Anyone keeping LO a secret past the first scan?

[aimee-lou]

My hubby and I have always said that we would want to keep any future pregnancy to ourselves following some bad experiences with family during my first pregnancy with Earl. Now we have had our BFP we kind of feel like we should keep it to ourselves and we've said that we'll wait as long as we can and tell family and friends after christmas - we are due in May and I'll be 20+ weeks by the time they find out.

Anyone ese doing anything similar?

 

[Jackyx]

I'll be telling my family once i have the first scan but won't be telling anyone from work or work itself until December.

I'm hoping for propmotion this year which i am being put up for and i'm concerned telling them my news will affect it- it is really difficult to even get put up for promotion and i know a manager is another office had already said he doesn't see the point in putting me up- so i'm taking no risks with this and will not tell them til i know either way.

 

[keepontrying]

I have told my best friends and immediate family as I have a bit of a sad history with pregnancies - I wanted to see them smile and congratulate me rather than me break the news that we lost another one.
However I will not make it public knowledge till at least 14 weeks, and I have no idea when we will tell OH family - they really do not like me and have tried since we first met to meddle in our relationship - I do not think I could keep my mouth shut after the hell we are going through right now to try and make sure LO makes it through, if they were to say anything negative.
Plus my OH is shitting himself!!!!!

x Do what ever is right for you guys x

 

[littlecharli]

I have told my family today as I had my scan today and all was well xx I have told some close friends too... will wait till 12 weeks to tell everyone though... although I feel I already have! hahahaha

 

[future_numan]

We haven't told a soul ( except you girls) and don't plan till after the 13th week ( our family and friends) but I won't tell work till I am starting to really show so Dec maybe ??

 

[amyleigh89]

We have told a few clothes friends and family - only those that we would rely on for support if the worst was to happen.
Will probably tell others after the first scan although I have only just signed a new contract with work so may not tell them until my 20week scan - and I get the forms from the midwife. x

 

[Mid.night]

We have told our close family. We had our scan today and everything is fine but as we have had previous miscarriages I still don't feel like making it public knowledge. I suppose I will know when the time is right.

It's your news to tell so tell whenever you feel comfortable!

 

[emmaandbaby1]

My family and close friends know already (11 weeks) and will have to tell work and thus everyone else after 12 week scan as i am a support worker and with challenging behaviour it would be too risky but its definitely a personal thing regarding when to tell! I can only imagine how much more difficult it would be after a loss. x

 

[babyb54]

My hubby and I have always said that we would want to keep any future pregnancy to ourselves following some bad experiences with family during my first pregnancy with Earl. Now we have had our BFP we kind of feel like we should keep it to ourselves and we've said that we'll wait as long as we can and tell family and friends after christmas - we are due in May and I'll be 20+ weeks by the time they find out.

Anyone ese doing anything similar?

With this being your second, you may not be able to keep it secret the 20+ weeks you'd like. Just a heads up, of course. Even if you don't see family too often, if your friends catch on and someone posts on FB or in some other way the news gets to your family without it coming from you, you could have a sticky situation on your hands.

We told family at 7 weeks after my first scan, but I think every couple should tell whenever they're comfortable. Keep it a secret until 20+ weeks, or squeal right away.. whatever works for you!

 

[Mon_n_john]

For me, I won't tell my family or employer until I am at least 10 weeks along but I much rather be past the 1st trimester before I say anything.

 

[ceejie]

We are trying to keep it quiet as long as possible. In fact, I don't plan on telling my family til Christmas if I can wait that long (I probably won't see them until then). Only problem is I have to tell my work soon because my doctor wants me to go off on leave...but otherwise I don't plan on telling anyone til at least 3 months.

 

[momof2babies]

im not telling my family until 20w or until they start to notice im not even updating my tracker until 8 weeks I've had 3 early mc's so im trying not to get excited

 

[vickielm]

I have told my manager at work as i had to have time off for scans etc and i NEVER have time off work so they were guessing and dropping hints like "you shouldn't be doing that in your situation" haha...

We have still not told family or friends yet. We are planning to do that after the 12wk scan.

I have had to bite my lip sooooooooo many times as i have just wanted to blurt it out as i have been very snappy and short tempered with my mum and keep saying sorry, but only if i tell her i know she will understand.

Reason we are not telling anyone is because of a twin MMC Dec 2009 and i did not want family and friends to constantly be asking if i am ok, and how are things going..!

Personally i think it is down to the couple and circumstances

H N H 9M

 

[eulmh82]

It was my intention to keep it quiet until 16 wks or so but I couldn;t manage it. Most people now know at work but I'm not too bothered

 

[1liz9]

Our parents know and some close friends. Aside from that I will be waiting as long as possible. If that means 20 weeks that would be awesome. I am just worried something could go wrong. We have had a lot of good scans so no reason to worry but I still do.

Everyone is different. I understand the people who don't want to wait and I understand the people who do. You gotta do whats right for you.

 

[no drama mama]

We've told friends and family and my work knows but we're not telling DH's daughter until we're past the 12 week mark. His ex-wife will hit the roof and I need to stay away from that crazy for as long as possible.

 

[caseita]

We've told some family (sisters and parents) and a few close friends and I had to tell my supervisors at work because I'm not really allowed to do much as per Dr.s orders and somehow it got around the office which is frustrating! But I'm waiting to tell everyone else until 13ish weeks. Had two great scans though!!

 

[Mummy~L]

I would have found it hard to keep my second pregnancy a secret for 20 weeks. I started showing at about 16 weeks this time!! When I was pregnant with Bobby I didn't start to show until 28+ weeks

 

[PoodleMommy]

I have told my best friends and immediate family as I have a bit of a sad history with pregnancies - I wanted to see them smile and congratulate me rather than me break the news that we lost another one.
However I will not make it public knowledge till at least 14 weeks

My sentiments exactly!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[cowgirl21]

We're realllllllly trying to keep it a secret until 12wks except today I had a friend guess it. Her mother actually guessed it first but I pretended not to be able to understand what she was saying bc we were at a loud place. I told her to please lock that secret in, and I'm really hoping she does. We are in a crappy living situation and are currently staying with my parents and brother. They've noticed that I've been really sick (mostly ms) but I've been blaming it on an extended stomach flu, which I did have, and my allergies. I haven't been able to take my allergy pills so I'm miserable and it shows.
We're still *hoping* to keep it in to them until 12wks but its going to be SUPER hard as my sister is having a second child in a couple of weeks (and there is all kinds of shenanigans because she never wanted kids and doesn't take care of the one she has now). My sister-in-law is also due about 3 months before me. My parents' world is about to be rocked once they find out about our little one!!