Anyone not married...?

[MamaLa]

OH and I been together for years, and now that I'm expecting I've been getting thinking about marriage and how I would love a ring. Been watching "Say Yes To The Dress" and stopping to look at wedding rings. I've always loved the idea of getting a ring from him. But the urge has intensified since finding out about LO.

Anyone else?

 

[Wtbam]

I'm not married but he proposed on the day of the 12 week scan so I guess he felt the same as you lol!

 

[Sunseal]

I'm not married, but I am engaged. He proposed to me on my birthday in October just gone.
We were going to get married next summer, but now we have little one on the way, it will probably be the summer after that... (money pending!)

 

[proxy bump]

Im probably the odd duck here since SO and I are not married or planning to get married anytime soon. We've talked about it but we both feel if we rush now itd only be because of sweet pea and not because we truely wish too. Ive had people express their doubts and even say that we need to get married now. And I know they mean it in a friendly helping way, but its tiring explaining over and over.

 

[Gnomer]

OH and I aren't married. He proposed over a year after our son was born, but we are happy and didn't see the rush. I still wouldn't, however after losing my brother to cancer suddenly in October just gone, and finding out recently that my nanna has terminal cancer (and is seriously consider stopping treatment because it makes her ill, I want to be married as soon as. I couldn't imagine my nanna not being at my wedding.
Money is a different matter. We are comfortable, can afford to live well and treat ourselves, but we just don't have enough to spontaneously splash on a wedding especially with such a big family.

 

[kazine]

Not married but engaged. He proposed 6 days before finding out we were pregnant!

 

[salu_34]

OH and I are not married. Probably won't get married for a while now that there will be a little one. Doesn't bother me any !

 

[mammag]

I'm not married and don't want to be. Ever. I've been married twice, my first husband was killed on a motorcycle, my second had an affair that I ultimately could not forgive after 7 years of marriage, which turned into a nasty divorce, so, marriage is officially not my thing. I always joke that I'll marry him on my death bed so nothing can go wrong. Even though his parents always insist on telling everyone that we're getting married soon.

 

[Surprised26]

My OH and I live together,but have no current plans for marriage. All marriage is is an expensive piece of paper and maybe some insurance discounts, lol. Marriage doesn't make someone stay faithful, or be more committed. A lot of people have tried to shame me for getting pregnant out of wedlock. As a 26 year old whose had several long term relationships and this being my first child, I don't know why exactly people feel the need to act like you're some irresponsible sl*t for getting pregnant. (Not that having multiple children/being younger makes you that way! Just people will see what they want to no matter what the situation). It's no one's business and most of the time I find that these people are just trying to shove their religious views down my throat. Am I against marriage? Of course not, but I don't think that it should be a decision based on society's preference.

 

[RcdM]

We're not married. We've been together 5 years and been engaged for over 4 years, way before we had kids, but we just haven't got around to actually getting married lol. It's expensive and we'd much rather go on vacations or buy things for the house. I do want to get married eventually, in fact I'd love to, but it literally wouldn't change a thing other than having his last name. So we don't really have any urgency. I do have my engagement ring and I bought him a wedding band a while back that he wears too. I don't know if that's kind of silly but we don't care. Both of our babies were planned but I think everyone thinks they were accidents because we're not married, which I think is dumb. I know we did things a little backwards but it's worked for us and I have no issues with how things have gone.

 

[Carlyp1990]

I'm not married, been with oh for over 7 years and would love to get married one day but at the moment our money goes on our daughter xx

 

[HelenJane]

We're not married either. Been together 6 years. I see it as just a piece of paper but I have to say that since having our first, I do think about getting married. I think of us having the same surnames, wedding bands etc. Its weird because I never thought about it as much as I do now lol.
One day we probably will but there is no rush. I can't remember who said you should get married at the end of your lives together instead if at the beginning so its a celebration of your lives together. I cant remember thw exact wording, something like that but its a nice thought.

 

[MamaLa]

I'm glad to know I'm not alone. I guess I feel some pressure from how I was raised to be married. But then again I feel like it would feel so great to know he loves me enough to marry me, and I just want some jewelry lol!

 

[Sour_Skittle]

This is our third child... Together 7 and a half years and still not married lol. And honestly... I'm now to the point I'm not sure I care about marriage... Sure at one point I couldn't wait but now to me it's not really necessary. That money could be used for better things. Yes marriage is important... It's just symbolic to me. We know we love each other, why go through the stress and big bucks just to "make it official" I think 3 kids makes it just as official lol... Prob more expensive too...

 

[Bmama]

We're not married. We've been together 5 years and been engaged for over 4 years, way before we had kids, but we just haven't got around to actually getting married lol. It's expensive and we'd much rather go on vacations or buy things for the house. I do want to get married eventually, in fact I'd love to, but it literally wouldn't change a thing other than having his last name. So we don't really have any urgency. I do have my engagement ring and I bought him a wedding band a while back that he wears too. I don't know if that's kind of silly but we don't care. Both of our babies were planned but I think everyone thinks they were accidents because we're not married, which I think is dumb. I know we did things a little backwards but it's worked for us and I have no issues with how things have gone.

This was us during my first pregnancy. We ended up getting married a month ago and had a small courthouse ceremony. Traveling, buying a house, and saving for our kids colleges mean more to us than a huge wedding! But it is nice to finally call my DH "my husband" instead of "fiancé"

 

[Nanninoo]

Me and OH have been together for nearly 10 years and we aren't planning on getting married and to be honest I don't think we will we have talked about it but we don't see the point, we are happy and we have been together for so long and a piece of paper making it official and a ring will mean nothing more than what we already have we are happy and in love besides we can enjoy spending the money on other things than ridiculously expensive weddings

 

[littlefishygg]

Not married or engaged. I can tell my OH wants to propose and we talk a lot about when we are married, where our honeymoon will be, what kind of ring is my dream ring etc etc. I am looking forward to being engaged and I do feel that strangers are a bit funny about my lack of ring, but at the same time we had a discussion about not getting engaged whilst I am pregnant or right after the baby is born because we don't want the people we are close to to think that we have just gotten engaged because of the baby. We want us getting engaged to be a whole separate celebration of how happy and in love we are. If that makes sense.

But I am definitely with you on the dream of the wedding day thing haha, I have many a wedding pinterest board but I don't mind if we don't get married for 5-10 years because we have more important things to spend money on, but I am looking forward to being engaged very much

 

[MamaLa]

Not married or engaged. I can tell my OH wants to propose and we talk a lot about when we are married, where our honeymoon will be, what kind of ring is my dream ring etc etc. I am looking forward to being engaged and I do feel that strangers are a bit funny about my lack of ring, but at the same time we had a discussion about not getting engaged whilst I am pregnant or right after the baby is born because we don't want the people we are close to to think that we have just gotten engaged because of the baby. We want us getting engaged to be a whole separate celebration of how happy and in love we are. If that makes sense.

But I am definitely with you on the dream of the wedding day thing haha, I have many a wedding pinterest board but I don't mind if we don't get married for 5-10 years because we have more important things to spend money on, but I am looking forward to being engaged very much

I totally agree.

 

[newbie1992]

Me and my husband got married last Saturday after finding out I was pregnant in January it was top of our to-do list!

 

[MamaLa]

I'm just feeling the itch to get married.