Anyone In My Situation? Just Fancy A Chat With Someone..

[MooMoosMum2]

Hi everyone, new to this forum. I'm a member on just about every other forum though!

Well, I'm basically looking for a chat with someone who is in my situation. I'm 16, mummy to one, trying for another. My baby boy is 4 months, we're wanting another baby boy but a girl will do us! We want all of our children very close together. Me & my Fiancee are aiming for 7 kid's, my other half already has one who is 11, shes my darling, Then theres our latest addition, which is 'our' second. I'm a stay at home mum, whilst my other half goes out to work 6 days a week 14 hour days. Just wondering if there was anyone else, who is like me, young and their OH is older (My OH is 30, 31 in Oct), who's got children. Basically, or anyone who just up for a chat.

I love my life, so anyone who wants to put me down for being a young mum, or having a hubby-2be whos 14 yrs older than me, please leave my thread. I have no respect for people who treat us like crap

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

first of all congratulations on your lil baby! an welcome to BnB... good luck with TTC number 2.

I'm 16 an pregnant with my first baby, a little boy . i'm not in the same situation as you but know were your comin from on the feelin like you will be put down for bein a teen mum but these girls are supportive so dont worry

people will have very different opinions on here but they only say what they think nessasery, you may dislike what some may some but the girls on here are great to talk to an to get advice from.

xx

 

[MooMoosMum2]

Thank You! Good luck with your baby, apparantly boys are better than girls! My Charlie is great We're not far in the TTC #2 just yet, we're not trying as such but just not using any contraception and a case of if it happens it happens, I got a terrible feeling it'll take us atleast 6 months. Although we did want two under 1. Ive found on most forums so far, we've been looked down on, he's been called a paedophile, i've been called a whore.. ect.. and most people don't like the 'I'm 16, step-daughter is 11' situation!

 

[Blob]

Hey i have totally no experience in this ha ha!! Its my first and im 19 and prob only wanting two (cos i want to send them to school n cant afford more otherwise i'd have more - bring on winning the lottery!!) Can i ask how the 11yr old treats you (this is not meant to be offensive) its just you're not far off in age and wondered if she see's you as a mother?? Also what your mum thinks?? Honnest i'm really not judging im just wondering.. Hope there is someone on here who is kinda alike.. Just didnt want to read ur thread and leave

Good Luck ttc no.2 and welcome to B&B
Gawd i feel like ive attacked you there sorry if it seems that way!!
x x x

 

[Blob]

Ha ha awww you mentioned the age thing now i feel bad (by age thing i meant your step daughter bit, just to clarify)

 

[MooMoosMum2]

Hey its fine! Chloe is okay with me, shes normal, steals my make up and hairstraightners ect... Her mother hates me! Obviously... Im 'Cooler' than her My mother disagreed with me & my OH at first, which was acceptable as I was 15 (6 Days after my birthday) when I met him, he was 28. We wern't sleeping with each other until April 2007 (We met in August 06) and within 3 weeks, I was pregnant, which made us closer & where we are now. But since we started to be with each other properly (Nov 2006) My mother hasn't spoken to me. I haven't seen her, she hasn't seen her grandson, I live with my Fiancee. My family showed me their true colours by all leaving me by myself. My other halfs family showed their true colours, by taking me in and respecting us and our decision.
You haven't pissed me off, don't worry.

 

[Blob]

Hmmm guess it would be fairly cool to be Chloe, having a baby bro and someone who you can steal clothes from. Ha ha!! I only know it from the other way around, my dad is going out with someone who is over 20yrs younger, but nobody seems to find it strange. Also no way would i be taking her clothes ha ha ha!! I get killed for getting make-up on her freaking towels ha ha its all good really. Although my best friends dad is 51 and going out with someone 21 ahh!! So she they are almost the same age ha ha!!
I guess if youre a teenager you are always going to be judged no matter what you do. Just got to rise above it and see that people dont know or understand your situation and cannot pass judgement on you. I dunnooooo...
Shame about your family, but you're not on your own if you have his famly maybe one day your mum will suck it up and give you a call, its always harder if you're in the wrong to forget your pride and do the right thing even if you want to.

 

[mBLACK]

Hey, I'm 15 and pregnant with my first baby, my son Joseph. Welcome to BnB! I have to admit that hey I don't agree with everything in other people's lives but I'm not one to judge, especially as a single teenage mother. Pm me anytime if you need to chat.

 

[Bumble_Bee]

Hi everyone, new to this forum. I'm a member on just about every other forum though!

Well, I'm basically looking for a chat with someone who is in my situation. I'm 16, mummy to one, trying for another. My baby boy is 4 months, we're wanting another baby boy but a girl will do us! We want all of our children very close together. Me & my Fiancee are aiming for 7 kid's, my other half already has one who is 11, shes my darling, Then theres our latest addition, which is 'our' second. I'm a stay at home mum, whilst my other half goes out to work 6 days a week 14 hour days. Just wondering if there was anyone else, who is like me, young and their OH is older (My OH is 30, 31 in Oct), who's got children. Basically, or anyone who just up for a chat.

I love my life, so anyone who wants to put me down for being a young mum, or having a hubby-2be whos 14 yrs older than me, please leave my thread. I have no respect for people who treat us like crap

Hey, i'm 15 and preggs, so if you want to chat here or on msn, lemme know and i'll give it to you somehow.

Lovez!

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

Thank You! Good luck with your baby, apparantly boys are better than girls! My Charlie is great We're not far in the TTC #2 just yet, we're not trying as such but just not using any contraception and a case of if it happens it happens, I got a terrible feeling it'll take us atleast 6 months. Although we did want two under 1. Ive found on most forums so far, we've been looked down on, he's been called a paedophile, i've been called a whore.. ect.. and most people don't like the 'I'm 16, step-daughter is 11' situation!

Thanks + don't listen to what other people say, its what you an your fiance think + feel not everyone around you

My step-mum is 22 an my dad is 40 so i'm more in the same boat as your step-daughter lol.

xx

 

[Sparky0207]

Hello and welcome to BnB!

The only time I tend to judge people (rightly or wrongly) is when they are very young and TTC with no support from family, a OH who they have been with for a matter of weeks, no home and no job because I think its a bad situation for a baby to be brought in to.
However, you are incredibly mature for your years, clearly have the love and support from your fiancee, your own home and stable finances - fair bloody play to you!! You seem in a better situation than some people twice your age and I wish you the very best of luck in TTC your new addition!

xx

 

[ablaze]

hey, not totally in your situ, but kinda lol!!

my stepmum is 29 years old and im 21, my sister is 26..

here 4 a chat

 

[BeckyBoo]

Only time I pass judgement is when people are young and TTC and can't afford the child they're trying for. Or relying on everyone else to pick up the peices. You want to be a mother, you want to look after your kids. I must admit, it is a bit of a head turner as your step daughter is only 5 years younger than you.

But you have to remember, you will always be judged for your situation. The best way to deal with it is by ignoring it completely. In the end it's your life.

You have a 'normal mother' life. Stay at home mum with a partner out to work. Same as me, I had my son at 17 and pregnant with my daughter at 20. I have worked in the past at part time jobs, but now with two I'll be a stay at home mum until they're at school.

Best of luck.

 

[nikky0907]

As the girls said,we only disagree with girls who live at home,don't have a stable relationship and are then ttc,without speaking to their parents.

We don't judge them but we are trying to put things in perspective to them.

You sound like a normal mom,happy with your life,you share a life with your fiancee and you guys have formed a family already.
It is a strange story,but but as long as you have a nice stable home and family life we couldn't be more happy for you.

Welcome!

P.S. Stay away from forums where they say such terrible things to you,I'm sickened to see how they treat people and judge them.

 

[Always&4ever]

Hi, one thing about this forum, none of us are here to judge, congratulations and welcome to babyandbump *hugs*

 

[mugzy]

Welcome and congrats on your new baby.

As for people judging you about the age gap - give it a few years and no one will think twice about it.

Good luck with ttc no 2.

 

[mummy2b]

Can't see anyone really judging you here, everyone is really nice. I'm 18 & pregnant with my 1st. My partner is 19 and we have recently moved into our 1st house! I've been with him about 1 year and 3 months. He works 6 days a week 12-14 hours a day, we get no help off council but we are managing really well!! I am going to be a stay at home mum but only until she starts school, we don't want any more children though. I was due a week ago, so with any luck we will have our little girl with us any day now!!!

Good luck with your second! xx

 

[mommytashaX2]

I agree that your situation is definitely a lot better than some people that are twice your age and married You sound like you're life is pretty great. You have someone with you that loves and supports you and it sounds like his family has chosen to make you a part of them, which counts for a lot. People were saying the same thing about my daughters father because I was 14 and he was 18. I can only imagine how you felt when you saw those comments. I wish you luck with the new baby and congrats with your first.

 

[xchelseax]

hiya
well im glad ur happy
im 17 i was 17 in feb, my fiancee turned 22 in may, we r living together been together 3years, and having our 1st child (lil girl) in august.
im goin 2 b a stay at home mum, i finish college next week, and my fiancee dan has his own business.

i love my life, my life wouldnt b a life without him, wev been through more crap than most couples have in there 20years of being together!! lol

we love eachother, and can not wait 2 c our lil girl (Alanna) it was a planned pregnancy and wouldnt have it anyother way!!!!

being a young mum 2 b is gr8 lol
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Jemma_x]

Hey, im 17 and this is my first pregnancy and like you my mum and dad dont like my boyfriend because of the age difference, im 17 and he's 22 which i dont think is a big deal to be honest but like you im looking for someone to talk to, if you want to chat i have msn, just let me no if you want to chat.

Jemma..x