anyone got or had a wetter?

[motherofboys]

my eldest son will be 7 years old on the 5th of Feb and still regularly wets the bed. I know they say it's not an issue until they are 7 but his got 7weeks till his birthday and it's still do often.
his younger brother, one of whom turned 5in October has not wet in over a year and the other who is 3in March has only wet about 3times since asking not to wear a nappy to bed.
I am now starting to think we were just too nice about it when he was younger. telling him it didn't matter and everyone has accidents because he is completely fine about doing it. doesn't care a bit.
some mornings when he wakes up his naked in a wet bed. when you ask what happened he says I wet so I took my pjs off. but his needs still wet. other times he says he woke up wet but it was to late so he stayed in it.
I wouldn't put it past him to just lay there and wet because he couldn't be bothered to get up. we thought it was cos it was dark and he couldn't see to get up so we got a light, we thought he was scared of ghosts as he won't go upstairs by himself anyway so we got dream catches and a cross so he didn't have to be scared.
I am now at the point where all the spare bedding has been used, wet and washed and hanging up wet and if he wets tonight he won't have anything.
it seems to be getting worse not better.
and now I am writing he will wet his Xmas eve pjs and have to wear an old pair to open his Christmas presents and the pics will be his brothers in nice new, and personalised pjs and him in an old pair that quite frankly need replacing as his just had a growth spurt, but won't be able to replace them till after Christmas.

anyone had a child this age still wet the bed and was there anything you did that worked

 

[lj2245]

I don't have any experience of this personally but wanted to say you're right to not punish your child in any way. It's not his fault and I bet it's frustrating but you're doing the right thing in reassuring him.

I was thinking there might be a medical reason? Maybe it would be a good idea to speak to a doctor?

 

[motherofboys]

the thing I don't understand is his not a deep sleeper, his quite a light sleeper, and his not got a weak bladder or anything.
he really doesn't seem to care that his done it either. that's the frustrating thing, if he were worried about it, or even woke us up and told us, or got into the spare dry bunk bed then I wouldn't be as worried as I would think he would grow out of it. but he just lays there in the wet bed.
his got worse as his got older.

 

[hel_5]

My DD1 went through this, think (fingers crossed) we might be out the other end, she didn't care, but she is a deep deep sleeper, we have to lift her every night and put her on the toilet, but often she still wet the bed

In the end we took a sample and went to the docs (at this point it had been going on for well over a year) we talked it all through and even though her sample was pretty much clear she gave her some antibiotics just incase she had a little something, we explained to DD that this would stop her wetting the bed and it worked! About a week after she had finished the antibiotics it started up again so I told DD I had spoken to the doc and she had told me to give DD some actimel every night before bed and that will work (I was going with the fact I think she needed something pyscological(?)) it mostly worked then we went on hol, she wet the bed once but after we came home we forgot about the actimel and she's been pretty much grand since xx

 

[fluffyblue]

Hi hun, my son was a wetter until he was at least 9.

We were at our wits end with what to do, we tried everything and it got quite strained. We tried, no drinks, doctors in the end we went to see a specialist who prescribed an alarm. It was like a light gauze that went on the bed and when it went off it sounded a light alarm type thing attached to his pj's and woke him to go the loo.

It took some time but it did work. I also think he just "grew" out of it.

He will be conscious of it Ben was and he hated it but the more we shouted the worse it got. I do believe alot was linked to stress as his father and I had split and I was with a new partner at the time, he was also a little bit of an attention seeker. We tried not to let the stress get to him but it was hard as it was almost every night.

He also went through a phase of soiling himself as well but again we think that was attention.

PM me if you need any help. If it helps, I was also a wetter till approx 9 and my mum also got me an alarm that helped xx

 

[fluffyblue]

Also forgot to say pull ups are very good, I know they are meant for babies but we did get some to fit Ben as he was small, almost like training pants and they were excellent combined with the alarm xx

 

[suzib76]

My eldest wet until she was 7. I didn't do anything, didnt say anything and didnt take any steps to try and change it, basically it was a non issue in our house.

It's quite normal for some children to take longer, all we did was leave her in pull ups until she was dry every night for a week then she stopped wearing them and never wet the bed, she just got dry when she was ready