to decide to be a great big sister still.

I am glad we're finding out, I want to know what name to focus on and I want to get the room sorted - so either way it will be pretty obvious what colour it is.

Anyway, my MIL has said 'oh you're finding out'.....'well I don't want to be told and I'll like the surprise.'

There is no way DD will be able to not tell them and if they see the bedroom at all it'lol be obvious!

 

[Rickles]

My parents said that with DD (well Mum and Stepdad). We did the nursery neutral so we could reuse it - but did buy clothes - so had they wanted to nose through drawers...

We didn't tell a soul - a couple of slips but to colleagues not family... admittedly we didn't have a small child to contain... So - yep - Good Luck!! xx

 

[Pink Sarah]

My mum has said that she didn't want to know (there are too few surprises in life nowadays. ...) then half hour later changed her mind haha!

 

[cupcaker]

My dad said both times around that he didn't want to know then two mins after getting texts to say all ok at the scans he had changed his mind and wanted to know!

 

[EmzyJA]

It's your choice whether you want to know and also we did the same thing in preparing our daughter. She wanted a sister too but we're having a boy and she's coming round to the idea now. She's 3 so a bit younger but I do think it helps to prepare them just in case. It's a bit change for them and anything I can do to make it easier all round I'll do. If your daughter tells her then so be it lol. You do what's best for you guys

 

[Mrs Dragonfly]

Yikes, good luck with that. I don't think she'll be able to keep it to herself if you tell her, although I agree where you stand on preparing her if baby is a boy. Maybe you could talk to her about it as "what ifs" and kind of keep her out of the loop? lol If that's possible

 

[K123]

It's your choice whether to find out or not and it's a surprise whether it's a surprise at 20weeks or at birth.

I didn't want to find out with my first - but changed my mind mid-scan as knew the sonographer knew and wanted to know too (my son was making his sex very very obvious!) This time I want to know and definitely think it will help prepare my son for meeting his sibling - he's very much a Mummy's boy (this morning's comment was ' when the baby comes out it's going to want Daddy not you') - and I knowing if it's a brother or sister will help him.

 

[Buttercup84]

My parents implied they would have preferred a surprise but neither of them asked to not to be told so I can only assume curiosity got the better of them OH's mum on the other hand was probably more eager to know than I was!

 

[AP]

What you decide to do with your daughter is valid and important and your MIL just has to deal with it if your daughter slips up.

 

[NotNic]

Agree with pp. TBH though I'm sure she'll cave once she knows you all know!